Being let down by a friend WWYD

It is so difficult when it is friends isn't it?

How about letting her know that you would still like a chocolate cake and a carrot cake, one for each child like was discussed before, but see if there is some compromise on shape?

Couldn't you ask for two cakes still, but not the difficult shape? It is annoying, and I think it is important that two kids have two different cakes, but I wouldn't end a friendship over a shaped cake. I'm sure it will taste a lot nicer than one from Asda!

WSS

What shape is it that's proving so difficult?

RING her and discuss it. do not email.

Maybe she thought the cake shapes would be easier to make and didnt realise until she came to think about actually making tha cakes-if it is a new business then possibly just something she didnt think would be too hard?

I second what others have said- still ask for two different cakes but change the shapes. Even if she has to do two square cakes she could decorate them differently?

Not something which would be acceptable from an established company but not worth losing a friendship over ?

I'd tactfully remind your friend that you had asked for 2 different cakes so each twin has their own birthday day. I'm sure you must be able to reach some sort of compromise on the shape side of things? To be fair to your friend it does sound as though she's spent time and effort looking into ways to achieve what you were looking for and has offered an alternative rather than just saying 'no' i can't do you a cake at all. Try not to lose your temper with her as it would be such a shame to lose a friend over a cake but at the same time put your point across and see whether you can agree something. I'm sure her cake will taste much better than one bought in your supermarket too.

Don't forget she may well be feeling pretty bad for letting you down on the shape so close to the party.

It's not just that she can't do it but that she has left it so late to tell me

the shape were peppa & george pig ffs apparently the legs would be hard to do as they are thin and small

i have suggested different decorations rather than a shaped cake as i'm not going to get that now and no it's not worth loosing a friend over but am upset as it's my kids and i had my heart set on something a bit special and not just a cake with a picture on even if it will taste nicer than one bought from asda

nick, i have said i will call her in the morning to discuss am not in the right frame to talk to her tonight

I just searched on google images for peppa pig cake and there are loads of examples, I dont know if you have already done this but she could have a look?

http://images.google.co.uk/images?hl=en&q=peppa%20pig%20cake&um=1&ie=UTF-8&sa=N&tab=wi

I can totally understand why you are so annoyed.

And FWIW, she's clearly not as good as she thinks she is if she can't come up with a couple of pig cakes. I'm afraid she'll have to be a damn sight better than that if she is doing this as a business!

Are you near any of our extraordinary Hitched cake bakers? You're not in Aberdeen are you?

I can totally understand why you are so annoyed.

And FWIW, she's clearly not as good as she thinks she is if she can't come up with a couple of pig cakes. I'm afraid she'll have to be a damn sight better than that if she is doing this as a business!

Are you near any of our extraordinary Hitched cake bakers? You're not in Aberdeen are you?

Where are you? If you are in the midlands I'd be happy to help

WZebraS

They don't look that hard, especially for a professional. The legs could just be made from icing - they don't need to be cake! They're only stringy little legs, ffs!

I'd email this as an attachment:

http://www.chocolateyclares.co.uk/communities/8/004/006/218/518/images/4520648363.swf

Can grown-ups have these for their birthdays?

Thanks for all the replies and the offers of help. We're in Herts so nowhere near Glasgow or the Midlands. I think at the end of the day she didn't leave herself enough time to do it as I've seen other cakes she's made and know she can technically do it and if you guys can come up with pages of suggestions from the net then I'm sure she could have easily found these if she'd looked a few weeks back.

I'm not going to loose the friendship over it, it's not worth it but maybe next year I'll get someone else to do their cakes