Being made to defend my budget

I don't and won't discuss how much we're spending with anyone. Fortunatley my friends aren't rude enough to ask either. People wouldn't dream of asking someone who has a budget of £3000 why they are spending so little. I think it's just as rude to quiz someone on why they are spending larger amounts of money. Tell them to piss off ?

Don't worry about it :-) I'm sure that they will all find it very amusing until the time comes for them to pay for their wedding and they see the cost of everything! :-) I've been a bridesmaid a few times and thought that my friends were stressing over things and paying too much for things until it came to my turn to do the stressing and paying! I think it also depends on the kind of wedding you want to achieve, some people are very happy to just go to the registry office followed by a nice dinner which is great, if that's what you want, but if it's not then you have to do what you feel is right to get the wedding you want (within reason of course - we don't want to go robbing banks lol :-) ). Yes, it is a deposit to put down on a house but at the end of the day when you're a lot older I bet you will have no regrets about spending the money to get the day you and you H2B want and you would rather look back with fond memories than wish you had spent a little more. I'm on a budget myself but I have still had people be shocked at how much things cost but at the end of the day when it's their turn they can have the day that they want but for now it's your day so as long as whoever is paying for the wedding is happy with your plans then I wouldn't worry about it, and I'm sure that on the day your uni friends will be the first ones to come up to you and say how amazing they think everything looks!

Have a great day and happy planning!

P.S. I find a good chick flick helps when I've had a bad day :-)

I agree with CD!! Tell them to p!ss off!

Jen try not to be upset and just ignore them. I think spending £20k on a wedding is madness but then we obviously want different days so no one can put a price on their own wedding day until they are actually planning it and there isn't a right or wrong. If we all wanted to same things then life would be very boring. Sometimes I feel I need to justify spending £6k on a wedding so don't worry people can be judgemental whatever your budget.

I'm sure people thought I was stupid when I was 20 years old and spending £15k on a sports car whilst they were saving all their pennies for their future. At the time I just thought 'ha you are jealous' and tbh they were because people then started to say they wish they had nice cars and wish they had the money to spend on a car. So anyway some people will always judge when they don't always agree with something and I'm sure a few will be jealous you have £20k to spend on a wedding. Just enjoy the fact you are able to have the day you want and stuff the nosey parkers!

It's your wedding and your money, you do what you want and don;t worry about what anyone else thinks. I did set a budget of £10k and I have gone over that already and still have things to sort out, personally I think £20k is reasonable, it's not as if you will be getting married every year! ?

Hi

I think it is totally up to you what you spend on your wedding, people are entitled to say they may do things a little differently, but thats it.

I wonder whether any of your friends are in a serious realtionship or near marriage themselves, its probably just a lack of understanding in the importance you place on it being a special day for you both, it doesn't sound like your budget is too lavish either. We all know the price tag on the big spend items like venues etc..

Your budget sounds really realistic, I wouldn't worry they are probably just jealous! arse to them! Cat x

Hi

Tell them to naff off - none of their bleedin business. Each couple should spend what they want to/can on whatever kind of wedding they want to have.

If you think about it, £20k is cheap if you're working on how much per day for the rest of your life Thats how I justify new shoes anyway!

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Hey

i have been having to deal with the same thing, so far we have found that what we have planned fro will be in the region of £40k, not including our honey moon. I don't think it is anyone else's business and if you want to spend YOUR money then why should anyone judge you.

we work hard for our money and i am sure our friends won't be complaining when they are sipping the champagne and the food we are paying for. So ignore them and if they ask about money again tell them you don;t want to discuss it.

Thank you guys! I'm so glad you understand!

I know that what we are planning isn't what everyone would want but it's not like we're doing a Katie and Peter! ? When one of my friends said 'When I get married I'll just go to a registry office and then go for a meal' if I'd have said 'Oh my God, are you kidding? How are you spending so little? What a waste of the best day of your life' (not my thoughts btw, just an example), I'd have been killed! And yet they're allowed to say the opposite to me! Grrrrr!

Nrjaw- I can't wait to see pics of your wedding, I imagine it will be spectacular! And you are totally right- you work hard for your money so why on earth shouldn't you have the day of your dreams!

MrsCrofttobe- The way I justify shoes is by telling myself that, if a pair of shoes is £50, it's technically only £25 per shoe! And say I only wear the shoes 25 times, it's only £1 per shoe per wear! Anything more than that an they practically pay for themselves! Not sure I can apply quite the same logic to our wedding- your logic works better for weddings! ?

I'm guessing that if you were discussing this at uni, your friends might be students? In which case 20k must seem like an awful lot of money to spend on one day and so their responses were perhaps surprise if they've never been involved in a wedding, but if they are also worrying about money on a daily basis and have huge debts then of course that sort of money seems silly to spend on a wedding...

But, it's your day and your money so I'd just try and shrug it off, and not discuss the finance of it in front of them ?

Haha, yeah, not only are they students but they're social work students! ?