Best man dilemma

theres no rule to say you HAVE to have one, but if i went to a wedding where there was no best man, i might think it look a bit 'odd', esp if the bride has a bridesmaid !!

have you or the bride got any brothers?

Yes she has 2 brothers but I don't and most of my friends are female. Her daughter is the only bridesmaid and it was her husband I wanted as best man so he is going to be on top table anyway. Not bothered about hsi speech and my 2 nephews can bring the rings up but would be nice to have some support, particularly the night before as B2B is staying at the venue.

Could you have a best woman if your main friends are women, some brides have bridesmen instead of bridesmaids i do think you should have some support though my oh would be so nervous up there on his own x

Hi Chelle

Yes that is an idea. Am not worried about being nervous have organised the whole wedding lol. Problem might be seating arrangements as you would normally have the best woman on the top table but then her hubby wouldn't be.

Tricky business this wedding lark x

I don't see what the seating arrangements would be a problem - my BM will be sitting apart from her husband. I think when people are in the bridal party it's understood that couples may have to be separated.

I totally think you should go for a best woman. You've identified good reasons for wanting to have someone in that role. And you haven't even mentioned the stag!!

Stag not a problem as we are having a hag do instead. Hiring a whole cinema screen and getting them to show Mamma Mia so we can all get dressed up lol.

Will have a rethink on seating and best woman thing tho thanks x

Mmmm because my bm and best man have kids and their other halves would be alone i will have them hosting their own table just an idea for you to mull over on top table will be me and oh our 4 children both sets of parents and my grandparents all 8 mini's plus adult bm and her oh and best man and his wife will host own table meaning they can all be together and those making speeches still feel supported hth x

I never had a best man. Don't worry about it

We have a female best person and a Man of Honour - I think the roles are a bit more relaxed these days. But go with whoever you think will best fulfil the role.

I think best woman is a fab idea too, just think of who you would like to be by your side on the run up to and on the morning of your wedding (apart from your OH of course!)

My hubby's best man couldn't make it to our wedding because it was abroad and he's scared of flying, so my hubby had the support of my sister's bf. He stayed with him the night before, kept him calm, went for breakfast together etc. he was an absolute god send! You could ask your 'best man' again is he just doesn't mind doing those few important bits for you but doesn't have the pressure of the speech if you're not too bothered about that?

Hi Frugal

Yes makes a lot of sense as his wife will be spending the night with B2B at the venue. Off to bournemouth this weekend to visit them so will perhaps have another chat on the golf course.

Thanks oh and like the pic by the way lol