Bestman

I think you've answered your own question. Have them both. It sounds like that way you'll have a good balance and won't have as many stag related worries!! LOL My OH is having his two sons as best men. They couldn't be more different but they make up one perfect best man when you put them together.

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I don't normally understand the logic behind having two best men but your situation sounds ideal for it- so long as they are both happy and more importantly you are happy!

No doubt they will both want to do their upmost for you so I am sure it will be fine!

Lots of people have 2 best men nowadays, so if you can't decide why not have both.

Each can take on different roles and you'll probably feel more relaxed knowing that you've got both areas covered ?

If I was in your position I'd choose the one with the gift of the gab.

The other guy who isn't great at speeches could stink up your wedding for half an hour if you're not careful. There's nothing more cringeworthy than watching someone speak publicly when you can clearly see that they're very uncomfortable doing it. Everyone in the room feels tense and awkward, the jokes don't come off and the whole thing is embarrassing for all concerned.

Use number two but tell him to go easy on the stag do budget. In the current climate everyone is feeling the pinch so he won't be surprised when you tell him to keep the stag do at an affordable price.

The other thing you could do is give the responsibility of the stag do to Best man number one and let Best man number two make the speech. That way the responsibility is split and no-one feels left out.

Hope that helps.

Thanks for your thoughts guys.

I'm a bit late to the party, but have both

My OH had a similar predicament - 1 of them knows him inside out and they are like children together. The other is a total gentleman who is a great people person.

Both are best men (however the 2nd one has the official title of 'chief of awesome')

Definitely choose both- their strengths will complement each other... also we find 1 in every 2 weddings we photograph nowadays features more than 1 best man, so its not at all unusual.. good luck!

Matt at Foden Photography

Definitely both. Never new you could actually do that but sounds like a good idea.

I agree with the majority. Have both!

Im gonna disagree with most people here. I think you should go with the guy who is like a brother you never had. This is obviously your 'best man'. There are many ways to give a speech even if you are nervous (Ill shamelessly recommend my rhyming speeches at this point! - www.rhymingspeeches.com/bestmanspeech ). Ive seen many nervous best men get an amazing reception to their speech - they just need to appreciate that they dont have the ability to do something 'normal' with the 'normal' sort of jokes.....but thats not such a bad thing!

My opinion is you should choose who you want most.

Radical suggestion here, but have you spoken to them? My other half has two best mates, asked them who fancied it - one said he'd be honoured, the other said he couldn't think of anything worse than having to stand up and address a room full of people who were expecting him to be funny.

It might be the idea of hell on earth for one of them. Problem solved.

My OH's Best Friend had 4 best men! They all knew each other and had been through many things together and he drew on each of their strengths to sort things (ie one organised one stag weekend, the other organised another. One looked after the guests and the rings on the day and the other did the main speech). It all worked really well

I think you should first talk to the both of them and see how they feel. If they both want to split the responsibility then have the both be the best man. If one is not up for it than have the other one be the best man.