Hi everyone,
I hope you can help me.
i have 5 bridesmaids, they are all friends from uni and I have known for years I would have these girls.
i have organised the accommodation for my hen do and have got a cottage in Derbyshire for £70 each. I think this is really reasonable. I have been trying to keep costs low as I know it's an e pensive time for everyone. I organised this in October.
i have received monies from everyone but one bridesmaid, let's call her Becky. I have chased Becky for it for a number of months and this week she called me to say she could not afford it. I was really understanding and said it was ok, I understand she couldn't afford it and it was fine.
After thinking about it I'm not sure it is fine. She has recently been to a big gig and it going to another in April. She said someone had paid for her recent one for her, but this would have been between £70-100. And then she goes out drinking quite a bit and it going on holiday in April.
in perspective it would have cost her £3 pw to save for my hen do. Now I am left £70 out of pocket and with a bridesmaid I am going to see once between now and my wedding.
probably because of this she has been ignoring any wedding related chat and ignoring all the other bridesmaids about it.
i have probably missed loads of detail out so please ask if you want to know more. I have been losing sleep over this and it has seriously upset me. Everyone I know including parents, fiancé and other bridesmaids think I should tell her she can no longer be a bm.
I don't want to lose her friendship and I don't know what to do. Help please!