So i posted earlier about my mum and sister being a pain over the bm dresses. Well after a chat with my mum I am fed up and just wanna elope!!
I've always dreamed of a church wedding, I was bought up religious and my mum is a 'catholic' (I use the word lightly as she doesn't go to church and doesn't follow the bible!). The first thing we did when getting engaged was book the church. But all my mum keeps going on about is 'you can't wear that in a church' about my dress and my bm dresses and accessories etc. It's doing my head in. I am not planning to wear a slutty dress and I don't want my bridesmaids too either I want everyone to look lovely not sexy! But I also don't want my bridesmaids to look like they just stepped out of a convent. I've never been to a church wedding where everyones been covered up but my mum doesn't seem to understand that I chose a strapless dress cos that's what suited me! sleeves looked awful!
Also she offered to pay for my 3 sisters bm dresses which I was so grateful for but now she is being very tight! I have been looking at dresses on ebay for around £40 each and she says thats too much! she has been sending me links to £10 dresses, thats fine but ive bought that kind of dress before and now how *** the quality is. If she can't afford ti pay for them then I am happy to do so but I don't think that's the problem, she keeps saying there's no point in me spending a fortune on a dress they are going to wear for a few hours. Well generally bm dresses ar £100+ so I think £40 is a pretty modest budget!!!
I really don't wanna fall out with her but she is making me feel guilty over my own wedding and I am getting sick of it! I know we are not a rich family and my parents never had the money when I was younger to send us on school trips or buy us fashionable clothes which has never bothered me. But now they have paid off their mortgage and keep saying how well off they are...I have scrimped and saved for EVERYTHING and never got into debt or even used a credit card! I have saved up loads for my day and really wanna have what I want for once, does that sound really spoilt? I just feel like she is putting a dampner on it all
Rant over xx