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Aw, what a horrible time of year to break up! I hope that at least some of them can get back together, although I guess there is always a reason for doing it in the first place. As for your invites, that is a difficult one. Are any of the splits amicable? If so, then it shouldn't be a problem to invite both sides and just don't sit them at the same table! If they are in that "I never want to see you again" stage, then you have some decisions to make. Personally, if I was friends with both sides equally, I would want to invite both sides and give them plenty of warning that the other person will be there (without a new partner. For one, it hurts a lot, and two, I wouldn't want to be shelling out a lot of money to feed a person I barely know). It is then their choice if they want to go.

Very good advice, i know one is definately amicable but the others are sill very angry, i know one has left his family (later found out it was for another woman who also has kids)saying he wanted to be free whatever that means, frying pan into fire springs to mind and although i do not condone his behaviour nor does oh, he is one of oh's oldest mates and we really wanted him there only prob is he is married to oh's 2nd cousin so could cause huge family row, i think i just need to hope the dust settles and see how it is in a month, if things are really bad between them then i think our loyaltiies may be tested thank you for your advice xx

That is awful. I hope it all works out!

If i was genuine friends with both of them and equally... i would invite both of them and let them sort it out...they either decide they can both do 1 day for the sake of you and your OH or you may end up with 1 or both not coming....so if you pick this option (to invite both) then would you be ok if they both said they didn't want to come? it's up to them to decide if they can cope in the same room or not for one day, you can't be worrying about 5 different couples!

on the other hand if i was friends with one of them purely through them being a couple i might just invite the original friend if that makes sense?

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If you do invite a couple you know equally well, ask them personally if they'd prefer to be on different tables or are happy to sit together. I automatically put a divorced couple on different tables, but one partner decided not to come at all to avoid conflict. I wouldn't invite new partners unless you have met them a few times & can afford the space at the venue & extra money to include them.

Thats a tricky situation indeed!

Oh no, that is awful. How annoying. I agree with these other ladies. Invite them seperately. No new partners and let them decide if they can bare to be in the same room together and hope they are grown up enough to last the day. Good luck hun!

I would invite both partners individually but whatever you do DON'T give them a plus one. If any of the breakups were bitter, one may take a new partner to upset the other and you don't want your wedding turned into an episode of Jeremy Kyle!! x

This made me laugh!! (But I hope it doesn't turn into one)

I would invite all parties, but tell them that their former other halfs will be there, and ask them to remember that if they do have problems still with eah other, can they leave them at the door as it is a day to celebrate you. You never know, the dust could settle in a few months and they may even end up getting back together.

I hope it turns out for the best!