Bit of a rude personal one.........

I remember somebody posting a while back saying that a good way to gauge if the deed will be done on the night is whether, after a night out, you just crash out or you have sex as it will more than likely follow the trend.

This made me realise we would prob both be snoozing after a couple of minutes haha!!

If it happens it happens if not there is always the morning. ?

Deff wont be leaving early for it though.

I doubt we will although OH will tell you different! Theres been previous threads about this and whilst there are some OM's who did manage it, plenty of OM's actually said that they didn't consumate till the following morning. I think especially if you've lived together for a while or dtd already then it's not such a big deal whereas if you're more of a traditionalist and it's genuinly the first time then you want to.

If you really want to do it on your wedding day but worried about being too tired at the end, is anything stopping you slipping away for some private time during the day?!

My view is that our wedding day is the start of the rest of our lives so theres no rush so why pressure ourselves!

We managed it.

We were both shattered and it was the early hours of the morning but it was good. I'm glad we made the effort but the following morning's efforts were much better!

If you've got the stamina and inclination, I'd say go for it but don't get too hung up on it.

haha glad it was good

In the past speaking to a couple of friends they told me that on their wedding night they were way too tired and too drunk to play.

But they've also said that the work up early to a very sexy morning ;-)

For starters I Can only hope I wake at 8, I'm planning on knocking myself out with some night nurse the night before else I won't sleep and will look and feel horrific!

As for the wedding night, my oh wants to impose a sex ban a few weeks before ? my honest feeling is that I'll be too concerned about getting to sleep and feeling good the next day! But we're going on a mini honeymoon the next day for 2 nights child free to a luxury spa hotel so that is our back up lol.

Hi,

Not sure I'll get much choice in this ;o)

Though 8 am start sounds like a luxury - my H&MUA is talking about a 6.30am start - seemed agreat idea tio have an early ceremonmy till I realised the time I would have to get up!

It CAN, but it doesn't HAVE to, if you see what I mean!

We managed it despite my not having slept at all the night before, and a wedding which started at 12pm and lasted until gone 12am. I guess the adrenaline and excitement just kept us going! I'm glad we did, it was very special, although would probably have been just as special if it hadn't been until the morning!

Also you may find you don't eat all the food... a lot of brides say they don't actually eat a lot on their wedding day. I did though!

We did...the OH was quite keen to enjoy our first night. We were both absolutely shattered - I had no sleep the night before and only 4 hours the night before that but I think I was running on adrenaline. I almost killed the moment by saying just before hand "Hmmmmm I wonder how many people have consummated their marriage in this bed" - the OH was not impressed!!! I think you should just go with the flow...and if it happens, billy bonus, if not, have a kiss and a cuddle, and drift off to the land of nod with a big fat smile on your face because married life has only just begun x

If we're going by how things go when we've been on a night out, then I'm not holding out much hope. I'm guessing OH will be passed out on the bed after 10 minutes like he is after a few drinkies.

To be honest, I'd rather wait until the next day. I much prefer sober 'relations'!

My OH has already said we're 'escaping the party' for a while - we are staying in the hotel and I don't think it's any secret to anyone (apart from older family members) that we're a bit saucy haha he did live with parents 50 miles away for the first 4 months of our relationship (they were probably glad when he came and moved in with me!!)

We've both agreed that if it doesn't happen on the wedding night then there's always the next morning or the following night. We have specifically booked ourselves into a very posh hotel in the next town along from where our parents live so we can have a bit of privacy and time alone together on the sunday night/monday morning following the wedding (which is on the saturday)

I tend to just conk out if i drink. I don't mind just snuggling together in bed if we're too tired

I'm expecting no more than a drunken fumble! Maybe TMI , but on a normal night out, if I've drunk a lot, I lose all sensation and don't really enjoy it anyway, so I'd rather keep it til morning and do a good job of it!

My friend told me she really enjoyed it when they got back to the room as they had a chance to really talk about all that had happened, and they had some snacks waiting for them. I kinda like that idea as I know however much we try it won't feel like we have really talked during the day.

I am not pinning anything on the night, not a clue how I will feel at the end of the night.

Im just gonna go with the flow!! depends how drunk he is lol

I dont think it can be 'planned' as such,kinda just have to go with the flow. we were both extremeley drunk the wedding started at 1 and we were still partying into the early hours, but suprisingly when we got back to the room we both sobered up and had an amazing night, we did the deed haha and then just chatted for hours about our wedding was lovely

If the OH drinks to much I can imagine he will lie on the bed and start snooring! Just hope he helps me out of my dress first as I may have to change my dress to a corset back!

CBM and I had a good laugh about this and agreed that we will proberbly be going to breakfast in the morning in our dresses still ! Also depends if my little one sleeps in the hotel ok, if not we may have company anyway!