BM probs

Well not to put to fine a point on it she should have gone in the first place, as you say you only have 11 weeks to arrange it and I am assuming the BM that will look 'ridiculous in it' likes the dress?
I would not bother getting upset about it really. She doesnt like the dress, so what (not meant in a nasty way to you BTW) I mean she only has to wear it for one day.

I don't think you're being touchy. If she didn't like the dress then she should have made more of an effort to get together with you and the other bridesmaids to start with to pick something that she would like.

It's only 1 day, surely she can put up with it for a few hours.

I think it looks a nice dress btw

She didn't come on Saturday as she was not asked until Sat night - basically because she had gone mad that we have booked a wedding to take place two months after hers(which she booked 6 weeks ago). I had to sort the dresses Saturday gone when people could make it because of work commitments - next Sat cutting it too fine. So I asked her when she had seemed to get over her strop, she said yes. So wshe ent along today, and now this.
Don't really know what top think.

quote:Originally posted by SarahFairy
She didn't come on Saturday as she was not asked until Sat night - basically because she had gone mad that we have booked a wedding to take place two months after hers(which she booked 6 weeks ago). id="red"> I had to sort the dresses Saturday gone when people could make it because of work commitments - next Sat cutting it too fine. So I asked her when she had seemed to get over her strop, she said yes. So wshe ent along today, and now this.
Don't really know what top think.

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I think she may be overreacting herself, I mean you are booked AFETR her so I really dont see her problem? ah dont fret over it hun, Its what you and OH want and you will get lots of support on here, even if she is being a bit of a ? about it all. Maybe you should have it out with her? ask her outright what her problem is

for you anyways ?

Arrghhh! How annoying for you hun! I hate ho people can be so two-faced! I think you should tell her that you know she has problems with the dress and would rather she say to you than talk about it behind your back to others! Don't get upset about it, it's ultimately how you feel you're bm's will look in the dresses not how they think each other look. Is the one that will look "ridiculous" happy with the dress?

ps. I really like the dress!

Tell her to just get over it! If she wants to support you and her brother and be there for you as a bridesmaid should, she should be willing to wear a potato sack or a hideous 1980's Laura Ashley style curtain if thats what you want.

Do you think there may be a hint of jealousy that she'll no longer be a bride, just a dull married person????

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Other bm went today and it was too short. I phoned manufacturer who said will be able to order with extra length. But when I phoned shop they said she hadn't liked the style. Asked her, and she said it was OK but not her first choice.id="red"> I then spoke to my fiance (her brother) and she had said to him that one of the other bridesmaids will look ridiculous in it.

Am I being touchy to be upset?

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She didn't say she hated it to you so and she doesn't know that the shop have told you she didn't like it, maybe she said to them she liked something else better you won't ever really know. I think "it was ok" is enough to just go with and ignore what she said to the shop and what she said to your H2B, not everyone is going to like the same dress best.

I think that is a lovely dress BTW are you having that colour.

Thanks everyone

It'a not in that colour, I'm having it in misty pink. Apparently it's the bow on the back that she doesn't like.

Back shot here:

http://www.bestforbride.com/viewDress/247/Jasmine/Bridesmaids.php

The problem is, now she's said about it, I'm wondering about the bow. What do you all think?

Sarah x

I like the bow

Me too, I like it.
You liked to dress too so dont second guess yourself

I fully expected to hate the bow but I think it looks really pretty.

Personally, I like the bow. But I can see that someone with a larger rear might be wary of it.

Not saying that your BM has a big bum! [:I]?

The dress is lovely. Tell her to keep 'stum' - it'd your day not hers. Besides the bow is on the back so she won't see it all day...!! Best of luck!

I personally like the bow too, and to be honest, (right or wrong) my attitude is...my wedding, I'm paying, wear what you are given! I think its lovely, I'm sure many of you, like me were made to wear something hideous as child bridesmaids during the 80s/early 90's ?

Thanks girls!

Made me feel so much better. x I have been stressing over this all day, H2B away on business tonight and DS been teething all day!

LittleStar - that made me chuckle! Thankfully, she doesn't have a large rear! ?

Sarah x

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I'm sure many of you, like me were made to wear something hideous as child bridesmaids during the 80s/early 90's ?

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You're dead right there but try the 70s ? ! Some of the polyester creations I had to wear. Firecrews on permenant standby at our church, I can tell you ?.

I can understand why you're a bit miffed but I don't think it's anything to be upset over. She's not refusing to wear it she's just saying she's not that keen. I'd shrug it off if you can.