Breaking traditions?

I think we're breaking more than we're keeping! ?

Dad isn't walking me up the aisle, the kids are.

No father/daughter dance although I am sure I will dance with my dad at some point

No gift list.

Reception on a different day to the wedding.

No wedding cars.

No real flowers.

Egg-free sponge wedding cake, not fruit cake.

No tails, waistcoats or grey suits for the fellas - burgundy teddy boys!!

No gifts from us - its a budget wedding, there will be thanks but no gifts.

No church lol

Will that do? I'm sure there's more!!

No gift list

Mom is walking me down the aisle

Bridesmaid is my married sister

No real flowers

Buffet food not sit down meal

No recieving line... too long winded and cant be bothered with it

Im doing a speech. Special people I wanna thank myself

No honeymoon.... until we can afford it

Cupcakes not traditional wedding cake

So far (we are probably yet to come across more traditions..) we are breaking:

FSIL is not my bridesmaid (that was news to me a couple weeks ago that she had to be)!

Our parents won't be at the top table, they will be hosting their own as they are all remarried

I won't have something old, new, borrowed and blue

No gift list

No wedding cars

Erm... we have a child born out of wedlock...?!?

Things we are keeping:

Daddy & daughter dance

Dad is giving me away

We have a first dance

H2B and I spending the night before the wedding apart

That's it so far!

I think there are too many to mention! For starters:

No reception (at least not on the day)

No being walked down the aisle (actually there is no aisle!)

No Bridesmaids/groomsmen

No guests ?

No engagement ring

No hen/stag do's

We ARE keeping:

Wedding dress/suit for OH (think I will change tho into skirt and top later)

Photographer

Wedding rings

Something old, new, borrowed, blue

Honeymoon

No First Dance (much to the disgust of everyone i have spoken to!)

No Proper Cake, we are having one made of cheese instead.

No cars.

Can't think of anything else but I'm sure there are probably a few others.

So far:

No wedding cars

No flowers

No gift list

No fruit cake

No old, new, borrowed or blue

No wedding march music

No colour scheme or theme and I'll be doing my own speech!

All sounds rather dull doesn't it, but it won't be!

I'm not having a father daughter dance or a guest list either.

We are not having a formal dinner or a seating plan and so far I have nothing blue

Almost everything...no big white dress, no being given away, no reception on the day, no cars, no hen or stag do, no bridesmaids or best man. Oh and no telling people who aren't invited!

Same for us.

The one that always seems to shock/appall people the most though is the fact that we aren't having wedding rings at all.

"What kind of wedding is this!?" is my favourite response so far ?

Sounds like us! Apart from l have an engagement ring.

At our wedding party we are having sponge (neither of us like fruitcake) and no speeches -lots of people are confused by this.

"What kind of wedding is this!?" Brilliant! ??

We are having rings but OH has an engagement ring as well, so breaking tradition there. People are always surprised when he tells them he has an engagement ring too.

I thought that i was breaking a lot of traditions, but when thinking about it am keeping more than i actually thought lol!!

Things that are untradtional -

No cars,

2 best men

Mum giving me away

No receiving line

FSIL is not bridesdmaid

No honeymoon

No father/daughter dance (in fact he isn't invited lol)

just us, parents and step daughters on top table (I think 0 still not 100% lol)

Things we are keeping though are:

Borrowed, blue, old, new

Spending the night before apart

1st dance (much to OH's horror lol)

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I thought we were being fairly traditional, but on thinking about it:

No first dance

No father daughter dance

No ceilidh (le horreur, it being a Scottish wedding!)

I'm making a speech

mixed sex ushers

no garter (I'm not totally sure of this being a tradition!)

no morning dress for the boys

a cake shaped like a ship

We seem to be keeping a lot more traditions than I thought we were too!

Traditions we're breaking:

Future SIL not bridesmaid (I wasn't aware of this one either!)

Only bridesmaid is my married sister

Cutting the cake in the evening rather than after the speeches

Sponge cake instead of fruit

No garter, no veil

No gift list

Marrying at the venue - no cars

Not tossing the bouquet

What we're keeping:

Dad walking me down the aisle

Spending the night before apart

First dance

Favours

Speeches

...and probably a lot more that I can't think of at the moment!

No cars

One adult bm is married,one is divorced...both are mothers...my fsil is not a bridesmaid

no receiving line

no father daughter dance

no top table

I am not being given away....unsure yet about what role I want my dad to play.

no speeches

we already have a son and I also have 2 daughters

no church

we are paying for the wedding ourselves

no ushers

no bouquet toss

no garter

no strippers at stag or hen do.

I have pearls aplenty. ...fake but still unlucly according to my bm.

traditions we are keeping:

Cake. ..his insistence. Tho it will be sponge

spending the night before the wedding apart...him again

First dance...yes thats his fault too

old, new,borrowed,blue

wedding dress

I may wear my veil over my face...I know very few people do it now but its the one tradition I really think I may like to keep.

hubby will be csrrying me over the threshold.

Wedding rings

Love this!

Non-traditional:

Brother is giving me away (Dad not invited)

FSILs are not bridesmaids although niece is and nephews are ushers

No father/daughter dance instead there will be a FIL/me dance!

Will be staying together the night before (I'll probably be too stressed to sleep without H2B)

Getting married in a hotel and not local church

Traditional:

Everything else! Right down to the Chimney Sweep!!

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Our wedding is reasonably traditional, considering it is 2nd time round for me. The traditional bits that are missing are largely because my Dad died a few years back so walking down the aisle and being given away etc are being changed. But oh what I would give to be able to have those traditional elements in there!!

I do, however feel very strongly that people should do what they want to do....not just because they feel that they should do things a secific way.

No church for us as me and OH are not religous and it just doesnt seem right for us.

No father and daughter dance as my dad passed away in 2007

My uncle (dads brother) is giving me away

No cars (me and mum staying in venue night before)

No honeymoon till 5 months after

Top table is going to be obv me and oh, MOB,FOG and then grooms uncle and aunty and brides aunty and uncle (Like i said previously my dad passed away in 2007 and my OH parents divorced and he doesnt speak to his mum anymore.

Is it actually a tradition to have your future sister in law as a bridesmaid? I'd never heard of this one before this thread.

Our wedding is quite traditional except:

• I will see HTB on morning of wedding as we are having a big breakfast for friends and family;
• No wedding cars;
• Dad walking me down aisle but not giving me away;
• Best man not making a speech.

Black handfasting dress instead of a wedding dress

no real flowers

sisters are not bridesmaids

having the breakfast at Pizza Express

not having a gift list

not having a honeymoon

Mum's partner walking me up aisle.

Bridesmaids are not sisters

No cars - marrying at venue.

No fruit cake.

No formal speeches.

No receiving line.

No ushers etc. Having BM but he isnt really doing much lol.

Probably other stuff too. Liking this post especially being a bit stressed about my wedding at the moment x

I'm another 'breaking more than keeping':

• Spending the night before together.
• Travelling to wedding together.
• No special car.
• No processional.
• I'm not being given away.
• No music.
• No readings.
• 14 year old best man.
• No maid of honour.
• 4 witnesses.
• No old, new, borrowed or blue.
• No confetti.
• Wedding breakfast will be lunch for 8 at the pub around the corner.
• Reception will be two days later.
• No favours.
• No speeches.
• No first or father/daughter dance.
• No cake.
• No thank yous.
• No gift list.
• No seating plan.

Can't think of anything else...

Wow I think it's pretty awesome that so many people are breaking tradition and doing what they wanna do
Really not feeling te love for fruit cake! Lol, I'm not having it and sounds like most of the brides to be on here aren't either

This is a great thread!

But since when was the Dad/daughter dance a tradition?! I've never heard of it!! When do they do it?

We're keeping a lot of traditions. The ones we aren't are:

No veil covering the face

No sit down meal

No seating plan (no point without a sit down meal)

No fruit cake (having sponge, raspberry and white chocolate and red velvet instead)

No church

H2B is having a car, as are the bridesmaids, but my brother is driving me and my dad

No receiving line

I will be at home the night before and H2B will be staying at his sons

Dad and step-mum are staying the night before rather than my mum (but only because she is local and Dad is traveling so staying with me for the week before)

No gifts for bridal party (probably!)

We're breaking a few traditions :

No veil covering my face,

No father & daughter dance,

No top table - the one big table and everyones sitting randomly,

No fruit cake,

No ushers / flower girl,

No bouquet toss or garter throw

Probably a few more that I can't think of right now...

Keeping a few like something borrows something blue etc, won't be spending the night before with OH and have bought my Mum and bridesmaids a lucky sixpence haha.