bride to be going insane!!!

Similar situation myself, my parents divorced and both in new relationships, but thankfully they actually tolerate each other, and we aren't inviting any of the step families apart from the parent and their partner (and two children on one side) so there's no problem really.

I've never grasped the concept of seating plans anyway - why can't people just sit where they like? Apart from the top table, all other tables are equal as far as I'm concerned so it's not a case of favouritism or priority.

I'd suggest threatening to unplugg the xbox in 15 minutes if he hasn't finished what he's doing, as it's really something you need to do together unless you know for sure that Uncle Jim won't share a table with Aunty Maureen, and ever since that incident at the last wedding you daren't put Great Aunt Lucy anywhere near the bar...

Haha thats cheered me up.. I suppose ur right.. i mean they can tolerate each other and i dont exoect and fistycuffs .. but it would just be chaos as there are so many tables and so many people I think ill ask my mum.. mums always seem to know best lol

One tip I did see that you might like to think about to make it less painful.

Draw out your table plans and each place on a big sheet of paper - or the back of some spare wallpaper - or one sheet per table.

Write everyone's names on post-it notes.

Then you can shuffle people around the tables as much as you like without making a mess of your plan, then when finalised just transcribe it to a more permanent arrangement - or leave it 'as is' and put somewhere safe in case you need to reshuffle names if people drop out through illness or whatever over the next 7 months or so.

I get married in 2 weeks and havnt done my plan yet.

My advice, dont do it yet - you will end up having to reshuffle a MILLION times between now and the wedding.

WSS,

I'm like you, like to be orgainised but i will be leaving this job until about a week before the wedding as i really don;t fancy doing 10 times.

I have my guest list on an spreadsheet, I duplicated the names and then put them into groups for the 8 tables we will be having I have colour coded them as black for people who are attending and red for people who haven't replied yet. As and when I get responses I change the colour accordingly, delete them if they can't attend or move the people around slightly to fit onto tables better. I think it is slightly easier for me as their are big groups of people who who naturally go together so it has been easy to find groups of 10 and 8 for our two table sizes and at present I have a whole 2 tables where all the names are in red with a week to go for rsvps so if they decide not to come I can just delete those 2 tables!

I find i don't mind spending a minute or 2 looking at it every week if it is one less thing to do nearer the time.

Oh dear - you sound like me!

I take it that your working in excel?

My parents are also divorved and so I started on my draft plan early.. I have grouped people in "like" colomns in excel - so the ones who have to be together, or who have to be apart.

I've then filled the tables around them - the complication comes in that where to I sit my brother - on my Dad's table or my moms? difficult..

Those who have said leave it are right. I have to submit mine tomorrow to the hotel and 2 people pulled out today and I nearly had 4 people pull out the day beofre, but that has been rectified (touching wood!) Needless to say, it won't be submitted tomorrow!

I think the thing to remember is that people only need to sit at their table for the time of the meal - a couple of hours at most? If they really don't like who they're sitting beside, they can move as soon as the evening do starts

Quite right kirstycat. Most of us have to sit next to someone at work who we aren't exactly best mates with, and thats for 40 hours a week!

Have you asked him if he has a preference? If not, I'd suggest just put him as to which one has the convenient space on it (ie 2 tables of 8 rather than a 9 and 7 or 10 and 6).

As others have said, it's only a couple of hours really that people have to sit in this arrangement - so it really shouldn't be too much of a problem, particularly if it's earlier in the day before too much alcohol has been consumed - if there are going to be any problems at a wedding it tends to be towards the end when people have enjoyed themselves far too much at your expense.

O thats difficult! You might need to sit him down and tell him that if he doesnt sit and help youn with the seating, that you are not taking responsibility if anyone is not impressed with who they are sitting near. Tell him its 1 job, its very important and that it needs sorted properly!!