Bride Wars!

I wouldn't worry too much. Even if she tried to make her wedding a carbon copy of yours, yours will still be completely different precisely because you've put so much time and effort into your choices. It will be obvious if her heart isn't in the decisions that she's made. Although, I wouldn't tell her any more of your plans.

I'd have to say 'you've nicked all my ideas , get your own' I'm done being polite over weddings now. :-)

It's time to become much more "inventive". If she thinks your ideas have been good so far, they are about to get a whole lot better!

You need to tell her so much more! The owl ring bearer, the live goat to walk you down the aisle to bring luck... and the sweep (must be a real chimney sweep too!)

If you need help coming up with the craziest ideas to pass onto her, just ask here on Hitched! Oh, and those ideas you liked before? Well, you need to start having doubts about those as you heard they were a bit passe and everyone was doing them!

I would try and take it as a compliment... she obviously realised that you had some really good ideas and has steered her wedding that way.

Like MadamRed said... i wouldn't tell her any more of your ideas, and maybe if she asks for your opinion, try and steer her away from anything that may duplicate in your wedding!

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I think the inventive ideas is a brilliant idea!! She will either think no way and go back to her previous choice, or she will have a pig carry the rings for her!! ?

Haha! I would love to photograph her wedding! My "no cheesy shots" policy could be put on hold for a day!

Haha! I would love to photograph her wedding! My "no cheesy shots" policy could be put on hold for a day!

I love this idea! ?

Oh wow, she's a piece isn't she?!

The time has come to definitely stop sharing ideas - other than those wonderful ones suggested, they sound awesome, especially the lucky goat.

I don't think anyone will really notice if you have similar things when the time comes to be honest. People are always just glad to be there and having fun, they don't remember if something was the same at a previous wedding.

Anyway, it sounds like you are rather good at the research side of things, so it might be that you find a whole new set of wonderful things you want to do instead!

In all honesty I'd stop sharing ideas with her and just get on with planning whatever you want to have.

At the end of the day if you'd not been discussing things you could both have very well come up with similar/the same ideas anyway so what's the problem?

I'm assuming that you'll each have different guests and so the experience will be very different anyway. Get on with planning your day and don't worry about hers xx

My friend and I are both planning weddings and she mentioned she loves some of my ideas so to be honest I said it was fine for her to have them too and I was actually kind of honoured that she thought my ideas were THAT good!

So her and I are having some things the same (not that it'll matter as our guests won't be!) but everything the same is just ridiculous. They say imitation is the sincerest form of flattery.... well balls to that!

If I were you I wouldn't be sharing any of my new ideas ?, but you sound like a very creative person so I'm sure you'll manage to think of some more awesome stuff for your wedding that she unfortunately will never know about until the big day itself. Good luck!

I had the same thing. Everyone said to not share ideas, but when it's your best friend it's hard not to. It's the natural thing to do. My biggest issue was that we are having a destination wedding, she then decided to have a destination wedding too. In the same country. The fact that she got married before me has led a lot of people to ask why I copied her ideas which really upset me as we'd booked our wedding at least a year before hers.

Even if elements of the wedding are the same, the wedding itself won't be.

Love the idea of throwing her off the scent, but don't let this get in the way of your friendship.

I went through a long time of being very bitter about what was happening. Ended up being behind on everything, as I didn't want to step on her toes, felt like I couldn't get excited about my own wedding and ended up losing track of what was important. The decorations weren't important, the first dance wasn't important, wanting the same food as me - not important. The important thing was I was marrying my OH and this is all you need to think of.

At the end of the day, lots of weddings are pretty much the same but you'll have lots of things that stand out.

My friend nearly went and chose my venue.. I did say it would upset me a bit ( don't ask me why lol)... at the time it seemed like the worst thing in the world but looking back it probably wouldn't of mattered! I wouldn't worry too much - the fact they are your ideas will be reflected in what you do... I would let her get on with it and focus on your own day! xxx

Don't forget the butterfly release. ?

ha ha & the doves who will gently place the ring on your finger at the opportune time.