Bridesmaid

Kind of, we have been engaged just over a year and I picked my MOH as soon as it happen. Since then I have moved house and haven't seen her once, barely speak etc.

I have one other who is just my brothers parter, not close at all (not many friends here!). I don't want to tell my friend that I am disappointed that she hasn't made the effort as we still talk, but I think I probably chose too quick and should have thought about it further.

If I had my chance again I would probably have no bridesmaids...

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I'm glad it's not just me who feels the effort is too much. There is so much to plan and it's exhausting! It's hard enough getting the guest list right lol. I chose too soon as well, I was really excited and it happened, asked 2 of them while a bit drunk, so didn't help.

Are you going to have any bridesmaids if you get aroun to having a chat with your BM?

I will keep my brothers partner although she wont be helping with any of the organising of anything, its more a case of having a bridesmaid for having one sake plus I already asked her... little sad really

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I'm really sorry that's happened. But can't she at least help with the hen do?

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Positive side to that is that you know who your real friends are and you have one lovely lady who will be your BM.

Im currently struggling with one of my BMs whose attitude stinks in general at the moment (not just wedding related). And I kind of regret asking her to be BM. I haven't actually fallen out with her, I've just drifted apart from her a lot since I asked her & although I make effort, she doesn't. Grrrrr.

This! As ong as you have the friends that matter there then it's fine Better that than having them all as BM's then drifting apart after the wedding
I'm only having one BM and it's my SIL who is more like a real sister to me, not having any friends at all

Pugsley: I guess the drifting apart is something that can happen, but if they dont' see it as or being an issue then it's not so easy to bring up.

Are you going to have a chat to her about either making an effort she's going to have to go?

Matthewsmummy: That's what my nice BM said (she got married last year), she said you really find out who your friends are and that the people that mattered were there.

I wish I could foresee this and just go with my one BM :s Could of saved some arguments lol

I might have a word with her but whenever anyone in out circle of friends has tried to talk to her about the way she behaves she doesn't understand and throws a bit of a strop. I just don't think I can face talking to her about it at the moment, it's just the way she is. She lives a bit in her own little bubble and drifts in and out of contact with all her friends.

She sounds a bit self centered to me :s It's worse that she doesn't see it when people have told her

She is. The worst thing is that I knew she was like it when I asked her but it's only really started to bother me recently.

My own fault for asking her I suppose.

Hindsight is a wonderful thing!

I too have grown apart from my bm and now regret asking her so soon, we barely speak anymore. I'm not even sure if she will even come.

But you are so lucky to have one bm that cares about you and the day and being so helpful. Quality not quantity!

Well the best mans ex girlfriend.. That's just circumstantial. It was nice of you to ask her in the first place to be honest if she was just that and not a close friend of yours. The other BM well.. I've learnt over the years that the really happy big occasions and at your absolutely lowest ebb, those are very valuable times because you really do find out who your real friends are. Look on all this as a huge positive. Sounds like you've got a great friend/BM there

When's your wedding? How will you deal with that, will you keep schtum and see whether she gets in touch? Given she is a BM I'd presume (hope) she knows the date of the wedding!

I am waiting for her to say something.

We are getting married in March, the reception has been booked 2 years! She is well aware of the date.