Bridesmaid advice

Yeah, I guess that's true. If she's distant now she will be for anything wedding orientated. Thanks for the advice :-). I might just stick to the one BM and maybe the cousin. Thanks!

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I'm personally not sure about having your H2B's cousin as BM if you aren't very close. If it's just as a nice gesture then I would just not even consider it. Of course, it's your choice but wouldn't it be weird that you chose someone not very close when you haven't chosen this other friend of yours who you've been close to over the years and it's only recently she's been distant? As for the last girl who you've only been close two in the past couple of months... for me, that's not long enough to judge a solid friendship on. When is your wedding? Is it worth waiting a bit longer to decide?

Sorry if this opinion conflicts more, but I'm not sure about choosing your cousin you said you aren't really close to!

I've gone for one sensible, slap me round the face and tell me to calm down, it's all ok, MoH and one, this is amazing, where's the vodka, it's party time, bridesmaid. My niece is my flower girl except she's not anything remotely flowery!!

I need MoH there to steady me, be the calm, collected one, to check I've put perfume on, arrange my train properly. I need bridesmaid there to rev everyone else up, deflect my drinks to when I've had enough on the night and to carry my back up make up and put it on properly! Either way, they were picked because they're my wonderful friends but also because I can't imagine not having them there by my side.

With bridesmaids, I think groups of friends can get upset UNLESS they've been married or understand the whole thing. Ultimately, pick who YOU want to be there by your side on the day. If that's 5 of your friends, great. If it's just the one, great. Choose your wingmen, who you want to be a very special and large part of your day.

Thanks everyone. Has helped hearing other people kind of confirm what I was thinking or at least hearing someone else's point of view on it all. I think I'll ask my definite person & then keep schtum about the rest & not ask the cousin. I'm not getting married till spring 2014 so I have time to see how things go.

If I have just the one bridesmaid then at least I know I've picked someone I really want to help me through the day.

Thanks for all the advice!

Hiya, I'm the same ish. I have about 6 friends who I cant choose between or cant have one without another. We cant afford 6 and to be honest I wouldnt want 6. So I've asked my definite MOH my cousin and our flower girl and I'm now waiting it out to see whos more naturally involved not because they feel they have to but because they want to. Dont get caught up in the excitement, in the last 3 months I've flitted between just my cousin, well maybe my OHs SIL, maybe a friend, maybe both, and at the min I'm back to just me and my MOH!

This, I have also sorta ended up with this. I have my MoH (my eldest sister) and 3 BM (other sister & 2 friends)

One of my friends (friend 1) i see her all the time the other friend (friend 2) i dont see so often she lives about 30 miles away but chat most days however she gets very jealous of friend 1. before i had told anyone whos bridesmaids friend 2 said of course ill be maid of honor, to which i replied straight away well ive not really chosen who my bridesmaids, friend wise will be but moh will defo be my eldest sister. she was very taken aback by this but i changed the conversation n left it. after a lot of thinking i decided to have friend 2 as a bridesmaid with friend 1 mainly because i didnt want her to feel left out and be even more jealous of friend 1. Now however she has had hardly anything to do with the wedding, said after i had bought the dresses that she didnt really like it but maybe it was because it was the wrong colour, has had no involvement with moh about hen do, expected me to pay for her to stay in a hotel the night of the wedding as she wouldnt want to drive home, wanted to bring her mum as her plus one (although due to numbers unless you live, been with a long time or are married/engaged youve not got a plus 1) and asked what i was going to buy her as a thank you gift (yea cause youve done so much to help me) I wish now id been more head strong and not asked her now. Im really hoping as only 10 weeks to go she may start to pull her weight but i very much doubt it.

If you are not completely sure of who you want, dont just settle. Keep it how you want it, i really wish i had. (p.s sorry for the little rant0