Bridesmaid Help!

Hi, I feel that you don't need to have a "Maid of honour", if you view them all as equal then keep them as equal, they can help equally.

I have picked my best friend as my maid of honour, and a sister from each side, as I thought this would be the fairest option. I have now picked a fourth as after my engagement party I felt quite sad for not including one of my friends.

There’s no requirement to have a MoH or if you do, to ask in some extravagant way.

I have two joint maids of honour (my two best friends) and asked them both by whatsapp (I was travelling back from holiday)

I asked my bridesmaids verbally as I was too excited to wait, but I have now given them all cards officially asking. They have really liked the fact they have something to keep.

As for who is your maid of honour, you don't have to have one. However, if you are hoping for your bridesmaids to plan your hen do, it is probably a good idea to have some one as 'lead' if that makes sense.

Thank you, ladies! That is really useful advice and I feel much better. I think I’m just getting caught up in how it ‘should’ be done, despite people advising me that I should do what I want to and not what tradition dictates.

I verbally asked my bridesmaids and felt I wanted to give them something afterwards as a keepsake. I think I will incorporate the title into my gifts for them, maybe that says thank you for being my bridesmaid or something cute.

You could always ask the one who’s most actively involved/“the organiser” to be your chief bridesmaid ratherthan a maid of honour title? I say the most involved/most organised as they’ll be able to take charge on the day and charge on things like organising your hen party! :-)