So, my best friend (and BM) lives in Sweden, so obviously I don't see her that much.
I've ordered her dress based on the measurements that she gave me, so she'll need to try it on. I've already arranged a place to get alterations for all the dresses, if necessary.
I didn't want to waste her money on flights, so I said we could incorporate everything into the hen do weekend, so she only needs to come once. We discussed dates together, and only one weekend out of about 2 months would be clear for her (6 weeks before the wedding). So I got MOH on it, and we sorted out a hen for that particular weekend. Now that the plans are in motion, we've told everyone. But the BM has now told me that she may not be able to come after all! It's quite upsetting as I went to the whole effort of arranging this around her, and I offered to pay for her flight, as it's an expense that no one else has.
This is besides the point. If she really can't make it, I'll miss her but I'll understand. That's what friends do for one another.
But my real concern is whether I can still keep her as a bridesmaid. She had previously told me that that date was the only time she could come to visit. If she can't come over, then the first time she'd ever try the dress on would be the day before the wedding, leaving no time for alterations. Is this just worrying for no reason? I'd love her to be part of it, but just can't see how it would work.