Bridesmaid Issues

Sorry you're having these issues KBS. How old are these girls? Hope you get them sorted. Could you have no bridesmaids and ask a close friend to help you get ready?

My OH 2 daughters are 17 & 14, my sister is 43 and my 2 nieces are 20 & 18..

To be honest my mum will be there on the day, as will my SIL so Im sure they will be more than happy to help. I'm just SICK to death of the issues that these people are causing, they are so full of self-importance I dont think they know what they are doing to me and Im not going to lower myself to go and tell them either.

Sorry, I am just so cross right now.

No wonder you're so cross.

Your OHs daughters are more than old enough to know better.

This is why I don't want bridesmaids

To be honest i sometimes wonder whether to have BM or not. i wanted 3 BM, one been my OH sister and two of my closest friends.

My problem is, one of my closest friends BF is a bit jealous of the whole thing so he's booked for them to go on holiday and suprise suprise hes booked it so they fly a few days before the wedding so she cant even attend! the other close friend now lives in Leeds, which ok its not far from Worksop but cant meet up unless its weekends but we both live hecktic lives....and my OH sister now lives in Cornwall.....its stressful just to keep everyone happy. and like you said it would be so much less stress and money if we didnt have them.

Just invite them to the wedding and have done with it! It's your day and you can do it however YOU want! x

Aww stepkids are the pits sometimes,my step-daughter to be hasnt even met me, and OH n I have been together 2n half yrs, but its her losss (as in i could be a good stepmother, just ask my kids lol) but also she is hurting her dad not me, she is 20, and such a spoilt dadys girl that i cna see her point, dont agree with it at all in anyway but i see how she can 'blame' me for taking daddy away........anyway i digress.............i dont knwo how easy it is to 'fire' a bridesmaid, but is it an option to sit and talk to them and tell them A) how you feel, how they are making you feel, and B) give them the option of 'backing' out?

THATS taking jealousy too far, if i was your friend i would refuse to go on holiday!!

Sounds like they're more trouble than they're worth and, as ebony rose said, they're old enough to know better.

Would it cause a lot of problems to demote them?

You no what hurts the most....the fact that she wont be there at all...if she didnt want to be a bridesmaid she could have just said! gutted ☹️

Awww chick thats really sad am so sorry