I have four bridesmaids, 3 close friends and my sister. I've been getting texts for weeks from my sister saying Mary has been trying to sort this, Mary has taken over the hen party - did you even want to go to butlins for the week? Did you even want cousin Ella there? Mary has looked into hotels for the night before the wedding and thinks we should drive there on the morning instead (sod driving two hours!). I shrugged it all off, it didn't bother me, she's just excited I said. My sister feels that she should be the one arranging the hen party, so I told her to tell Mary that she thinks she's stepping on her toes, and got on with my planning. Mary's very agreeable and understanding so I didn't think it'd be a problem.
For the last few days my facebook group for all things my wedding which has my parents and the bridesmaids in has been very quiet. I was a little disappointed no one was saying anything, but with having picked up the bridesmaids dresses from the dress shop the other day I figured there wasn't much to say just now. Then my sister rang me last and I'm still fuming. Mary has set up her own secret Facebook group for the bridesmaids - one I'm not in- and is discussing which hairstyles they should have and bouquets, the colour of their flowers, the type of their flowers, which centrepieces she could help make, the hair and make up artist she plans on hiring.
I love Mary, but right now I want to cut her off and not see her! I was so angry when I heard last night and I couldn't even put exactly how I felt or why I felt that way into words so I can't approach her on it yet. I'm annoyed that my wedding group is dead, and Mary's had fifty notifications in an hour where they were all talking (according to my sister). I'm furious that she thinks she can just decide what she and all the bridesmaids are carrying, their hair, what my centrepieces are. But what upset me most I think is that she did it all in her own secret group that I'm not a part of, I didn't mind when she was messaging me ideas and pictures of what she liked as a suggestion but now it feels like its all being planned without me I guess.
Bit of a pointless post, I just needed to rant I guess. Did I bring this on myself? ?