Bridesmaids

I think the bride should have a bit of input, suggest styles she likes etc, but really the bridesmaid should choose their hair style. The way you wear your hair is a personal choice, i personally wouldn't want to be told how to have my hair, especially if it was in a style i didn't think suited me.

I let mine choose - firstly because I figured they would feel more comfortable if they could have their own choice, secondly because I didn't want them to look like identikit BMs, and third because I wasn't paying.

One had her hair down, one half up-half down, the third had hers all back/up. They all looked great and it didn't matter that they had different styles at all.

I don't think you should decide, unless theres a particular "theme" you're wanting to go down. I know whenever I've been a bridesmaid, I wasn't told how to have my hair (apart from when I was really little in which case I can't remember!)

Mine are choosing. I think it is nice to let them decide as you want them to feel comfy on the day. mine are also choosing their own shoes. I have even been relaxed enough to say that as long as the dresses are the same length and colour they can have different ones!!

Ive told my bridesmaids they could have whatever they are comfortable with with dresses, hair, shoes etc - but asked them nicely if whatever they are comfortable with could possibly be the same for both of them lol! The only thing i have asked is that they wear facinators. - which i also asked the CB to make!

I am letting my MOH choose her own, but I am choosing how my step-daugether has her's as she is only 10.

I let my BM (sister) choose her own, my junior BM was 10 so I let her mum choose.

I wanted them both to be comfortable on the day and they both looked gorgeous too

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My sister chose hers when she was my BM.

Half way through the meal she changed her mind about liking it and I was stood up at the top table changing it for her! ?

It should be a combination of the two i think. Input from both the bride and bridesmaids.

They should decide - whatever they feel comfortable with.

A bit of both I think - the bridesmaids need to feel comfortable but the bride also neds to like the style.

Two of my BM's have bob-length hair so they are wearing it down, one is straight and one is curly, but my sister has long hair and wants to have hers up in an elaboate upstyle which I have vetoed as I think she'll look like an odd one out - especially as I have very short hair.

I think it should be a bit of imput from both really, depending on if there is some kind of theme/specific look etc. I will have a chat with mine about what they want and any ideas i might have and see what we come up with. I obviously want them to be comfortable on the day

I'm actually not that bothered about how my BMs have their hair, I don't even think they necessarily even have to match each other. I'll give my opinion when they ask me and give examples, as I know they will, but mainly I'm happy to go with how they want their hair. I think they all have pretty good taste anyway and will look lovely how they choose it.

Gosh i am going to sound like a right cow now,,,,, i have found a hairstyle that i really really want them to have = i have showed my friend who is one bridesmaids and she loved it thank god, i am yet to show the other who is H2Bs sister but i am hoping she will like too... i thought the bride chose! Obviously i want them both to be happy and compfortable but i really like this style - god listen to me wining on!!!

this is the style - would you be happy with this do you think if the bride suggested it and you were BM??

Personally I wouldn't as it's not very 'me'. No harm in suggesting it though, just don't chuck your toys about if she says she doesn't like it ?

Oh dear,,,, think i might be chucking toys out!! haha

That's a lovely style. No harm in suggesting it to them, if they love it then everyone wins!!! One of your BMs likes it so you're half way there!!!

I have an idea that i want my BMs to have their hair up, because i know i'll have mine down and i have this thing about them looking different to me!!! But i'll probably see what they think and if they don't mind then they can choose specifically how they have it up - if that makes sense?!

Same here - i am having half up half down so i really want tehm to have a up do so they are totally different, having said that both BMs are brunette and im blonde so wouldnt be a total disaster if they wanted it donw

If i was a BM and the bride said she wanted me to have my hair done a specific way i would probably agree cos i hate confrontation. all the while i would secretly hate it (and be annoyed with her!) for making me look like a barbie doll.....

see what they say, but if they object then you should probably just let them decide.

Just be aware that that hairstyle won't look as dramatic on a brunette - dark hair hides a lot of intricate details.

I don't think there is anything wrong in showing your BMs your suggestion (which is lovelt btw) but it definitely has to be their final decision. It all depends on their hair and their face shape.

My BMs went to the hairdresser themselves and got totally different styles to each other and they looked fab. I gave them their flowers for their hair and left the rest of the decision to them. I didn't know what they were having till they came to the house on the morning of the wedding but I totally trusted them to know what would suit them best.

I like it shoegal!

I'm hoping I'll come to a mutually agreeable hairstyle option with my BMs (sister and best friend)! I think I want them to wear sparkly clips but not fussed on whether they wear it up or down. I'll be paying for it on the day. I'll let my best friend chose for her daughter - my flowergirl - who will be about 3 depending on which date we go for.

My sister has short hair at the moment - she has just had it done, it looks fab and she loves it. She has already asked me if I want her to grow her hair for the big day - I told her not to be daft!

I would be very happy with this style, i may even have that myself! ? I have also suggested that my BM's have their hair up due to getting married abroad.. a hot sweaty neck isn't a good look! lol! As for my flower girl, she's just turned 3 atm, she will be 4 by the time we marry, we are trying to let her grow her hair, but she is still barely out of the baby style hair. It's still fluff! So depending how her growth goes...

I love this style. It's the kind of thing my sister (CBM) will have- but it was her choice! She will also have diamontees in her hair. The younger bridesmaids (12 & 10) will have their hair curly but have it down with sparkly hairbands.

Bridesmaids should be the people closest to you therefore they want your day to be special. Would you do the same for them? I'll wear pink and green potta dot dress with tartan trousers if that's what my sister want s for her wedding!!!

Well thats my opinion,,,, if it was my best mates wedding i would have my hair and wear whatever she liked.

the style i have picked (and got my heart set on) i think is a nice, simple syle and there is little to dislike about it!

thanks for all your opinions guys

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I am quite relaxed in how they are going to have their hair. My mum thinks they should all have the same though. Im planning on having my hair in a half up-do and I know one of my bm's would normally choose the same but is not going to as she doesnt want it to look the same as me. I really wouldnt be bothered though, for a start she is blonde and I am brunette. I have decided that they are all wearing the same dress and jewellery though. Shoes and hair they can choose as they are all very different girls

Oh dear. I told my lot what they were having. They didn't have any input at all!