I need to get this off my chest as its getting me down! I need advice please!
I asked my sister in law and two cousins if they would be my bridesmaids but the only problem was due to me and OH being on a tight budget I asked them if they would pay for all or contributing to their dresses, to which they all said they would be our bridesmaids and they would pay for their own dress, which was good. I said to them they could choose their own styles as long as it was navy blue.
To begin with they were all positive and we arranged to go dress shopping to help choose my wedding dress. They cancelled last minute with different excuses and asked if we could arrange another day which I did. Again, when it was close to the shopping day they cancelled. This was really upsetting me as I wanted to look at wedding dresses, so my MIL2B came with me and to cut a long story short I eventually found my dress and ordered it online. My bridesmaids did not seem interested or to care that I found my dress.
Anyway, a couple of weeks ago they all said that we should go shopping in the sales this weekend. I mentioned Birmingham as it was closer to them (I live in wortcester my bridesmaids live in cannock and wolverhampton.) I had to do alot of grovelling to my boss and other staff to swap shifts around as I had a shift this saturday. I did this as my bridesmaids were keen that we should go this weekend and would definately come. I finally swapped my shift and txt them to tell them, to which they replied they were unable to come now as they were skint and just could not come. I offered to put money towards their dresses and because it was the sales we would get their dresses cheaper anyway. I said to them I am not expecting them to spend a fortune of their dresses. They were still umming and arring and now they wont tell me for definate whether or not the shopping trip in Birminham is still on!! It just annoys me as that it feels they are not being supportive to me since I have been planning our wedding and it just feels like they cant be bothered, especially after all the effort I have put in to arrange to meet up!
My OH sees how much this upsets me when they let me down. He has said that this should be their last chance. What would you do? Am I being unreasonable? Sorry for the long post ?