bridesmaids/usher dilema!

This isn't realy something that anyone can help you with so to speak. The best advice I could give is go with what feels right in your heart.

We chose my the other girls in my family of which there are three so it was always them really. Our numbers aren't equal either, we have 3 BM's, 2 ushers and 2 Pageboys x

We didn't have equal numbers of ushers and bridesmaids. I just had my sister as BM and niece-to-be as flower girl, that way avoiding any issues about who to ask. You can always incorporate the friends in other ways (readings, witnesses etc).

Could just go with the 2 BMs so not to offend any of yor 3 friends?

i'm not having any of my friends as BMs just my sister and 2 nieces and no ushers.

Have you got a best friend out of those three? Maybe just have your OHs sister and your cousin? Or all three? Sorry not much help.

Not sure on the Ushers thing, I don't think it matters x

I have one sister and one daughter, and two best mates. I will never be able to pick between the two of them without some sort of cat fight, and I wouldn't be able to afford both, so I'm just going with my sis and littleun. We dont have pageboys and my OH has said he wants his best mate who is a girl as his best woman, so no ushers for us. But as far as I know you don't have to have equal numbers, you can have whoever you want.

Also, a good cop out if any of your mates are offended is 'I can't afford it'. It may or may not be true, but it doesnt matter- they cant argue with that. My two are going to be peed off as both of them have expressed interest in being BMs, but unless they want to buy their own outfits, they will have to deal. Sorry!

If you go with the can't afford, your friends may offer to buy their own dresses if they are desperate to be bridesmaids

We're having 4 of each but only because I wanted to, there's nothing to say you have to hon, just go with what feels right! I had a nightmare choosing people but in the end we agreed we would pick people we were closest too as a couple as obviously it's 'our' wedding so that helped with ruling out some friends who I'm very close to but OH doesn't know as well!

P.S Can someone please tell me how to add my picture and location to the box to the left?! I can't figure out how to do it...duh!!

I have my OHs 2 god daughters as flower girls, then my niece and 2 best mates as bridesmaids.

I have 4 really close shcool friends who i wouldnt have been able to between so knew it all going to be all or none of them and as i already 5, i opted for none! they completelly understood and were even happier when i highlighted the fact they get to pick a new dress and big hat!!

We aren't having equal numbers of ushers and bridesmaids, we have 4 ushers and 1 best man and I'm having 3 bridesmaids who are my 3 closest friends. I don't think having the same number is essential.

I had a problem in that I have a friend who expected to be a bridesmaid but who I haven't asked (for several reasons). I have instead found her another role at the wedding so that she is involved and she will be doing my make up as this is one of her strengths. If you want one of your friends to be a bridesmaid choose who you want and then if you feel you want to find your other friends another role.

Remember the most important thing - it's your wedding. So do what makes YOU happy. xx

Thanks for the reply's guys!

ill see if i can find some other way they can be involved.

kelly xx

I have the same problem - I have a circle of 5 close friends - I can't choose between them so I am having 5 - but asking them to wear co-ordinating clothes rather than paying for their dresses.