BridesMAN instead of maid?

Hi!

It's your wedding, i say feel free to do what suits you. Why conform to what everyone else has if it doesn't suit you? I think it'd be lovely to have him there on the day supporting you.

Good luck!

Not weird at all. Its your wedding, your friend you do what you want?

I'd love to have my blokey best mate with me on the morning with the girls, but I'm not sure how much he'll like that. I'm trying to think of other ways to include him

Welcome to Hitched. Personally I dont see why you shouldn't my thoughts are what about when you get ready? Are you happy wandering around in your underwear in front of him? Is he married/ with a partner and if so are they ok with you doing so?

Is he friendly with your OH? And so is there the possibility that he would rather be with 'the lads' getting ready?

There is nothing that says you need/ have to have some one with you so could you have him as your witness instead?

Good luck with your planning and remember that it doesnt really matter what anyone else thinks or does only what you want. x

Think it's a great idea, just make sure he waxes if wearing a sleeveless dress lol.

My brother was a bridesmaid long before I was! ?

The bride had no "real" bridesmaids, my brother was her witness (which is technically all you need)

Thanks everyone, great to have some feedback!

To answer some of the points, he is gay and has a long term partner, they are both pleased with the idea. I have spent a lot of time with both of them in bikinis/underwear etc so if he was to be with me getting ready that wouldn't be an issue at all. He may well prefer to get changed with the blokes though, he and my fella are pretty friendly so either way it would be fine.

My mum thinks it is a great idea - but I know some of my other family members and my finacés family will have some seriously raised eyebrows! But oh well, as long as me and my partner are happy with it I will not be too worried...just wanted to sound the idea out as it hasn't come up in any of the stuff I have read.

Thanks all

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I don't see what's wrong with it as long as everyones happy!!

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My daughter is having her best male friend as a Man of Honour and no bridesmaids. She has lots of friends but he has been her best friend since leaving school and she never even considered any of her girl friends to be honest.

I've never heard of it before but that's no reason not to - go for it! I've been to a wedding with a best woman and it was great.

Me too, she wore the same dress as the bridesmaids but gave a gave cracking speech.

I was surprised not to find more variation in all the mags I have looked at. Even the more sort of 'trendy' mags were full of traditional top tables and bridal parties, I thought I would find other ideas in these modern times hehe. For instance our top table is going to have to be very unconventional to accommodate the various family divorces and deaths and so on...it may even just be me and the groom!

Me too, she wore the same dress as the bridesmaids but gave a gave cracking speech.

I was surprised not to find more variation in all the mags I have looked at. Even the more sort of 'trendy' mags were full of traditional top tables and bridal parties, I thought I would find other ideas in these modern times hehe. For instance our top table is going to have to be very unconventional to accommodate the various family divorces and deaths and so on...it may even just be me and the groom! It is great to get affirmation here that my intentions aren't too strange.

Thanks all

I think its a lovely idea too....if its who you wnat to be there and they want to do it Id say go for it.

We're having a top tablewith just me and the OH ...think they call it a sweetheart table.

We're having a best woman and a man of honour - nothng weird at all. My OH wanted his sister by his side instead of a bloke, I wanted my son as 'bridesmaid', so once we had introduced him to the term 'man of honour' he was OK with it.

But then I'm a ringleader for 'stuff tradition and do what you want' brigade anyway!

Oh that's great thanks Serina. I didn't come across anything like that in my research so far, didn't know it even existed! Will mention to OH was worrying as numbers would be odd and my mum would feel out of place (widowed) next to best man she had never met before, or finacés dad (divorced) sharing a table with ex-wife who hardly ever sees fiancé anyway... could be a potential minefield. Brill tip thank you.

If you want to read more about non traditional weddings, try Offbeat Bride: http://offbeatbride.com/

There's loads of really unusual stuff there, but the emphasis is on doing what is right for you and your partner and not trying to please everyone else at the expense of your day!

That answers my question about the Hen night arrangements!!!!!!?

Be different, don't conform to what people expect. It's you wedding.

Peter

In my opinion, only if you and your hunsband are happy with that, it doesn't matter wheather others can accept it or not, in fact, choosing male as your bridemaids, it is very special really. so just follow your heart, i guess your wedding must be very unusual and meaningful. and if you need some men's clothes for the wedding, i know one site, it is really good! The site is :

http://www.merbridal.com/shopdisplayproducts.asp?id=203&cat=Tuxedos

In the film 'Made of Honour' Patrick Demsey was the MOH - though he did end up persuading the bride not to marry the groom and marry him instead (at least from what I can remember). Obviously not a problem you'll have. If you haven't seen it, it's fine for a fluffy Sunday afternoon film.

I just searched this subject and I am soooooo glad that there is someone else wanting to have a male bridesmaid!! Although it seemed like a natural choice, as me and my best male friend have been close for nearly 6 years, I started to wonder if people would find it strange.

You should have who you want beside on your big day, so just go for it ?

I think its a great idea. You have to do what is right for you, I bet he will be pleased. OH doesn't want ushers so I may promote some friends as usherettes, for some reason he doesn't nind that ?

I think it is lovely, and do see different combinations, Male attendants, female best "women" and Mums walking brides down the aisle, I second it being your day, do what is right for you

Zoe xx

Thanks all - I am now feeling totally fine with it, it would be wrong not to include him - tho apparently he is worrying about the hen do as I am so organised and he is terrible for planning (he confessed to my mum at our party last night!) so she has promised to help him, and besides that there won't be much else needed for him to do other than moral support and cracking jokes