Hey Guys not sure what to do would love a bit of advice.
back story we got engaged a couple of years ago and my OH’s brother fell out with us for a year. He was upset that my partner only told him on the day that he was planning to propose and the brother had plans to propose to his girlfriend and he felt it wasn’t fair my partner did it first. They got engaged all sorted its self out.
they set a date everyone was happy.
we recently went to see a venue loved it and they offered us a cancellation date for 14th July 2018.. 7 weeks before my OH’s bro’s wedding. Mindful of the problems last time my falls gave his bro a call asked how he’d feel if we booked that date, he said he was ok with it.
we said yes to the date and I paid £2grnad deposit ... now it’s not alright his bro has fallen out with us said we’ve cast a shadow on their day, we’ve said we will postpone but next date would be Aug 2019 (my dad has copd and can’t walk far so a bit worried about his health)
the bro is now saying wether we cancel or go ahead we’ve cast a shadow on their day and he doesn’t know if he’ll ever get over it..
i feel like I’m stuck between a rock and a hard place, I’m damned if I do and I’m damned if I don’t.
my OH parents have been v unsportuve and don’t want to get involved!
the whole shine has gone off it now but I’m scared if I cancel I’ll resent that I allowed someone to control my life but if I go ahead it won’t be enjoyable and poss end the bro’s relationship for good.
any advice???
