*BT* Makin' babs

How exciting! I mean, I guess it must be I've never wanted kids, and in a way it makes me sad that I don't get to experience those feelings. I did try to donate my eggs in my early 30s, but they didn't want them cos my hip problems are probably genetic. That was kind of a bummer. Sorry, I've kind of derailed the thread already! Are you using random donor sperm or that of someone you know? Is that too personal a question?

That's great news! I can understand the excitement/nerves all rolled into one but sure it'll be an amazing experience

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I know this is am obvious baby post but can you please put a bt in the rotor of it to make others aware?

Exciting news for you though!

Totally insensitive comment. I know you don't mean it to be, but it is.

Congratulations SW - as Mini said, BT in the title would be appreciated.

I have to echo what Rod said Bekki, totally insensitive

SW, there are a few Hitchers who've been through the IVF process, myself included so feel free to ask any questions, but again just make sure you put BT in the title.

Really really sorry if my comment was taken the wrong way. I certainly never intended to offend or upset anyone and will remove it immediately.

Thanks. Some hitchers are having a really hard time ttc at the moment shall things baby related can be a bit...tempestuous.

Completely understand and those hitchers having trouble have my sympathy and, if asked for and wanted, my support. I have a friend who tried for many years to have a baby and it broke her heart so I do understand. I'm afraid my excitement for SW got the better of my common sense - typed without thinking! Once more, I apologise to anyone upset by my post x

Argh - I just keep walking in to starting up inappropriate threads - sorry if it's been unpleasant for anyone to read. Having dabbled in online ttc communities a lot in the past (even though I've never been ttc-ing myself, it's always been a bit of an obsession of mine, as I was planning on going it alone before I met OH) I know how bitter one persons excitement can be for someone who is at a different/more difficult stage ...

I didn't know about the BT thing - I'm assuming it means 'baby topic'? Anyways, I've done as I was told

That's really kind of you, thank you

It's fine SW you diddnt know.

BT stands for 'baby talk' it just flags up that there is baby related stuff being discussed in the thread so if that's a bit sensitive for some they can avoid it.

Its a little thing we agreed on a while back to try and stop the upset for some otters who were having a hard time ttc

I like the inappropriate threads- you need to crack out a third one now to make it a hat trick!

Exciting SW!

I sort of know how you feel, I've just started taking folic acid as we are hoping to start TTC in a few months. Stupid how excited you can be by a tiny pill!

Awww that's fantastic news.

Can I just ask why you thought all options wouldn't be accessible, or wasn't you aware of the all the options. If that makes sense. But I suppose you don't know what's out there until you start looking.

Once again fantastic news. The long road ahead starts here.

This is exactly why I think Hitched were wrong to remove Baby Talk for their boards.

This post would have been fine on BT. To many Hitchers it is not fine. It's just making a bad situation worse.

Hitched, are you listening?

The answer to this is a long one.

Ideally we wanted to go straight to IVF because that way I can carry OH's egg. We had also talked about donating eggs, since we are relying on donated sperm, kind of felt a bit like paying it forward. We felt that to go straight to IVF might have been a bit too invasive or overly drastic when neither of us know yet about our fertility levels/health. We felt we ought to give the 'usual' put-it-in-and-cross-your-fingers method a go first. Also - financials!

Anyways, last night we talked lots to the doctor about success rates and statistics - the crossing our fingers route could well have the same financial implications (if we have to try over and over for several months) of one round of IVF which obvs has much higher success rates. Plus, donating eggs gives us a significant discount on IVF (which we kind of knew, but didn't realise how much) making IVF a much more viable and cost effective option for us to try sooner rather than later.

It is crazy exciting.

SW - this is exciting

We felt we ought to give the 'usual' put-it-in-and-cross-your-fingers method a go first.

Loving this.

Really though thanks for the explanation. It all makes sense now.

I can believe how exciting it is. It's just the start of a very long journey.

This is wonderful news!

Great news! I knew a girl at school who now has a little boy with her (also female) partner. I don't know her well enough to ask how they did it though.

How did you decide who's eggs you would use and who would carry the baby?

Also on the egg donating thing, is it true they have changed the law so that they child can now trace you when aged 16? I often thought about donating eggs to help those who can't as I'm not interested in having children myself but the thought of being traced would stop me.

Exciting news SW - really happy for you both!

Like Holey I'm starting folic acid next week, in preparation for us TTC after the wedding. Exciting times.

Yeah I have a few friends who have kidlers too - some have done it at home the old fashioned way (syringes, not widgies!), some with a little medical help and some (just gave birth to twins a couple of weeks ago) through IVF.

We both want to carry, I'm a few years older than her, I am not attached to my genes and have hereditary bits I'd not pass on given the choice (allergies, eczema, asthma, arthritis, diabetes in the family) so i'll go first with her eggs and then she'll have a go with her own.

Yes, she'd be traceable a a donor, but when the kid is 18. We're OK with that, she will not be the kids parent, she'll just be someone who donated a couple of cells once which helped their own mum and dad make to them ..

Very exciting new SW!

I also had a fresh IVF cycle and then a frozen embryo transfer - I'm currently pregnant with twins, a boy and a girl. IVF is a huge rollercoaster but I can't help but think it must be nice starting it as your first option (rather than finding yourself facing IVF as a last resort). I really hope it all goes smoothly for you both and your get your happy ending sooner rather than later.

SallyLou and Holey ... it is exciting indeed - congrats to you both too

Ducky a huge congratulations.

*Ducky* ... so weird, " Ducky" or to be more precise, "DuckyDuckDuck" is what I call my OH! I panicked for a moment she was stalking me online until I saw your post count

CONGRATULATIONS, twins is amazing, and one of each! My friend who just had twins had a hard time through the pregnancy, hope you're doing OK!

Thanks both

I promise I'm not your OH!!

Also just shout if you have any questions, I'm not always around here but several people on here can get my attention easily through FB or a text!

Great news SW! Must be very exciting

Just wanted to say Woop Woop! Sounds mega exciting for you SW. Hope all goes well.

Hey SW that's great news. I have several lesbian friends who have had children, again all different methods, one set of (ivf) twins amongst that.

and Ducky, I think I saw on Mumdrum you were now upduffed but not with twins! Double congrats!

i don't get the time to lurk, let alone post nowadays

I also only just registered that! How silly of me. What super news anyway! Very exciting for you. And congrats to Ducky too!