Budget - what is yours?

You know where's good for trolling? Parenting message boards. Mention one thing about breast vs formula feeding or early weaning or circumcision and KABLAM **** replies in the space of 5 minutes. Acers!

God this reminds me of the hitched of old, were one comment has snowballed lol.

Personally I think AJ's orignal comment was an interesting one msuing over wether or not the 'average' cost of a wedding really reflects the average wedding. Obv, given responses, it does!

We spent (in Apr) about 6k once we had sold the marquees we had bought to use. We had everything we wanted including a few luxuries that if money had been tigehter we just wouldent have had.

My folks did help us and I don't think there is anything wrong with it. I personally wouldent get into debt, nor would I have forked our paying for distant relations, people I didn't know / like to come but each to their own.

Wow. What a bizarre thread. I genuinely can't believe that people are judging others on how much they are spending on their wedding. What does it really matter?

Our budget is £10k for the wedding, although it might end up being a little bit over as there are a couple of things we forgot to budget for. We are paying for it with money we've been saving every month since we got engaged because we don't want to be in debt. That is entirely our personal choice though. Our parents have also contributed too, which is very kind of them and we feel very lucky for that; we made sure that our budget reflected what we could afford on our own, but both sides wanted very much to contribute and so we are using their money for our honeymoon.

If we wanted to then we could afford to spend more, but personally speaking we feel uncomfortable spending more than that. However that is just us - I would never judge someone for spending more. Everyone has their own way of doing things. I don't think I would want a "2 people at the registry office" job, because I really want all my friends and family around me; nor would I be happy at an enormous wedding because I would be overwhelmed. But that doesn't make my wedding plans more or less valid than anyone else's - just different.

Re: flashes, well I thought they were about having somewhere to share our excitement. There is a difference between wanting to show things and wanting to show off things. Not just semantics.

I really don't understand why some people are getting on their high horses about this. Perhaps we should all have a go at people about how much rent/ mortgage they pay? Or how much their weekly food shopping is? Ridiculous.

Just wondering if it is a coincidence that the 2 main protagonists in this argument joined hitched today and yesterday, and up until now had not posted?? Or am I just cynical???????

To put things in context, between us we can comfortably put £200 aside a month between us into "the wedding fund" and have been since our engagement, although before then it was into an iSA so we can enjoy the interest.

The loan is costing us about £230 a month, so its a small increase on what we were already saving anyway as a repayment.

In other words, choosing to do our big day with finance hasn't actually cost us that much more than if we were saving and just waiting till we had it.

Enjoy your dog walking. What do you have?

Your point of view here is based on what you think is important, and not everyone share's your view.

My H2B and I work hard to earn a living and we want to be able to get married and then celebrate this with our family and friends, and to do this in the way that we want is going to cost more than £700, that doesn't make the cost right or wrong, but having the day that we want is important to us.

We donate regularly, in various ways, to 2 charities, the local hospice that my father passed away in and cancer research, as that is what he unfortunately died from, I dont give to other charities for my own reasons (although I regularly sponsor family and friends doing events for other charities so I guess in a way I do) and I think it is wrong to state that we dont have sight of what is important just because we choose not to do that.

It is up to an individual how they spend their money and what they spend it on, you have no place telling someone what should be important to them !

Lmao! I was just doing the same! ?

Nah i just don't feel the need to write on every topic. To be honest it was curiosity that brought me to this thread, just to see how it varies couple to couple, and also on the location for where people get married. It's interesting to see peoples choices. thats all. It's not a case of breaking cover lol. I use hitched for the wedding planner, and for links to different sites. is that a crime now? that for once i comment on a topic and get nothin but sh*t for it? i just genuinely feel that so much money is wasted, when theres so many other people that struggle in life.

Same for celebrities....that such and such super star just spent 3 million on something.....it's insane, and their money could be better spent more so than people planning a wedding.

I'm sure that whatever people spend on their wedding, they will enjoy their day and have it the way they want it. Lets just hope the weather is good. It's a pity that we couldn't buy a sunny day too. x

My thought exactamundo (to quote the great Fonzie.) https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Troll_(Internet) DNFTT!

Not in the slightest. I'm a user of quite a variety of internet forums on all sorts of different subjects, and that sort of thing happens on a regular basis.

Yeah i do agree, people should have the day they want. Like me and my H2B are having the day we want so far for £700. people are entitled to their own opinions, and to have their day how they want it. I'm not saying what should be important to people. I'm stating my views, and sure, not everyone likes it, but there will be people getting married just paying for a register office ceremony....and thats it....and their day will be just as special to them.

Celebrity weddings are a different ballgame altogether. This website is predominantly for "normal people" weddings

We tried to sell the rights to our wedding photos to "Hello" magazine. They said "goodbye".

Short dog walk, by the way. Thought they'd have liked longer on a day like this.

I've changed it to FF yoghurt - I've got a size zero, million pound dress to fit into, Posh Spice and Cheryl Cole are my BM's and I'm worried I'll flatten the solid gold carriage that is taking me to St Paul's Cathedral.

H2B went out with the dogs actually, I was going to go with but my back is playing up bad today which is really annoying

LMAO! ?

Haha i can't believe this thread is still going on.

I think the quote from one of the first pages of postings about "each to their own" is true and should be respected. x

Thats actually rather amusing lol

but i ask again, why should we feel guilty for spending our money on ourselves???

i spent £120 on a hairbrush and new make up on saturday, which to some is ridiculous-but its my money and i wanted to spend it, why should i feel guily?

So that's why the Archbishop of Canterbury wasn't available for our wedding - you've already booked him!

I never mentioned guilt. and i thought i had perhaps cleared this up in previous statements. Obviously not. I'm actually waiting for the slating to begin for me not going with the H2B to walk the dogs tbh,.

WSS

ok ill rephrase it-why if i spend my money on something i like and i can afford it, why is that a waste??

Louis Walsh is marrying us, he's been taking classes and everything.

PS Just so everyone knows - every time you donate to a charity, the money comes straight to me to pay for my hair extensions...

i wouldnt be surprised if it did in some charities!! as i said in my previous post,when i worked for a charity i know donated money bought booze for staff, holidays for my ex boss and she paid the volunteers cash in hand with it-and more!!!

Well i'm not here to justify whats right or wrong, but surely people are entitled to their own opinion. if thats what you wanted yay you. Like i said before (or did you miss that bit) people could have just a register office ceremony, and thats it....and it'd still be the best day of their life. it's not a point of what is spent, but yes, some people would see that so much money is somewhat of a waste. Especially with the divorce rate these days. Seems that so many people are going through divorce.

Totally agree. It's completely subjective anyway.

yes i could have a registry office and thats it-but its not what we want so it would not be the best day of my life, hence why we put the wedding back a yr to save more money- im not slating people who are doing that though, although you seem to think everyone is getting at you and your opinion!!

im not planning on a divorce and certainly not going into my marriage with such a negative view of it - yay me!!

Thats a bit of a pessimistic view to have before your even married that most end in divorce! Ok then I wont spend £X on my wedding just in case in 10 years time I hate the man and want a divorce and I can sit back and say I'm glad I saved my pennies!!!

Personally I couldn't give a flying fig what someone decides to spend on their wedding. That ole Hitched saying could never be truer in this instance - "your day, YOUR WAY".

People shouldn't be derided for their w-day choices FFS. I was lucky enough for my Mum to pay for the majority of our wedding. We had an absolutely marvellous day and I didn't really feel restricted with any of the decisions made. We just wanted to make sure the food and wine were top notch and that everyone had a good day and didn't put their hands into their pockets.

If you want to take out a loan, hire a gold carriage, pay for it yourselves, go to Gretna, get married in a bin liner = then DO IT! If we all did weddings the same this forum would be a very, very dull place indeed!

One man's meat and all that...

That is all.

I think that's a bit short sighted. People don't enter into marriage thinking about the possibility of divorce in the future. Also, having a registry office ceremony might not make a wedding the 'best day of their life' for some people. This doesn't cater for everybody - some people prefer religious ceremonies for instance, and this will cost more. Again, it's completely subjective. People are always going to have differing views on this.

You are all just jelus bitchez cos GOD HIMSELF is marrying me and I am using the tears of orphans to pay for it.

Indeed. Bizarre!