I am on the verge of fucking something up quite badly - but I don't seem to be able to stop myself. I know that I have trust issues but I don't know how to stop them controlling my actions. In the cold light of day I can see that I antagonise things, over-analyse things and end up pushing people away. I preempt things going wrong by pushing and pushing, then when I suceed it proves that I was 'right all along' when in fact I am just creating a prophecy and then fulfilling it myself. I think I need to have some counselling, I've been through something very significant that has really impacted on my self-esteem and don't seem to be able to just pick myself up properly. I'm so angry at myself which I know is destructive in itself and not helping.
So how on earth do you trust someone - is it really just a matter of time (and countless screw ups) before you get there - I know there won't be a quick fix but just a series of mechanisms would be a good start in the meantime? It's quite a relief to be able to say this really - if I weren't at work I would probably be disgustingly self-indulgent and have a big cry.