cancel the suit

Not wearing the suit is a minor offense imo. I agree that your OH might regret it but do understand that he would be annoyed by that. If he doesn't want to wear it then just smile and get on with enjoying your day!!

I think its a bit silly not to invite someone over a suit! Also, if you didnt tell him he'd be paying then I can see why he would be miffed to find out he was. If it was me I'd wear it to make my nephew happy but if I had to pay I'd rather where something of my own I was more comfortable in. And do you really know that money isnt an issue? some people can appear more well off than they are, or he might be having difficulties that you dont know about?

1. If you didn't tell him he'd be paying for his own suit, I can see his point. You should have told him this when you asked him. It's not unreasonable - in fact, I'd say it's normal - to think that when asked to be part of the bridal party and wear a specific outfit, that said outfit will be provided for you.

2. You have no idea how anyone's finances work, despite how it might appear. And even if he throws money around willy-nilly, it's his choice on how he spends it.

3. To not invite someone because they have decided not to pay for something you didn't tell them they would have to pay for is petty. You will regret it.

Might be unpopular with this view, but...

Why should he pay? He's probably of the view (as many of the older generation are) that £80 odd quid is a lot of money and is a bit wasteful.

Just because he has money in the bank it's not for anyone else to say what he should be spending it on. Most of the older generation with money I know are still very frugal and live from pensions and weekly money etc...

I would try to push your OH to see that and not cut his nose off to spite his face, by cancelling his invitation!

(Goodluck!)

This ^^^^

His opinion is probably why should I pay x amount for a suit when I have got a perfectly good suit in my wardrobe!

I'd just accept that he does not want to be made to pay to wear a particular suit, get him a buttonhole to show that he is important to you and that there are no hard feelings.

Ask your OH how he would feel if he got an invitation to a wedding and was told oh, we want you to wear this suit and here's the bill for it!

To be honest - i wouldn't of got upset over it.

We are paying for the suit hire of over 20 (H2B has a big family) and his brothers are refusing to wear what we want - that's fine but if they turn up in a tracksuit (this has been known at christening) - they'll be shown the door!

Agree with the above views. it's unreasonable to expect him to pay for something you have demanded and his own business how he chooses to spend his own money.

To be fair it is very unusual for the groom not to pay for the grooms parties suit hire. It can be perceived as very cheeky to expect someone to wear a certain thing and then also ask them to pay for it, although money is obviously not an issue perhaps he objects in principle because of this reason.

All of our groom's party (or whatever they're aclled!) are paying for their own suit hire at £110pp, but they knew this well in advance and were happy to. If we'd had problems, then we'd have probably had to find the money for them or scrap the matchy suits.

If he didn't know before hand then he might just be saying no on principal. He might come around, if not you'll have to pay or have him wear his own.

I understand your OH's immediate anger, but as others have said, he'll regret not having him there and it'd only cause unecessary family rifts.

Good luck!

Agree with this entirely. We paid for the suit hire for our dads, brothers and Best Man... granted our dads helped us out financially and my brother is a student but H's brother earns a great deal of money. Nevertheless we chose the suits, we asked people to wear them and therefore we paid for them... how much money people may or may not have is entirely irrelevant. Personally I think it is a little cheeky to ask people to pay for clothing when it's not their choice, unless agreed in advance or if the money is offered by them. I certainly would not think of retracting a wedding invitation over it.

This! Not inviting him over it would be ridiculous.