Change of date help

Just be honest with save dates, "wedding moved to XXX due to health / financial reasons"

Or just say, wedding moved to XXX and go with a "don't ask, don't tell" policy, because it's not really anyone's business unless you want to share the information with them.

As with children, it depends on what time you get married. If you're crafty you can arrange it so that they can drop the children off, see you get married then go pick the kids up for the reception.

So like maybe 10am (ish) service, you can have an early wedding breakfast (1-2pm) then have a "break" so anyone can collect any children and then have the reception.

Thank you for your reply we are the only ones that live in Kent others Worcester and Wiltshire. I'm will be devastated if they can't come because of school.

If it's family usually schools will be lenient, they have to fill in a form to request the day and be specific about who you are in relation to them. If their children don't take many days off in term time it should be fine, if there's a pattern of ill attendance then it won't be. You can also appeal decisions.

Didn't realize they had that much of a journey haha, well there is another option, though it's not really ethical. Lie about why the children need time off, when I was a school they had a policy that it was only very close relatives weddings you could have time off for. So we told them I was going to a funeral -little bit harder to argue the toss with that one, though I have heard stories about schools being really nasty about any time off whatsoever. Which is wrong if the kid has good attendance and catches up with their work afterwards, but oh well.It's not ideal, but it could help a couple of them out.

Alternatively could any of the kids sleep over with a friend (or relative that's not coming to your wedding)? Then they can go to school with them and come home with them and mum & dad can go to the wedding (or mum drops them off at school, goes to the wedding and the friend has them over for the night) Of course I'm assuming the kids are old enough to sleep over with a friend without too much distress.

Talk to them and see what you can work out