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Changing my name... but what to?

LEMBS8, 7 February, 2012 at 12:44 Posted on Planning 0 4

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Hi Ladies,

So I get married in 68 days! Can't wait! But I'm having a bit of a quandary about what to do about my name change. I am definitely taking H2B's surname but am undecided about exactly how. I don't want to hyphenate as I think that will be too much of a mouthful and when we have kids I don't want to strap them with a double barrelled surname 17 letters long! I know some people take their maiden name as a middle name. One article I was reading the woman added her husband's name and kept her maiden name but didn't hyphenate. So she was something like Sarah Sadler Jacobsen. I'm considering doing this - at least professionally - but it's basically like hyphenating without the dash so does it make any sense?!

I'm really attached to my maiden name as it is unique and it's been who I am for 33 years! Obviously, changing my name won't change the essence of who I am but I do like the idea of incorporating my maiden name into my new name. I am truly and honestly very excited to take my H2B's surname and don't have any reservations about it at all. I just am not sure what the best thing to do is!

Thoughts? What are you all doing?

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lurvlytwink · 7 February, 2012 at 12:58
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I am just taking my OHs name. x
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friya123 · 7 February, 2012 at 17:33
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I'm struggling with this too! And I'm amazed at how many people are surprised I don't want to just chuck my identity away in favour of my fiance's. We definitely want kids, so we'd love to all have the same name, otherwise I wouldn't even think of changing my name.

I'm thinking of doing what you described, having my maiden name as my middle name (I don't have one) and my hubby to be's name as my surname. He's also willing to take my surname and add it as a new middle name, which is nice! And I'd want my kids to have it as one of their middle names too, just so my identity is very present in their names. Like you, I don't want to double barrell, and the names don't really go together.

Very tricky one!
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Barefoot · 7 February, 2012 at 19:50
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When I got married first time around, I kept my maiden name as a middle name (I dropped my preexisting middle name) and took exH's surname. I never used my middle name, so to everyone else, I'd changed name, but I and my family knew I'd kept a piece of the family name. Now I'm remarrying it's great, I can change to OH's surname and STILL have that maiden name as my middle name with no dramas
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LEMBS8 · 7 February, 2012 at 20:33
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The more I think about it, the more I like just adding H2B's name. My sister used our surname for her kids' middle names so we'd ultimately have the same name if I do the same with my kids. I don't think H2B would have a problem with me using both names.

Thanks for the feedback!
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kittypuss85 · 7 February, 2012 at 22:54
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I am taking my OH's name, I didn't even need to think about it. Both our kids have his surname and I cant wait to change to be the same. Plus my surname is common as muck anyway.

However, if we didn't have children and my surname was more unique, maybe I would have a dilema.
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