Changing surname? How do you feel about it?

I can't wait to have the same surname as our kids and after 29 years I'd never perfected my signature anyway, my 8 year old can copy it!

Aww Miss Lovely, that's sweet.

Im excited to become Salvatore, sounds all Italian and sexy! Hehe!

Currently im Snarey and although I love my family and all that, ive never liked the name because at school I got called Scary Snarey and Hairy Snarey! Hehe!

Gotta say that I am definitely going to miss my name. It doesnt seem right to me not to have the same name as OH, but hat doesnt mean Im happy about it!! I seriously asked OH whether he would take my name instead but there is no way - and I thought about double barrelling but it would sound a bit silly! I am gutted that I wont have a nice sensible short surname anymore, and that Im going to have to start spelling out my new one to everyone, as no one ever seems to be able to get it right! It feels a tiny bit like Im losing my identity or something, but like a lot of wedding stuff, its tradition, so Im going with it!

Sid xxx

I can't wait to get rid of my name. No family reasons just hate it. Noone can spell it or pronounce it. I'm currently Burgin and it get pronounced Burjin and then it got changes at school to virgin so I was Vicki Virgin pretty much the whole way through school. I'll be Allison once I'm married. Much easier x

I was a bit sad too..and had planned to say in my speech(which didnit happen) that I'd always be my maiden name....deep down... but then ive confused everyone by marrying a man with my the same name as my mum so........ i've kinda not changed my name???

I am really excited about it! But thats more to do with me associating it with being married to him! I will be sad to not have my last name anymore (plus his is 'Brown' so not very exciting!) but I think its part of marriage and I cant wait! xxx

Vickstix, your H2B isn't a Neil by any chance, is he?!

I'm changing mine. I'm looking forward to it but sad at the same time.

Originally I refused to give up my name, now im excited by it. and booked our honeymoon in married name last week and did passport so had to use my new signigture - very weird, I felt like a fraud!

I'm kind of on the fence about it, I want to share the same surname as OH but his is a fairly common name whereas mine is more unique and as I don't have any brothers it will be the end of the line which is sad, but at the same time I won't miss having to spell it out all the time or getting embarassed pronoucing it - it's fairly rude!

It's really interesting hearing all these views.

Woo-woo; I can totally understand wanting to have the same name as your kiddies. How lovely, it will like being an official family!

Rebeccase; Salvatore sounds dead sexy!!

Sid; I looked at double-barrels for a little while too. Then thought of our kids one day and decided I'd rather not go down that route too far.

Vickstix; aww Vicki Virgin!! Not very likely once your hitched ?

Teehee; Do you think your over that little bit of sadness? Are you used to it now?

MrsB; aww you sound a good old sentimentalist!

I have ben thinking about this myself! I also can't wait to be Mrs...but I dunno if i really wanna lose McIntyre! It's been a part of me for nearly 27 years! lol. Have you had a go at the new signature yet? Its kinda strange writing it! lol

I'm a Whitney now (imagine all the fun I had in school!) and changing my name to Pancheri. Another shexeh Italian in the house!! ?

Our two children have that surname (although my eldest from a previous relationship has his dad's name) so I'm really looking forward to matching with them! Plus it's a much nicer name than mine. I am NOT looking forward to finding a new signature though. Took me long enough to come up with this one.

I have no idea how to incorperate his surname into my signature. I'll have to start practising.

I bet getting the new passport is an exciting buzz to it though Charlie!

I'm loving the sexy italian names - if only I'd met one!!

I hadnt really thought of it till this post lol!

I'm excited because i'll have the same surname as my son so we can be a proper little family. Im not really sad about leaving my surname, my brother will carry that on Im going from a stevenson to a scott so not changing from anything drastic

x

Minicooper - it's Adcock ? To make matters worse, my first name is Sarah with a 'H' on the end - try saying my full name fast and you'll guess what they used to say at school!!

Yes josie i am over it and used to it coz people always thought it WAS my name (mum and dad divorced and mum uses surname which is my married name...) so its not been a big leap for me..

I had always just presumed i would take H2B's name when we married although it makes me sad losing my surname. Plus I am the last in the line with no boys to carry it on. We had never really talked about it and then I mentioned it and my H2B was really surprised I was intending to change it!

He basically asked me why I felt I had to change my name, that he would hate to lose his name so would never expect me to do it and isn't it too much hassle changing it! So it made me think and I am still confused! I would like to be a Mrs really...what to do what to do..

This is something i have really thought hard about. I have an usual(ish) surname at the moment and i'm the last one in the family to carry that name on. I feel like if i dont my name will die. But then again, as a few others have said, i want the same name as my H2B and our son so we can be a 'proper' family. IYSWIM.

Minicooper - Have the kids mentioned it will be weird having the same surname as you? If their ok with it, then it's kind of sweet and may bring you all closer together!

Trixy - that's sweet your OH thought about how you felt about your name. You would still be a Mrs, just with same surname. But it may be a bit harder/confusing when it comes to kiddies?

Sorry, I had to have a giggle at that! School kids are soooo mean.

I have to say I'm a little dissapointed to change my surname, for the simple reason I like my surname.

My parents are Serbian, but I was born here and they said that they wanted me to have a very English name hence Samantha, but I still have my Serb surname.

My fiance, was also born here, but his parents are Russian, and when they came here shortly after the second world war, because of the usual predjudices they dropped their lovely Russian surname, Sobetski, and became Smith 'As English as could be'

And sorry, Smiths, but its a boring surname, I'd like something a little more unique.

But pity my friend, who married a Lee and became Leigh Lee ;-)
We call her Panda now !

I'm going from a McMxxxxx surname to McIxxxxx so not a massive change and impossible to double barrel ?

I'm looking forward to changing my name.

My only issue is that I associate Mrs R with his mother......not me!

Well I have always said I don't want to change my name when I marry as I love my last name. It sounds great with my first name and they just go really well. My H2B has a very common last name and it sounds rubbish with my name. Plus my son (who I had before we met) has my last name and I would hate for him to feel left out. Imagine my surprise when H2B said he wants to change HIS name to be the same as us. We have never been traditional lol!

I HATE my surname, so would like to take OHs surname for that reason. Although, my son has my surname after a big battle with deed poll to get it changed from his dads. I don't want to change his surname again, but I don't like the thought of him having a different surname to me if I take my OHs name.

OH has 2 kids, who both have his name, so my son would be the odd one out, and I don't like the thought of that. I don't know what to do really.

I love being a Smith - it makes me chuckle every time I book a hotel room. Why is it boring?

I went from something "unique" and "different" which was quite frankly a pain in the a*se. I loved changing it!

I'm looking forward to having the same surname as my H2B and our boys but really don't like H2Bs surname!

Nobody can spell or pronounce it. It gets embarrasing!

So other than having the same name as my boys No I'm not really looking forward to it! Whoops!

xx

Can't wait, have to spell my surname to everyone, so can't wait to be a Barker.

I changed my name in May 09 back to my Maiden name (after my divorce was finalised) and I've become quite attached to it again! It's so much hassle to get everyone to acknowledge a name change through Deed Poll though - you phone up and tell the credit card people that you've changed your name, they say congratulations (assuming you just got married) and you have to explain you're going back to being a Miss! Much easier when you get married.

I'm still undecided. I don't know that it's worth all the paperwork to change driving license, passport, bank details etc. But I can still be known as Mrs D even if my legal documents say Miss C!

Hi all, this is my 2nd marriage and can't wait to get rid of current surname its my ex hubby's I ddin't change after the divorce.

My maiden name couldn't be pronounced or spelt properly

my current surname can't be prounounced or spelt properly

and my new surname is going to be more hard to pronounce and spelt properly... AAAHHH

My daughter from ex hubby is upset I change mine and she stays as she is, but she's getting used to the idea.. awww

I can't wait to marry my soulmate and bestfriend and become a 'Taylor' but I keep thinking that I won't be part of my family anymore because I won't have the same name as my mum, dad and brother (sounds soooooo stupid I know).

The thing that will be nice that I am particularly looking forward to is that at least people will be able to pronounce at least one of my names and spell it correctly ? and my initials will stay the same which is a brucey bonus.

Hi Josie!

Having been a Perry for the past 27 years I can vouch for the fact that it is a great name to have and I'm going to miss it a lot after Saturday ☹️

It's quite nice knowing that someone else is going to become a Perry though, it makes me feel better about losing it, it's like I'm passing the Perry baton on ? x