changing the date WWYD?

I am getting married in the registry office on the 27/7 and not having the reception and church blessing until 30th July. You could allways get married in registry office like you want and have blessing and reception day after, best of both worlds!

Personally I would do what I wanted and not what everyone else wanted. If you only went for it because of pressure then I wouldnt do it. We are only having 50 people to our day although am sure both sets of parents would love it to be much bigger! But neither of us wanted a non personal day, sorry to all of you having large weddings - i love going to them and think they can be lovely it's just not very 'us', and at the end of the day your day should reflect who you are as a couple.

If you do go for the registry then what is more important to you the date? or the time? If you are having a smaller do could you afford to reprint STD and not affect your budget too much or would that knock it too much. AM guessing you will also have to send free the date cards to those who are not going to be going to the smaller version so remember that cost as well. Ooo tough one for you hun, hope what ever you chose you make the right decision for you. xx

Who said you had to have the ceremony and reception on the same day?

If all you want is a small, intimate ceremony (close friends and family only) then that's all you have to have.

If people get arsey because they weren't invited - then they've justified why they weren't invited. Nobody, however long you've known them/worked with them/been their friend, has an automatic right to be invited - not even family, for that matter.

Change the evening do from 'wedding reception' to 'celebration of our marriage' and you should be clear.

Sure, you'll still upset some people, but which is more important - you and your future husband's happiness, or that sweaty guy that drinks too much coffee from 3 offices down's happiness?

Why didnt i think of suggesting that? A friend of mine did it, but there were only a select few of us who knew she was already married when she had her church service, and to be honest even though i knew i couldnt really tell the difference.

you have the church booked and all, so why not just invite the 30 odd people that you want and have the wedding in the church! and dont feel pressured into having the 200 odd people. just tell people thats it what you and your OH want. and if they go on about it then just say "well obviously thats what you would do...but this is our day and its the way we want it. I just wish people would remember that!"

Thanks for all the advice ladies!

The time of day is definately more important to us than the day on which we get married.

About the church though, it was booked as we felt like it was what was expected of us. None of us are hugely religious but grandparents etc. are and a church wedding was what they wanted.

Now thinking about it over the past few months, i think i'm going to feel a bit like a hypocrite if i get married in church as we dont attend apart from for funerals and weddings.

If we were to change the day of the wedding, i think i'd be able to just pop a note in with the invitations saying to note that the date has changed etc. Most people i will see before the wedding to explain why anyway.

Over half of the 200 people we originally wanted there, we dont see from one year to the next, so why should i invite them to my wedding anyway?! (Bridezilla Alert!!!)

I know other half is crapping his pants over messing up in front of that many people and so am i to be honest, think we would both feel more comfortable if it was just our immediate family for us to mess up in front of!

I'd change the date. It's only a save the date that's been sent not a formal invitation so you can change your mind on who you invite and the day you get married.

I wouldn't have a church wedding just because you think it's expected. Personally, I don't see the point in "pretending" to get married when you already are. As a guests I'd much rather attend a party in the evening than watch some "renew" their vows just for the sake of it.