Changing your surname

I dont think taking your H2B name suggests you are being taken over!!!! :-)

But im like you I love to see peoples opinion on this, I find it such a facinating topic to read. So many different reasons to take/not take OH name, Id really never thought about this topic before I came on hitched :-)

Im sure we'll all be happy whatever we decide x

Well traditionally you are 'given away' by your father to your husband. Strictly speaking your name also becomes Mrs. HISFIRSTNAME HISLASTNAME eg. Jane Brown or Mrs John Brown rather than Mrs. Jane Brown which is the common usage.

I took my H's surname. Never even thought of not taking it. I think my H would have been a bit disappointed if i didn't take it too.

Me and my OH had a chat about this after i had come off here, and I have decided to take his name, I didnt realise how much it meant to him, Im sad that im gonna lose my name but its a new chapter in my life and now i feel quite excited, funny how one conversation can make you feel totally different!

I changed mine to OH's name, was never a question about it as I didn't want to keep my maiden name as to me that is an important part of getting married and sharing that link.

I am 100% not being taken over and I couldn't care what outsiders thought if I hadn't taken him name. For me it is strange to consider not taking your H's name but then I wanted to be his wife through name as well as legally.

I'd never have a different name from future children and don't see the point in picking a name from thin air just so no one feels taken over.

Hope you manage to reach a decision you are both happy with.

I will be taking on my H2B's name and i cant wait. Mine is Ryan and will become Hedgecock. Im looking forward to know longer being a Ryan.

Its personal preference at the end of the day. Good luck deciding x

I've kept my maiden name. As some will remember, it wasn't an easy or quick decision. H's name is very unusual and is a funny/rude sounding word. Mine isn't great, in fact if it wasn't so common it'd be worse than H's! H doesn't like his name at all, says it's caused him nothing but bother. I did come to to the conculsion that I would change my name to his because a) I wanted to share a name with him and b)I wouldn't want a different name to any children we may have in future. He really discouraged me from taking his name, and doesn't want his kids to have his surname, so the plan is for any sprogs to take my surname and H will informally use my surname. He's not taken my name officially as it would be a pain for him professionally.

We considered meshing our names to create a new one, but in the end decided it was too much bother, and were worried we'd regret it in years to come. Discovering it was a US fad put me off somewhat too. Double-barelling just come up with ridiculous porn star sounding names. Our mother's maidon names are both lovely but my in-laws are divorced so taking his mother's mn would be a bit of a kick in the teeth to FIL.

Although I was/am a bit upset I don't get to change my name, for the silly things like a new signature, it really doesn't bother me at all, being married isn't just about changing your name. We got lots of wedding and Christmas cards to Mr&Mrs [H's name] but I can't blame people for presuming that's our names.

It's really up to you, I don't think you should feel that it means your h2b will own you or anything though. Our reasons were purely vanity, I'd be lying if I said I did it to retain my identity etc., and if H's surname was more normal I wouldn't have hesitated to use it.

Before I met C I was so excited at the thought of marrying someone, changing my name and having a name which people could both spell and pronounce.

However, his name is just as stupid as mine so have decided to stick with mine as at least I can spell mine!

If we're blessed with children then I'm doing what someone else on her said and having my surname as their second middle name i.e. Wallace grommit myname hisname. But they will only use his name.

Still haven't decided on the whole Miss/Ms/Mrs thing... I never get called Miss S anymore in any situation I can think of so can't think i'll bother to change it...

Im changing and cannot wait its just something that i always assumed would happen when i married and now i couldnt imagion now. i will be mrs C holland!

I'm taking my H2B's surname, because it's not as common as mine. Mine is one of the ten most common surnames in the UK.

I must be one of hundreds (if not thousands) of girls/women called Elizabeth/Elisabeth <surname>. Admittedly there won't be as many with the spelling Elisabeth, like me, but that doesn't matter as it's still the same name.

I can't wait to be become a bit 'rarer'. ?

i'm the exact opposite, my surname is so unusual that i am the only Nicola with it on face book!!! so lots of random people from the past have found me, I never give my name out at work to anyone because it would be so easy for disgruntled customer to find me ....eek!

i want to me more "common" so i can blend in ? When i change my name there are thousands of people with it.