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Beginner July 2012

Chief Bridesmaid Rant!!

katiejm1989, 29 May, 2012 at 15:58 Posted on Planning 0 15
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Hello guys, just wondering if there are any other brides to be who are having a nightmare time with their chief bridesmaid!!

I have been friends with her for years and was obvious choice, shes been married 2 years and understands the cost etc. When i asked her she was overjoyed and sat me down saying ' I understand how hard it is, I would like to buy my dress'. This i thought was really nice of her. Her young daughter is also my flower girl and she said the same about her.

Skip forward a year and its a year till the big day and planning time, i find a fantastic dressmaker who says she will make my ideal bridesmaid dresses for £100, fab i thought untill i approached my CB, She was not happy stating she couldnt afford it. Fair enough i reasoned with her and stated i would pay half... still not good enough, I feel really bad at this point so go searching for a cheaper dress, im already over budget so couldnt really afford to pay the full amount. I find a new dress in Littlewoods and it is stunning and a steal of a price for £27. She is more than happy and i go ahead and order the other 3 dresses i need. Until i find out she hasnt ordered hers because she now doesnt like it. Im fuming at this point as all the other bridesmaids love it..after a heated debate she finally orders.....ahhh peace is restored....(i have paid for her daughters dress and accessories BTW)

Hen party planning time!! Im planning my own hen night as she doesnt want to do it, then doesnt like what ive planned!! The plan is to meet at my mums with some nibbles and predrinks, I have then ordered a mini bus to take us out of town wait for us and return us home. Im organising party bags, sashes and the drinks for my mums and all i am charging is £20 per head including the mini bus!! Everyone is pleased except CB stating she feels like she is being robbed. Then i findd out she hasnt even booked the night off work!!!

Finally she wants to make her own way to the church, she doesnt even want to get ready with me!! im gutted as i have a photographer present whilst i am getting ready and really want photos of me and her!!.

My OH is livid and doesnt want her as bridesmaid!!

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Latest activity by mamavonsponge, 29 May, 2012 at 17:50
  • Perfection Weddings
    Beginner March 2012
    Perfection Weddings ·
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    I wouldnt have her. sorry but you will remember your wedding day for the rest of your life and it should be perfect your best friend should be doing everything to make it easier for you.

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    tell her how rude and unreasonable she is being and if that doesnt work then its her own problem!

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  • kharv
    Beginner March 2012
    kharv ·
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    Erm, it doesn't sound like she wants to be your bridesmaid to be honest.

    Have you spoken to her? Does she have something going on that she hasn't told you about maybe?

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  • K
    Beginner July 2012
    katiejm1989 ·
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    I thought that but she was overjoyed when i asked her, she says everythings fine!!

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  • 2b_MrsB
    Beginner June 2013
    2b_MrsB ·
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    Totally out of order ....Sorry but TBH I'd sack her if she was mine.

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  • Perfection Weddings
    Beginner March 2012
    Perfection Weddings ·
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    Jelousy maybe?

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  • weemee
    Beginner July 2012
    weemee ·
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    Totally agree with the above 2 posts. Feck 'er. She obviously isn't that interested.

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    chenyi000 ·
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    She says everythings fine!!

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  • kharv
    Beginner March 2012
    kharv ·
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    I think you need to sit down and have it out with her.

    She definitely isn't acting reasonably, but because her behaviour has changed so much from when you asked her I'm inclined to think there's more to it.

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  • K
    Beginner July 2012
    katiejm1989 ·
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    I just dont want to bin her off and she say that shes not coming and her daughter cant be flower girl, i think as its so close i dont wana cause any upset, but then i think its my bloody day!!!!

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  • kharv
    Beginner March 2012
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    As I say - talk to her.

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  • *gnashers*
    Beginner October 2013
    *gnashers* ·
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    This.

    Why don't you go out for a drink with her and have a proper chat, and see if she opens up?

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    Trickers ·
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    TBH, she sounds like she has other things going on. If you are as close as you say you are then I think it a bit harsh to just say "feck her".

    You need to talk to her.

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    Beginner June 2012
    Country Flower ·
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    That's awful - surely she remembers how important the day was when she got married - I'd tell her you're not happy and see if you can work it out.

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  • K
    Beginner July 2012
    katiejm1989 ·
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    Thanks guys, i dont just wanna bin her off as the day wouldnt be the same without her, Im goin to arrange a girly night. Hopefully she will open up

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    ^ this. Sounds like something is amiss, definitely - if it were just one or two things it wouldn't be that much of a problem, but all together... I wouldn't be pleased either! You deserve someone who's got your back and it doesn't sound like she has. Maybe a quiet (or not so quiet) word is in order!

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  • mamavonsponge
    Beginner August 2012
    mamavonsponge ·
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    I sacked my maid of honour, she was useless.

    I've done everything my self without, and decided she doesn't deserve the 'honour'.

    And i've known her 9 Years.

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