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MrsSkinner2be
Beginner May 2014

Choosing a Wedding Day - what would you do? Just wanna book it up now

MrsSkinner2be, 18 March, 2013 at 17:13 Posted on Planning 0 13

Just want to have a little moan. About no one in particular at all but I'm getting worried about what day we are going to have our wedding. We were planning for April/May next year and have pretty much narrowed it down to two favourites (although 1 is higher than the other). H2B wants to go back and look at both of them and then make a decision. We are going to my favourite this Saturday but probably can't go back to the other one until 6th April.

We saw our favourite for the first time in the middle of Feb and about a week later I asked what available Saturdays they had in March, April or May and at that time the answer was just 2 Saturdays in May. I have today asked if they had either of the Sundays before the May bank holidays available and these are all booked. My worry now is that by the time we are ready to book (won't be until after 6th April) if we choose this venue there might not be any Saturdays left.

Now H2B isn't worried at all about this as he said we should get married on a Sunday if there are no Saturdays left and it will be cheaper. However if I had a choice I said I'd prefer a Friday than a Sunday. My reasoning behind this is that then people won't have to leave early on a Friday night as they won't be working the next day but on Sundays some people might leave early as they have to work the next day. He however thinks if it's a Friday some people may not come at all as they won't/can't book a day off work (we will be giving them over a years notice once we book).

Do you think it would be better to go for a Friday or a Sunday wedding. I really don't want loads of people leaving early on a sunday cos they've got work the next day. Our other problem is having to arrange it around the school holidays as a lot of our friends and family are teachers that couldn't take days off if it was on a friday. Plus we have a lot of children coming too and wouldn't want them to miss the wedding.

What would you all do?

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Latest activity by MrsSkinner2be, 19 March, 2013 at 16:14
  • ForTheLoveOfMrsBrown
    Beginner January 2012
    ForTheLoveOfMrsBrown ·
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    If it's school holidays, would the teachers have to leave early on the Sunday? And if they are back at school by the Monday, they would very likely be working on that Friday anyway. It seems that this issue cancels itself out, either way.

    Do you have lots of people travelling? If not, I see no reason for people to leave absurdly early on a Sunday. If I were local and working the next day, I could still manage an 11:30 finish (OK, OK, I could do far later than that, but I'm talking about proper grown-ups!).

    You choice might be that you have lots of people absent for the Friday or only leaving early on the Sunday. It seems like a no-brainer to me.

    However, if you have people travelling, and the choice is therefore the Friday or the Monday off, I'd go for the Friday wedding (to give them a nice weekend off afterwards).

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  • wishfulwhispers
    Beginner July 2013
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    Having not been to a wedding since i was about 5, i cant really comment. all i would say is a friend of mine went to a wedding last year on a sunday, most left early and hardly anyone drank as they all had work the next day. I dont know what your friends/family are like but I know all of mine would book a day off work to come, so i would lean more to the friday. Also, if you're have a 2pm ceremony then most will only need to book an afternoon off work and finish at 12.

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  • Holey
    Beginner July 2011
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    We got married on a Friday during term time and we had at least three teachers there. Unfortunately you can't cater for everyone but we just gave everyone plenty of notice and none of them said it was a problem. Not sure if this was the selfish thing to do but everyone still came.

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  • BarcaGirl25
    Beginner April 2014
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    We are marrying on a Sunday before a bank holiday Monday so win win!

    youre looking in Bucks right? Where you looking at?

    xx

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  • MrsSkinner2be
    Beginner May 2014
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    I tried that but the venue I love is booked for both may ones. We are hoping for Notley Tythe barn

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  • J
    Beginner August 2013
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    We were really tight on dates so I actually let my date choice dictate my venue choice.

    That said, I was allowed to 'hold' a date for 2 weeks (without payment) until I saw it, could you do that? However when I did this at one venue they did contact me to say someone else wanted the date and was willing to pay so gave me 48 hours to decide and pay the deposit or let the other person have the date, so not ideal but did buy a little more time.

    For what it's worth, as a guest I'd rather go on a Friday, especially if it's a later start so you only need a half day A/L, than a Sunday.

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  • FlickAndZeb
    Beginner September 2013
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    We wanted to get married on a date as close to our anniversary as possible (22nd Sept) So we've chosen Friday 20th September this year.

    I would much rather book an afternoon off of work on a friday to relax and enjoy the wedding and weekend than worrying about what time I need to get to bed/get the kids in bed on a sunday evening!
    It may be slightly cheaper but it's only guna happen once. You could make a weekend of it and those who possibly couldn't come on the friday could celebrate with you at the weekend. A 3 day wedding? What could be better! Smiley tongue

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  • PinkLady3
    Beginner September 2014
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    Can you not hold the date free of charge for 14 days? That's what we did.

    We are getting married on a Friday, as I worried people would leave early on a Sunday. We are going to send save the dates out a year in advance so everyone has plenty of notice to book time off work. X

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  • S108HAN
    Beginner August 2013
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    I've been to two Friday weddings and one Sunday wedding. I booked annual leave for the day after the Sunday wedding and I'm glad I did because, despite a large guest list, I was the last person left dancing with the bride for much the last hour of the night. The Friday weddings were packed to the last. In our borough, you pay more for your registrar on a Sunday than a Friday by about £400 too.

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  • slou90
    Beginner April 2014
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    We are getting married on a Wednesday it cut our costs by £5000 so it was a no brianer. Its in the easter hoidays so kids will be off school and the way we look at it, if people want to be there they will make that effort. ? We basically fell in love with a venue and couldn't walk away from it , it was either spend our budget for what we wanted on a weekday or choose somewhere else for a weekend... I think we made the right choice! You don't want people just rocking up to your wedding cause its the weekend and they have nothing better to do ?x

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  • *gnashers*
    Beginner October 2013
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    I say Friday but I'm getting married on a Friday so I'm biased.

    Sunday was out for us as we're having a church wedding and I didn't want to get married on a Sunday.

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  • MrsSkinner2be
    Beginner May 2014
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    Thanks everyone - I am in agreement that a Friday would be better. The real issue is the teachers but if we aim to have it in the school half terms and give them over a years notice then surely they can sort something for one day.

    Still aiming for a Saturday but I want the venue more than the specific day so willing to compromise

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  • MrsSkinner2be
    Beginner May 2014
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    Sadly that's Good Friday and our local registrars won't do a service on Good Friday Smiley sad lazy bums!

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