Church Wedding in a different Parish

Hi Kayleigh, I believe it is possible but you have to apply for a special license, https://www.yourchurchwedding.org/default.aspx should be able to help with info x

Are there any other churches closer to the venue? If they have already said they can only offer a blessing they may not change their mind. What kind of church is it? We are marrying in church of england outside of our parish and the vicar said they have been stung by a lot of sham weddings recently so they have tightened up with weddings.

The only reason I can marry there is because my parents married there he said if I didnt then they wouldnt even consider it

You could try attending for a while to show that you are committed? Then maybe raise the question again?

Hi, I don't think he can actually refuse if your willing to satisfy the requirement of going to church and applying for membership there. That's mean of him to be so unhelpful. Check this site out for help on that one:

https://www.yourchurchwedding.org/youre-welcome/more-churches-to-choose-from.aspx

Good luck and welcome to Hitched!

I just re-read your OP and realised you had phoned them not had a meeting

Maybe go to the mass for a couple of weeks and then approach the preiest face to face

How long until you marry there? You should be able to attend for 6 months and then go on the church electrol roll

Thanks for the replies

We are planning to go along to their service this weekend, hopefully they will see we are really keen! I spoke to someone in the Parish Office but she didnt say who she was - I'm hoping it was just a moody secretary rather than the Vicar herself! I didnt think they could refuse us if we could create connection over 6 months, but I guess its just down to their discretion. Would we be able to get onto the Electoral Roll by attending? We are hoping to marry in June 2012 so have lots of time to try to make friends if we can!

There is another lovely church just down the road but its in the same Parish so I would need to speak to the same office and I guess she would give me the same answer

Sorry for all my silly questions - its all a bit confusing at the moment!

Thanks

Kayleigh xxx

Hi Kayleigh Your getting married the same month as me :-) I'd recommend going for a couple of weeks and making the approach on the 2nd visit. When you speak to the priest explain how important a church wedding is to you. If become a regular member you should be ok Keep us posted.

Hiya, originally i had my heart set on a church wedding, and i approched the one in the neighbouring village, my dad died when i was 7 and i used to cycle there and sit on the steps and read and gather my thoughts but never attended there, at first they said no as im not in the parish, so i them emailed the rev and explained why the church ment so much to me, they then agreed to do it, it also helped tht i went to school in the parish as a child too,

after all that, and after a lot of thinking i changed my mind, yes the church ment alot to me, just because it was so peaceful and beautiful, but deep down iv realised it wasnt the whole god and religion thing tht gave me peace it was the surroundings, i havnt been to church since i was a child so we decided it would sit better with us to get married at the hotel where we were having the reception.....anyway im blabbering....like the others said try and strike up a relationship with tht church and when they realise ur a face they recongise approach them again, good luck

Hi Kayleigh

We're getting married in a parish different to where we live and we were told that we didn't need a special license to marry there, we just have to go on the electoral roll for the church where we are marrying. To do this we have to attend church at least once a month for six months, and we can then register on the electoral roll after the six months.

Hope that's of some help to you.

Claire x

Thanks for all your help ladies! I'll make sure I keep you updated - I'm hoping that everything will work out ok with a bit of time and patience.

The only thing I worry about now is booking the reception venue... shall I just go ahead and put a deposit down and hope that after 6 months of attending the church they will have the same date available, or do I wait and risk the venue booking up?! What did you do Claire?

We're off to the National Wedding show at the NEC on Saturday so I've got that to look forward to for now

Lil Miss Red, how exciting.. the next year and few months is going to fly by!! x

Have you found a venue already? Maybe explain the situation to them and ask if they can hold the date for you? Ours have been holding since Decemeber and we haven't paid deposit yet.

Because we were told that we could go on the electoral roll after 6 months we started attending church (from Sept) and booked our reception. By the time our banns will be read we'll be on the electoral roll (all being well) so we won't have to pay for the banns being read in our local parish as well. We're getting known at church now as well. All i can suggest is go along and get to know people and actually speak to the vicar and see what they say. Hope you can get something sorted.

Claire xx