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Cold feet (sort of)

.A.S., 28 June, 2014 at 18:46 Posted on Planning 0 2

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Hitched is telling me I have 6 days and 5 hours and with every hour that goes by this cannon ball in my stomach feels heavier and heavier. Now, don't get me wrong, I ADORE my H2B and daydream (even right now) about wearing my wedding ring and just being together with our baby in the hotel after the wedding as a quiet little family unit reading cards and nibbling cake; but right now I am going through this impending dread phase.

im struggling to cope with letting go of control on the morning of the wedding (I am a Monica)

The weather forecast says it will be heavy rain all day (I can't believe I'm looking already, or that I'm bothered, our venue doesn't have "grounds")

i can't stop eating after dieting SO hard for my dress

i had a stupid niggle with my hair lady over travel expenses. It's really no big deal, but it's another niggle to add to the fire

my damn florist won't send me a damn invoice

i am a daddy's girl but we have a... Testy relationship (too alike) and I'm feeling tense at walking down the aisle with him. I can't put my finger on why

every time I think of walking into the ceremony room and 70 faces turning to stare at me in a HUGE dress I feel like vomiting. Oh bugger.

there are other niggles... All minor. But please tell me other people had the cannonball feeling in the run up to the big day. I feel terribly guilty for confiding in H2B that i don't feel excited. I hate that I might have bust his bubble a little, even though he knows what I'm like

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pammy67 · 28 June, 2014 at 19:06
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Oh you poor thing. Wish I knew what to say. But stop looking at the weather - there is nothing you can do about it!

You will have a wonderful day whatever and at the end of it you will be married to your wonderful H2B. Lots of hugs x

PS - I'm trying the Repairwear Laser Focus foundation and I do wuite like it - so thank you for giving such great advice x
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LJ21 · 28 June, 2014 at 19:28
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I'm sorry that you're feeling this way, but it does not sound like you have cold feet at all. As you say, you adore H2B and can't wait to be his wife, it's just the little niggles that are mounting, which is understandable; you've spent time planning this day and you want it to go smoothly, which I'm sure it will.

With regards to your feelings about waking down the aisle with your dad, could this be your feelings towards being 'given away'? You say you are a daddy's girl (as am I) and the thought of taking my last walk with him so to speak before being entrusted into the care of my H2B makes me sad... Not that anything will change, but perhaps that's the reason behind your feelings. Perhaps talk to your dad about this, he may be able to put you at ease.

6 days is not a long time in the grand scheme of things, but as it's approaching and it's your main thought day and night, I think it's only natural to be feeling this way. I'm sure the day before you will be a ball of excitement and will put the way you're feeling right now down to part of the roller coaster!

And 6 days eeeeek how exciting for you
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alyj66 · 28 June, 2014 at 20:04
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I had my legal ceremony last year (blessing this year) and I can honestly say I was sat in the hairdressers a few hours before the ceremony and I had the dread. I didn't want to go through with the ceremony and I had a feeling of absolute terror at getting married BUT it soon went once I'd had a swig of whisky I put my dress on and saw the OH. It will go away and so long as when you're lucid you're 100% sure that you're doing the right thing then you are doing the right thing. It will all be ok, honest. Take a deep breath and smile.
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