Colour Scheme - nightmare

Hello, welcome to hitched ?

Could your bridesmaid wear a dark shade of dusky pink for her dress?

You don't say how many bridesmaids you are having but if you are having a few then they could have dresses in different shades of pink? Mismatch dresses are quite popular at the moment ;-)

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Here are a few examples...

The dress in the middle is quite a deep colour, so something like that?

Or the one on the far right?

How about a contrasting colour for the BMs? Navy would look gorgeous with a bouquet of dusky pinks.

Hey, im new to this as well!!

I may be naive as just starting to plan our wedding, however I have always been of the opinion its your wedding it should be what u want? Its nice to get the bridesmaids opinion but ultimately shouldnt it be u choosing the dress ie shape and colour?? Xx

The general rule of thumb is that if you're paying for the dresses then you can choose what your bridesmaids wear. However, it's generally accepted that you want your bridesmaids to feel comfortable and look as lovely as they can so it's always best to take their views into account if you can.

Welcome to hitched!

I think its a lovely colour scheme. Agree with Kharv that a contrasting colour like navy would look lovely too

Hello!

My initial thought was also navy to go with dusky pinks and champagne / ivory. That or a darker dusky pink would look lovely.

I initially wanted dusky pink but now have floral patterned BM dresses so have no colour scheme as such, just pinks, purples, yellow, green & blue lol! Maybe go dress shopping with your BM to get some ideas of shape and style?

I think your best bet is to go shopping with her and get trying on some dresses. As others have said there are darker dusky pinks out there or navy would look lovely (although I'm biased as my bridesmaids wore navy)

I know that sort of colour scheme would look terrible on me as it normally makes me look naked! However, personally I'd put up and shut up if the bride wanted that colour scheme.

Tell your BM to screw off its your day not hers - mine will wear baby blue... weather they like it or not

the only reason to change what you want is practicality (i.e. pregnant BMs, BMs with medical reasons)

Hi Kelly, Welcome to Hitched!

I think the previous suggestion of navy is a lovely idea, and a dark dusky pink could work well too. Try and see your colour scheme as a theme rather than something that dictates your every choice. Otherwise it will be a massive pain in the bum and might force you to make choices you don't want to make!

I absolutely disagree with telling your BM to do exactly what you want. You choose bridesmaids as they're your friends/close family and I'm sure you want her to be happy. My approach with my BMs was that I had an idea of the dress, but most important to me is that they feel happy and comfortable. Happy BMs = happy day + lovely photos.

It sounds to me - reading between the lines, and I'm sorry if I'm wrong - that your BM maybe rather curvy and maybe doesn't have the utmost body confidence (I've been there, as I'm sure many of us have) Go shopping with her and keep an open mind. Try on all kinds of dress styles and colours - you may find something that's perfect that you'd never dreamed of

Good luck to you both!

Thank you all very much for your opinions. They are very helpful. think I will opt for the different colour pinks - that may work. I just get so disheartened when I fine something I like & it is not suitable for my BM.

I'm sure it will allc ome together in the end! ?

I don't understand that attitude at all, surely you choose your bridesmaids because you like them?! So why wouldn't you want them to be comfortable?

Sorry Kelly I should add my post wasn't aimed at you, it was aimed at the posters above

This.

I pick BMs because their my friends but I have plenty more friends if they chose to be divas and make it about them (lets face it what friend would do that)... its MY day not theirs

ive made lots of changes to accommodate my bridesmaids (choosing looser/floaty-er material, better body support, find flat shoes for one of them) but the style and color remain - if you let them walk all over you and let people dictate 'oh, I dont like pink id rather wear black' or 'I dont like roses I want lillies' you'll end up with a day you hate... its not about what the BMs like

as a BM (which I will be in 4 months) I wouldn't dream of ever going again the brides color scheme even if it was highlighter green and yellow puffball... the only reason I would object is if it was backless because I have scars and a skin condition and my friends know that not just because I dont 'like' something