So, last night OH woke me up because I was crying and shaking in my sleep - basically, full blown nightmare. About our wedding.
It is a completely insane nightmare that actually didn't warrant any where near the reaction, but it has made me realise actually how strong my feelings are towards wedding hats.
When we started thinking about our invitations, the one that that I really stipulated was that I don't want people wearing hats and fascinators to our wedding. My reasons are thus: a) I hate them. I think they look ridiculous. b) They ruin photos - from the university friends who are obscured by fascinator feathers in front , to the shadow covered eyes of the MOB. I just don't like them. c) No one in my life wears a hat normally, why, when people are all trying to look their best do they suddenly decide that a giant satellite dish is the perfect accessory? d) We are getting married indoors, no one wears a hat in doors on a normal day, it would be considered rude - why is it not at a wedding? e) They cost a ridiculous amount of money for something that looks pretty ridiculous f) I hate them. (I know this is an extreme view!)
So, on the invitations, we wrote something along the lines of: We respectfully request that as the wedding is a mainly indoor event, no guests wear a hat or fascinator.
Basically, if worded slightly more bluntly: If you turn up wearing a hat, you make the choice to remove it, or remove yourself. If you choses neither of these, the bride will quite happily put it on a bonfire.....
(So you get the idea - I hate hats!)
Last night, I dreamt that we had the ceremony and no one was wearing hats, and as we turned round and were pronounced man and wife, some 'hilarious' person decided to get the entire congregation to but on giant hats. I decided at that point that I wanted to leave my own wedding.
So, little bit of a nightmare, and suddenly, I realise actually how deep my dislike of wedding hats goes. And now, I am worried about the actual day! I suffer from anxiety disorders, and silly things can seem irrationally huge. This is clearly one of them!
How do you get across to people that something that seems so ridiculous is actually a huge deal to you?
Does anyone else have any huge (irrational) hates for their wedding or am I just going slightly delirious?!
