Crying!

I am not an emotional crier (I don't cry in arguments or even when people die) but I am a sentimental crier (I cry at films or at memories). True to this pattern, I could very quickly bring on the tears when, in the run up to my big day, I imagined my appearance at the top of the aisle and what the speeches would be like, or every time I went over one of our readings. Dreamy romantic nonsense!

One the day though? Nada. Not a drop.

And surely you're not going to be wailing - will your eyes really go puffy if you leak a little?

Don't fight it. It will be game over as soon as you see your future husband ?

I am already worried about this!! My whole family are blubbers, OH's family (with the exception of him, I must have given him the blubber lurgy) are absolutely not. I quite like that my family will appear even more insane to his family than they already think we are!

Unfortunately, I thought it would be a good idea to have Dad's favourite van Morrison song played on the piano as we walk down a VERY long aisle...mistake number 1!

I am thinking firstly that I will get eyelash tint/extensions rather than wear mascara, because with all the good will in the world, NONE are waterproof. Secondly I will ask OH to have some tissues in his pocket for me (and him?!) so I can pretend to look like a graceful crier who delicately dabs their eyes!

Good luck!

Can not help much but what I do know is that waving both hands a your face will not help stop you.

We will both blub. I read my speech today. I cried.

I read the first 2 paras to H2B at the weekend, we both cried.

It's going to happen. I too am fugly when I sob. I'm thinking those pics can be in B&W to tone down the blotching! And my eyes are a great shade of bright green after a cry ha ha.

Embrace the tears!!!

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My brother is the worst in my family! Sometimes the rest of us are ok until he starts the chain reaction! He is giving me away and when discussing walking down the aisle my mum said "no one will be looking at you, they'll be looking at xxxx crying!"

I really don't know what I'll do either, I'm such an ugly crier too. Feck, I'm now about to start crying at work even thinking about the prospect of the wedding!

On my friend's wedding day her brother was also giving her away, when he saw her in her dress he broke, which then ofcourse started us BM's and her mum! She was ok though and handed her mum a hankie with 'no ugly crying' embroidered on it!

If you think you are about to cry try to think of something else, it always works.

Also girls, don't forget that blubbing in daily life usually follows some kind of trauma, maybe a period of introspection. On your wedding day, you will have a fair amount of adrenaline coursing through your veins, which suppresses crying (this is why we often find ourselves crying at the END of a particular event - the adrenaline has worn off).

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Just let it out skeppers! To be honest when people attempt to hold tears in that's when you get a constipated/deer in headlights look, which is much less attractive than doing what you're originally doing which is just a normal human reaction.

(If you really want I will photoshop any beetroots out )

Haha!! I fear this too, my eyes & nose turn bright red at the merest hint of a tear!!

And don't get me started on the blotches!! Never look like that in films do they ?

I'm a crier.

I cry when sad, angry, emotional or happy. I even cry at DIY SOS (Those big build ones get me every time - LOL)

The only thing I can do is wear false lashes, not mascara, and have tissues in OHs pocket or in the bag I'm going to have with me (Think I may get bridesmaid to hold it for me) with the spare makeup ready to fix my face.

Make sure you have some heavy duty waterproof mascara on? OH has already said he's going to be crying like a baby, I've told him he needs to man up!

Make sure it's waterproof makeup and maybe get a pretty hanky that u can dab with or hide behind! I cry at everything but didn't on the wedding day... not a drop!! I was too happy & excited!

Ahhh...I love a nice scientific reasoning. Thanks for that; I feel better about the whole thing now. When I say I am an ugly crier though, I mean UGLY. I just have to well up and it's like a facial apocalypse..bright red, blotches, the whole shebang.

The eyelash tinting sounds like a plan- is it bad for your eyelashes though? Will it make them all fall out?

Marianne- I think you're going to be too busy Photoshopping out the double chins and shine to worry about my beetroot face!!

I did ask a beauty therapist friend of mine this. She said it is perfectly safe and they do fall out hence needing to get them re-done, however eyelashes fall out and re-grow naturally without this treatment anyway, we just don't notice it.

Having said that, I think I might go for extensions anyway as my eyelashes are very short!

I am a massive cryer and the thought of turning into an ugly, blabbing mess is concerning me hugely despite still having more than a year until the wedding.

I am slightly encouraged by the reports that some who are usual criers didn't on the day as I would love to be able to hold it together!!

I am a massive crier. I cry at Jeremy Kyle, adverts...you get the gist. However, I didn't cry during my wedding ceremony. I think I was just so nervous and overwhelmed and the whole thing felt so surreal that I wasn't really overcome with emotion. Fingers crossed you'll be the same!

I'm also worried about this, since having my son for some reason I've became an emotional wreck. Cry at everything from sad films to my sons toy story dvd's...adverts the lot. So dreading wedding day, if I look over at my mum who will cry i'll be set off so going to try and avoid that, and also going to try and think different thoughts and not focus on why i'm going to cry haha. OH won't cry I don't think, he blubbed when our son was born and that was it.

On the other hand though I think I may be full of nerves and be thinking of everyone watching etc and may be too hyper feeling to cry, will see on the day if I end up making a fool of myself lol.

THAT is excellent news to me! Much like what Skeptical said I too am an ugly crier and was a little curious of if this would bite me. I'm more of a emotional than a sentimental crier but i tend to suppress it but my voice wavers a lot.

I sing at a LOT of weddings. In my experience 98% of the time it is the groom that cries. Think I've only ever seen one weepy bride, but loads of blubbing grooms (and brides hissing at them to get a grip.) So statistics are your friend on this one.

I'm not a known soppy git and dont really cry at slushy stuff but even I suffered. I didnt actually cry but I made the most hideous faces walking down the aisle trying not to cry, I looked ridiculous!

Me too, along with snot bubbles!

I cried when I said my vows during our wedding rehearsal which set my sister off. I was also hyperventilating, but on the day I was absolutely fine. You will be fine too!

I cry at anything and everything, I'm an emotional wreck at the best of times. I absolutely cannot cry on my wedding day though. Not only does it make me develop hiccups, it does unmentionable things to my H2B and I can't risk that happening standing in front of a registrar and 80 of our family and friends.

OMG you have literally just explained a lifetime of confusion for me here - this is SO ME! I thought I was alone!

I cry all the time too - so glad to hear there's lots of people - when I'm upset/emotional/angry/happy/pleased/at films/at news stories etc etc. Weirdly, the less important the scenario, the more likely I am to cry so I'm hoping I should be ok because I too am seriously fugly (and very snotty) when I cry. My other problem though is uncontrollable, hysterical nervous laughter (the hyperventilating, snorting kind) at the most inappropriate moments so I'm worried about this too!

I'm a mass crier too! I'll cry at anything and yes my eyes go bloodshot red with swollen eyelids etc! I'm hoping I don't cry on the day - I have a feeling I'll either cry or just walk around with a psychotic nervous/happy grin.

It's nice that some of you are criers but you didn't on your wedding day (ther is hope for me) I hope I'll be able to hold out during my Dad's speech too (that's when my sister cried at her wedding) Though maybe he hasn't got anything lovely to say about me ?

Yep, another utterly pathetic blubber here too!!

I cried at everything before the wedding.... Antiques programmes, Facebook photos shared by a squillion people and rather tacky to say the least, everything!

I was a wreck when my BIL handed me the cd of church music, when my eldest daughter tried on her new dress, whilst I was writing my speech, you name it.

But I only had 2 teeny moments of blubbing on the day.... The first being upon hearing the Bms entrance music which wrecks me every time I hear it.... But it does my Dad, too, so I quickly had to stop my tears in order to stop his. And as soon as we started walking down the aisle I had this ridiculous grin in my face and was waving hello to everyone as I passed them. Probably looked like a total loony and there are so many dodgy faced photos of me doing it but I really don't care cos I was just sooooo excited!!

As for the second blub, again it was during my speech- and not in the bit I expected. In fact, 3 times during the speech, but hubby was lovely and the guests just blubber along with me anyway..... And I can verify that it is true- waving your hands in your face makes no difference whatsoever haha!!!

If you cry, you cry..... Pretty much every one of our guests did through the day, most of them before I even walked down the aisle, thanks to my showstopping 4yo.

Just enjoy the blub, cos it won't last for long before you are grinning like a total numpty as I was!! Xx