A bit of background; my auntie (mum's sister, plus uncle and cousin who is 9 years older than me) and I were always really close, espcially when I was much younger. I was their only niece for 22 years, I spent an awful lot of time with them and was really quite spoiled. They contributed to my wedding and were always very generous. We spent every Christmas with them for years. There were a couple of deep rooted family stresses between auntie and my mum which started to surface about 8 years ago and then 5 years ago, at a funeral (my honorary auntie, my mum's best friend), my auntie walked out as I didn't want to leave to drive her half a mile when it was a nice summers day and she could walk. I haven't seen or spoken to her since. I was really hurt by this but was also relieved in a way as it was getting harder and harder to spend time with her.
I sent cards and presents for Christmas and birthdays for three years, with no thank you or return gift or card (I didn't give to receive so didn't mind) but then after posting on here two years ago, was advised to stop presents as it was silly sending to people I didn't see or particularly want to see. It actually felt quite liberated. ? I still sent cards up until their birthdays this year when I was too ill do so. They do not know I was ill.
A card and £20 in M&S vouchers has arrived this morning so wise people of hitched, WWYD? Do I just send a card? Do I send a present? As nice as it is to get something from them, it hasn't have thrown a spanner in the works. I don't know what to do. ☹️
