Date dilema

TBH a year really goes quickly and you are hardly over the hill at 31, why not weight up the pros and cons for each option and see how it turns out, you may be putting yourself under alot of pressure if you do it in four months but only you know if you can do it..but seriously 1 year small matters ( ay mu Uncle would say) over in a blink of an eye!!

Oh enjoy the year!!! Honestly. We want kids and are marrying just before my 37th birthday. I think it's lovely having it to look forward to, involving everyone, the build-up. A wedding is so much more than just 2 people saying some special words. It's super-important to people who love you. I say wait and it will be a wonderful time

( ay mu Uncle would say) Ooops also means "as my Uncle would say"

Also as KG says enjoy the year we have waited 18mths and it has flown by!!

I would agree with the other posts about enjoying the year but if you want it sooner, a wedding can be planned in 4 months if you put your mind to it

Sorry for late reply and thanks - you all helped me to give a bit of perspective. I realised that I couldn't put my partner in the position where he was that uncomfortable with the date - we have provisionally booked the later date but are still looking at other venues.

After having over 18 months to plan I would say if you can afford it then go for the earlier date! Why wait around if you're both clear on the next stage of your life? However if your partner is really uncomfortable then so be it, but honestly what does he want to enjoy? We got our big decisions made within a month and then the rest of the time faffed about. Our venue was the same, except only had 2014 or 2012 available (this was in 2010) and OH insisted on the earlier one, I am so glad he did otherwise what a lot of wasted time that would have been.