Decisions, decisions

Hiya,

I know it's hard but try to ignore the people who give their opinions about your wedding whenever they want when not asked. It happens to almost everyone and annoys almost everyone, so you're not alone in that. Try to smile and nod or choose a phrase to say each time like 'We haven't decided yet' or 'It's a secret'.

If you always wanted a wedding day surrounded by family and friends then I think you should go for it! I would be doing the registry office and a village hall type thing. I've seen some amazing halls decorated on a very low budget and look amazing.

Get your friends and family involved and DIY!

Ask the farmer about the barn, the worst he can do is say no!

Have ur registry office ceremony then back to the barn for a party with all ur friends & family!

Depending when u want to get married, if it's summer have a bbq & possibly a real outdoors theme

Ifit's winter the barn wud be amazing with Xmas trees, garlands fairy lights etc

If the farmer says no, think about a village hall, or even somewhere hot on an amazing holiday & throw a party wen u get back

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To me, being married is far more important than anything. We could afford 20k plus but we want to move and I can't justify that cost. We're marrying abroad for about 7k. Weddings don't need to be expensive. There's lots of lady's on here doing it in the uk on a budget.

There's no way I could spend 6 years savings on one day, I would cry. ?

At the end of the day look at the "dream day" and see which elements are the "must haves" and the" really do we needs" then you may see the Dream Day differently

I wanted to get married on the boat with a drinks and photos - Now just ceremony and photes saving £900 not having the drinks reception.

I wanted a floating bar where we had our first date as our reception and Pie Minister Pies for wedding breakfast - but the venue was not practical as on 2 levels so in a converted church instead - budget up as venue hire was onky £100 but I havwe an awesome family/old people friendly venue now. Compromised on Food as it was going to be £28pp for Pie mash and peas without crockery - now £15 pp all you can eat pizza , salad, and puddings budget back down.

My heart broke when we did not go for the Classic car/ camper van option but £375 is an expensive taxi. But the really important thing is that Our family and friends are al around us hence a guest list of 160.

As fantastic as having a brilliant holiday and getting married over there would be, you have said you want to be surrounded by your family and friends so this may not be possible.

If the farmer says no, I would have a Reg office wedding and make the reception extra special

Prioiritise: if friends and family around you is very important then invest in this part of your wedding. It may be that having everyone you love there is going to eat into the venue/dress budget, but these things don't need to be expensive to be lovely.

If the ceremony for the two of you, super clothes and a fabulous honeymoon are most important, then go for that and be happy with your choice. The truth is no-one can have everything they could possibly want. even Tamara Eccleston didn't get the favours she wanted and her wedding cost millions!

If you are looking at lining a barn, why not consider a church hall: at least it has indoor toilets and you can personalise it as much as a barn.

The idea of the farm ban sounds great.