did you OH ask for permission?

Yes my OH did. After I stopped crying, saying OMG and yes ... The first thing I asked my OH was did you ask my dad first, I was so happy when he said he did.

He asked him about a week before and said it was the most terrifying thing ever - even though they get on well.

Personslly for me I'm so glad he asked my dad, I'm so close to my family and I though it was very respectful for my OH to ask. And I think my dad would have been upset if he hadn't as he is very traditional.

I could see why some people don't ask as I think it depends on relationships too, especially between the bride and her dad.

We've discussed it, OH wants to, but I've said I'm not fussed if he does or not. I've been engaged before and I don't want my dad thinking 'oh not another one!'

Yes he did. On the day he proposed he called my dad quite a few times but couldn't get hold of him so he decided to go ahead and propose anyway as we were going on holiday the next day and would be buying the ring out there. He said he was so nervous and not being able to get through to him didn't help. He called my dad the next day instead just before we left and just didn't mention that I'd already said yes. He told my mum but I kept quiet for the next week until we got home so they were both bursting to say something when I finally broke the news.

After my OH proposed i rang my mum to tell her im engaged abd she said that she knew. He came round and asked my dad and mum's petmission, then told my little brother and skyped my older brother to tell him too. My OH says the one he was most nervous about was my older brother. Bless

Yes!

Before proposing (completely out of the blue) he wrote an email in English to my best friend (who kept the secret from me!) and she translated to Portuguese for him. He sent it to my dad, who in turn replied (in English, with google translator help) he approved and that everyone back home hoped I'd say yes.

After the proposal, OH showed me the printed emails with the conversation and that got me more emotional than the proposal itself!

It was a lovely gesture and the most romantic one anyone had done for me.

I loved it!

He didnt exactly 'ask for permission' but when he's bought the ring he showed my mum and asked whether she thought I'd like it!

I thought that was sweet. And I'm surprised my mum managed to keep quiet about it!!

Ha, My Dad would have said that too.

No, my H never asked permission. I'd have been put out if he had, as my Dad wasn't really in my life much, so if he was going to ask, he should have asked my Mum.

My OH didn't ask permission, but then again he didn't "actually" propose! We just decided together that it felt right - and it's made it easier to plan an elopement and not tell anyone!

Even so, I'm not especially close to my dad as my parents divorced when I was little - so asking his permission would've felt weird to me - glad he didn't

Yes my OH asked both my mum and dad the night before he proposed while I was out. I was really touched he went down to their house and asked them both as I am equally close to them.

Yes mine did, he said he wouldn't have dared not asking as he thinks it's disrespectful (he gets on very well with my dad). My dad was chuffed to bits - he didn't think that people tended to ask anymore!

Yes my OH did. He asked a few days before we went on holiday to Cuba in February...and didn't ask me until the last few days on Velentines Day...so my mum and dad went about 2 weeks waiting for me to phone.

I loved that he asked my dad but he said it was the most terrifying thing he'd ever done...not that my Dad would have said no, we've been together 7 years and he loves him to bits.

Yeah - conversation went like this:

OH: Yeah, I just wanted to keep in line with tradition and that, so I was wondering - could I ask your permission to ask for your daughters' hand in marriage?

Dad: Well that's all very chivalrous of you Simon. So lovely that you want to keep it all old fashioned and traditional. Did you not think to ask me first before you got her in the club?

ha ha ha ha ha.

Haha, some very funny and lovely responses here. No, OH didn't ask my dad, or anyone actually before he proposed, it was a spur of the moment thing with no ring. But I imagine my dad would have been very confused if he had asked him and also replied with something along the lines of "ask her, I don't want to marry you".

Nothing against my dad, and OH is rather romantic, but even if he had planned a proposal, it wouldn't have occurred to him to ask my dad, they just don't have that close a relationship.

Mine did, he went to see my Dad whilst he was at work, really sweet and then asked him. My Dad obviously said yes and then my OH then went to see my Mum at home and asked her as well (my parents are married, i think he just wanted to tell her!). I'm glad he did ask my Dad, but i don;t think my Dad would have thought anything of it if he hadn't!

He did yes. It is a funny story, which I only found out afterwards. My OH proposed to me in the middle of the dancefloor at my 30th birthday party, to our song, down on one knee the lot, and by chance I have got some fantastic photos of it. He had it planned for 18 months and didnt tell a soul, but when it was time for him to go and ask my dad things were always going wrong. My dad works shifts so he was going to go round to my dads without me knowing the week of my party , but then my dad changed his shift so he could come to the party as they wouldn't let him take the time off instead. We were going out for lunch before the party, (me, my OH and my dad) and he thought brilliant, I can ask him then when I go to the loo or something, but then my brother decided to come along too, so he couldn't ask him then. He ended up asking him the night of the party just before it happened, not too sure what the full conversation was, but I know my dad said "what would you have done if I would have said no?", my OH said he would have done it anyways, but i'm lucky that they get on so well and it was all said in jest. All my dad is saying now is when's the stag do?! te he he ?

MY OH asked my dad for permission, not because I feel I 'belong' to my dad but because he knows my dad is very traditional, and he thought it would be the right thing to do.

Turns out my dad said that he would've been happy whether he asked permission or not but the fact that he had plucked up the courage (OH is very shy around my dad, who's anger is very temperamental haha) to ask him, turns out my dad actually cried (once OH had left mind).

Also, when my dad got re-married in February (a week after my engagement, so I got to show off the ring!) as his wife (and him onvs) are in their 60's neither of them have their parents here, so instead he asked her eldest son for permission.

I love that my dad did that for Irene, and I am proud that my OH asked my dad too, he said he was really nervous but hoped my mum (who passed away 2 years ago) would help him through it, and tell my dad off if he was mean! Haha bless him! Thanks mum!

I don't think he asked for permission as such, but he had spoken to both my parents about it months before he actually got around to proposing!

I think my dad appreciated it but probably wouldn't have been bothered if he hadn't spoken to them.

Not that I know of ?

No, he didn't. It would have been really out of character for him and that's not really the sort of family either of us have got. I'm quite traditional about a lot of things when it comes to weddings, but that's one tradition I'm really not fussed about!

My Dad and I weren't really in speaking terms when we got engaged, but OH showed my Mum the engagement ring and had mentioned to her before buying it. Not asking permission as they got on really well but just wanted to tell her first and she was really touched that he did

My dad and I are back in touch, but my OH wouldn't ask permission anyway and my dads not the type to expect him to, he'd have been happy same as my mum

No, and when my dad said "but you didn't ask" (jokingly) he said that he didn't want anyone else to know because he thought I should be the first person to know about it. Which I thought was quite sweet.

Yes he did! In a lot on senses I'm very traditional so he knew that I would have want my parents blessing before hand! My dad was sworn to secrecy (of course he told my mum about 5 mins later!)

Yes my OH did, he asked my dad a couple of weeks before he proposed, he also asked my Mum too! My Dad is quite an intimidating character with a strong personality so when I found out he had asked my Dad I was really impressed!

My Dad said recently how much he likes my H2B because 'any man who has the balls to come to me and ask to marry my daughter has my respect' :-) My Dad also told my H2B 'I don't take returns you know!' Charming!

Yep. I'm hardly a possession and it's all old fashioned bollicks I know but I was chuffed he asked my dad and I know my dad was over the moon.

I was 'given away' as well. My feminist mil nearly had a fit when I told her.

No. If he had I would have probably taken the piss out of him for doing so.

Mine did, which was a really lovely touch but I'd never have expected it.

Probably a couple of reasons though - he comes from an Asian background where it's still very common practice - I think he thought if he ever had a girl, he'd appreciate being asked.

My engagement ring is also an antique one that used to be my mum's, but it was too small for her. He knew it was my absolute favourite ring so he asked my Mum if she'd let him have it this was all several months before we actually got engaged, I have absolutely no idea how my family managed to keep quiet!!

Yes, he asked my mum, she brought us up alone so he picked the right parent. I would rather he hadn't asked but Mum was thrilled and it got him brownie points.

Yes, he asked my parents when we went up to my parents to steal furniture! Apparently my dad grunted "yes" then went back to the snooker while my mum started squealing lol. This was about 3 months before he proposed - I have no idea how they managed to keep quiet!

Nope, wish he had because I think my dad would have loved it but he said he was too scared! He had spoken to my mum and sent a retrospective 'Hope we have your blessing' text to my dad (we were on holiday when he proposed)

Mine didn't but he did tell my mum about 7 months beforehand! My dad had some big news for my sister and I (another story!) so they came round and the three of us went into the living room to talk, leaving my mum and OH in the kitchen. Turns out that he told her then that he was planning to propose at some point soon, and she managed to keep it a secret from everyone including my dad for all that time. I was very impressed when I heard that! I don't think my dad minded at all, OH proposed to me in front of my mum, dad, sister and her husband and I think my dad was just really chuffed that he was there when OH asked.

Big fat no. I would be offended if he did and my dad didnt even mention it. I've asked my dad to walk me down the aisle though- mainly for support as we are very close and I want to share that important moment with him. Plus my mum can't do it as she is severely disabled and I think I would just feel awkward on my own (as well as an emotional wreck). I think my dad wants to do that but we don't refer to it as 'giving me away.' Going off topic now sorry!

There's some lovely stories here ? My OH didn't ask my dad, but my mum and dad have both been asking him for years when he was going to propose so I think he was fairly certain he had their blessing! When we called them to tell them they both responded "about time!"

We also got to have a few days of only us knowing which was amazing as he proposed while we were in Barcelona. However I did call my parents from baggage claim as soon as we landed in Manchester!