Did your OH ask permission?

He asked my mum, she's a scary lady. she found it funny and cute.

No my OH didnt because he said that if they had said no he still would have asked me and it felt hypocritical. He also said as we owned a house together, lived together and were/are financially independent with joint finances I belonged to myself not my parents so the only persons permission he needed was mine :-)

He did. My stupid Dad phoned me after to tell me! So I knew it was coming.

Yes he did. My OH was actually away at the time. We had lots on during his R&R so he didn't feel that the time was right to ask him whilst he was back. Then not long after when he went back out, he got his head screwed back on, he emailed him (unfortunately the only sure way of communicating out there!) and asked him. My dad was over the moon to say the least and my mom and dad knew for MONTHS! OH unexpectly had to come back for a week not long after, my parents were away and they just kept saying how they were sorry that they couldn't see - I just put it down to the fact they knew they wouldn't see him for months as he'd be going back. Anyway, it didn't happen that week. Even when he finished your and came back, it didn't happen for 2 months!! Mom and Dad must have shared the secret for like 6mths until the time was actually right. My dad did confess when we told him that he thought he might have changed his mind and was going to have to collar him about it. Hehe. I love how he asked my dad and I love how they knew for so long and I didn't have a clue. I haven't read the email but I hope that it feature somewhere in my dads speech if OH doesn't mind Awww, I feel all funny inside now

No my OH didn't. He initially wanted to but knew that I wouldn't have been impressed, haha. I've always said to him that the only person whos permission he needed to ask was mine, I don't belong to anyone and I can make my own decisions! We did tell my dad first though which meant OH felt a bit more comfortable with not having had a chat with him beforehand. That was our compromise and it kept everyone happy!

Nah. But we didn't really have an "engagement" - it amounted to booking the venue and then realising that we were, de facto, engaged. To that point, it had been a case of "Shall we get married?" (more from me, admittedly).

Yep, they spent the day doing our garden and then he took Daddy Bubble out for lunch.

Although it's quite old-fashioned, I am extremely close to my dad and I would have been hurt had he not asked him.

I didn't ask my FFIL's permission, but we had the world's least romantic proposal.

Scene. Lunchtime. She's at work but standing outside, smoking. I've nipped to Burger King for lunch, sitting in car eating burger. My phone rings. We speak on the phone most lunchtimes.

General how's your day chitchat. I notice she seems quieter than usual.

ME: What's Up?

HER: I want to ask you something, but...

ME: What? (laughing) Do you want to get married?

HER: Yes.

ME: Erm, OK. We can do that. We'll talk about it later shall we?

HER: OK. Talk later, love you.

ME: Love you too. Bye.

Romance isn't dead, but it does need a poke with a stick occasionally. ?

Yes he did. I knew he was going ask Dad but I didn't know when he would propose. I wanted him to ask my Dad even though it is old fashioned andI haven't lived at home for 10 years. I think my Dad would have been gutted not to be asked.

Well he didn't so much 'ask' my parents, but he did tell them that he was going to propose. He told my Mum a few weeks beforehand, so she could be in on keeping me distracted for the day. He didn't tell my Dad until the day he proposed as he knew my Dad would be rubbish at keeping it secret from me!

No. God, no. I'd have refused to marry her if she did; it's a tradition I loathe and despise, and my parents feel the same way.

Not that we had a "proposal". Neither of us have engagement rings, and there was no down-on-one-knee asking. Just not our style.

My OH did and I am pleased - bit old fashioned like that!

Dad was cleaning his car while OH paced up and down the driveway making chit chat (we had literally landed in Oz that morning - where my dad lives) dad assumed it was weird jetlag.

When OH asked Dad froze, which made him sweat a bit but he was over the moon!!! OH is a bit older and I think it just shows a bit of resepct to my dad.

Each to their own but I am glad he did ask x

Yes he asked my dad ? I wouldn't have been horrified if he didn't, but it was nice of him to do it as I'm really close to my dad.

Yea mine did but only quickly when we were at the pub and I had popped to the loo!

Apparently he planned to aske my mum but with all the stress of the ring (ATB you know the story!) he didnt get around to it.

When we told my mum he quickly piped up with "if that's ok with you?!"

To be fair I think if he had asked my mum, she would have ot too excited and told too many people before he had even asked!

No mine didn't - probably because I told him to ask me! though I don't think he would have anyway.

This happened to my friend - OH asked her dad, who then couldn't contain himself then ran to tell her mum, getting her caught up in all and my friend found out by her parents running around - so her poor OH never even got the chance to propose bless him!

In my situation, I'd like him to ask my mum - more for her benefit because I think she'd like to be asked. I also think my brother would be totally chuffed if MF asked him too. It doesn't make any difference to me but I think it would be nice for them!

No, but my Dad wasn't alive when we got engaged so it wasn't an option.

I don't think he would have done anyway. We are too old and independent for that sort of thing!

My OH asked both my Mum and Dad. I was at a works do the night he asked so he popped round then. They didn't know when he was going to ask though as he wanted me to know first! When he proposed the next day, they were just as surprised as I was as they thought it would be weeks away! I am pleased he did it, and they were thrilled! Not sure they would have thought any less of him if he didn't though.

Kind of. We've been together a good while, have a mortgage and joint finances etc so it wasn't a decision that involved anyone else, but I'm very close to my mum, so my OH showed her the ring he'd bought me. He said 'do you think she'll like it?' My mum was made up, she did well to keep it a secret from me!

He was quite traditional and mentioned he would ask permission. But I'm very grateful he didn't ask my dad but he asked my mum (he loves her but he is pretty scared of her too!) then asked my brother (in a more lighthearted way) as he wanted him to be involved which I think was lovely. My mum hid the ring for him and my brother text him constantly asking have you done it yet on the night he was going to propose!

Yes mine did and it made my Dad's year

No, mine didn't but I'm quite glad. My dad has always said that he would say, 'that's not up to me, ask her!' as he's very non-traditional and doesn't see why he should give permission for me to be asked something! I think that would have been a bit embarrassing for my OH... and for Dad having to say it!

I kind of feel like I wouldn't want anyone else to know before me either! ?

Mine did as well as telling the rest of my family and my friends - sneaky bugger, i'm impressed i never found out!!

i know alot of people that haven't though, think it depends how close your family is x

Too right he did! He asked my dad and was very nervous about it.

Yes he did, he went to see my Dad at his office, and asked him there, then as my Dad said my Mum would be realy excited, he drove to see my Mum and told her what he was planning to do!

My OH asked my mum in November and knew he wanted to propose at Christmas. I thought we were choosing together at New Year but he wanted to surprise me. However even before he asked permission he had already bought the ring so it's a good job she said yes.

Yeah - it went like this:

OH: Er.. I was wondering, you know - cos I want to keep it all traditional and that, I was wondering if er.. if I could have your permission to ask for Jan to marry me?

Dad: Traditional, you say? That's lovely. But do you think you might have asked me before you got her 'in the club'?

Ha ha ha ha

Yes my OH asked my dad about a week before he proposed to me. Some people might think it's very old fashioned but I think it was a sweet gesture and I know my dad really appreciated it.

Nope.

H didn't even ask me if i'd marry him. It was more of a "We have a baby, and a house, shall we get hitched next?"

No but he wanted to. My parents have retired to Malaysia so it's a bit tricky - when he asked me we skyed them and he kind of asked at the same time as telling them we wre engaged. I think it was sweet.

Anthony has never met my dad (who lives in Texas), and my mum lives in Canada, so that would have been difficult, even though they've met. So, he asked my older brother.. while he was changing my nephew's nappie. Classy ?

Ant is really traditional, though, and even though it didn't mean much to me, I know my brother was really touched that he was asked.