Did your OH ask permission?

No, he didn't. It would have been really out of character for him and that's not really the sort of family either of us have got.

I'm quite traditional about a lot of things when it comes to weddings, but that's one tradition I'm really not fussed about.

My lovely fiance decided to ask my dad as he knew it was a big thing for me. He asked my dad on the way home from another family wedding and then had to sit through the rest of the 3 hour journey home feeling a bit awkward. I must say I would have loved to have seen it. He then didn't ask me for months after because he had planned it out to include my favourite things. My mum pretty much gave it away and my sister got engaged in the mean time. I was so glad he asked my dad as it made it alot more special. Although I kept them waiting and didn't tell them he had asked me for days

Yep OH asked my dad as he's a bit of a traditionalist. However, when OH asked him his reply was "*** off!" then after a long pause "as long as you look after her"

Kind of, he went round to see them and told them what he was going to do. Mum said he never officially asked, but they are both very traditional so I think they appreciated it. I kinda like it to, I think its respectful. We are independent and have a mortgage etc but he had to plyck up the courage to go see them on his own which he has never done!

No he didn't. He proposed abroad and we waited until we returned home before we told everyone! We were so excited on the long journey home!

My sister's OH (v recently married) asked my Dad's permission and proposed to her in front of our family on xmas day. It was so sweet!

He planned to but he got carried away and proposed to me out of the blue before he got a chance to and all his proposal plans went down the pan.

He know's my dad would say yes anyway. It was a given.

No permission was sought from either of our families. I was the one to propose to him, it was very much spontaneous so there wouldn't have been time to ask his dad even if I'd wanted to. He would probably have laughed at me or replied with awkward silence anyway!

Yep he asked my mum! He went to South Africa for the World Cup, came home on a Tuesday morning, called my mum that afternoon, then proposed that night! Even spoke with her before going out and she didn't give away anything!!!

My OH asked my parents he said he was more nervous asking them than he was about asking me! He asked them while I was at uni. They were watching tv and during the ad break he asked them! Silly boy :p

Mine did and I was completely shocked when he told me. I haven't lived with my parents for 20 years but I quite like the sentiment even though I think that it is old fashioned. Apparently my Mum panicked when he arrived at their house on his own, thinking that something awful had happened to me!

He asked my mother, which we were both nervous about, my father had passed away 2 years previously, and I have no siblings, so I'm all my mother has, and although she knew he was going to propose he wanted to sit down and chat to her first, as she felt like he was taking me away from her.

it was a very emotional moment for my mother, but I think my partner handled it well, and 2 years later they get on really well and she is really happy for us, I think it has bought them closer together.

I think it depends on your situation and how well your partner and parents get on, I know most peoples parents are usually itching for their children to get married but in my case it was the opposite.

Yes, he did, and I had NO idea. He proposed out of the blue and at first I wasn't sure, having been married before. Stalling for time to answer, I said "errm, and you haven't even asked my father". He replied that he had, on Christmas Eve, when he had arrived at their house before me since I was working late. Neither he nor my Dad told me, and the proposal was late January. Apparently Dad said that he had his blessing to propose, but to expect me to refuse!! Dad knows me well, since initially I did refuse (once bitten twice shy) but OH was persistent and I accepted a week later.

To me, even as a second time ride, it's a lovely and important tradition. Yes it's old fashioned and slightly misogynistic but no more so than the tradition of being given away, or having your new husband make a speech on behalf of you both.

My OH asked permission from my parents
I suspected though x

He did. I'd been engaged before and I know that Dad was disappointed my ex didn't, so I woudn't have become engaged again without it This time he was thrilled and apparently got quite emotional (he'd been drinking) and said he couldn't be more delighted

I'm quite surprised that so many people's OH have asked, I only know of a couple of people who did and they were quite young when getting engaged. I was 35 when we got engaged and wouldn't have been that impressed if he'd asked my Dad, even though we are really close, as I think by now I'm pretty much in charge of my own life! I know it's a tradition and I'm not opposed to it or anything it's just not for us. My Dad is going to walk me down the aisle but that's really because I don't want to walk down on my own but I'm not sure if we're going to have the 'giving away' bit of the ceremony. When it comes to speeches I'm going to do one as well as my OH and I don't think that anyone who knows us would expect anything else! There's no way that either of us would be able to not make some sort of speech even if just a few thank yous.

I also think my Dad, like Jinglebride's would've said 'that's not up to me, ask her!' if my OH had asked!

I'm surprised so many people's partners asked too; I'm on the young side (23) and have already said I would be utterly horrified if my partner had asked. I didn't ask her parents either, for that matter.

I'm close to my parents and talk to them everyday, and get along well enough with partner's mum to chat to her on skype frequently. But we're both grown women, and asking for permission is just ludicrous. I'm not property to be given away, and the only people who's permission was needed was mine and hers. Even my father didn't ask for permission to marry my mother as he considered it old-fashioned and unfeminist, and anyone who asked for permission would just be showing how little they respected my wishes. If my partner, after asking me, wanted to seek their blessing, I'd have no issue with it. But asking their permission to ask me just horrifies me, honestly. I'm fairly sure my dad would tell them where exactly to get, too.

We're not doing much in the traditional way- we're walking down the aisle together rather than being "given away", we haven't done engagement rings, we're still hemming and hawing on doing "bridal" colours for our dresses rather than choosing colourful frocks.

He asked for permission to ask, not for permission to marry me - that was my choice!

I had no idea he was doing it at the time, though in hindsight he was not exactly being subtle - we were on holiday, went out for a fantastic meal and he spent half the time checking his phone and dashing off "to the toilet," which I later discovered was him desperately trying to get hold of my Dad before proposing at the end of the meal!

Mine did and my Dad was very pleased that he did because he is very traditional (plus my Dad really likes my OH so he was thrilled anyway!). I didn't think that I cared about it, but when other half told me he had asked my Dad, it made me feel very emotional! I called my Dad after the proposal and he was so pleased for us, which was a really lovely moment

No. But there was a real likelihood my dad would have said no way, maybe in a few years' time. (I was 21 when we got engaged.) As it was when we did get engaged and called my dad to tell him, his only reaction was "Oh. Oh dear".

My dad doesn't like my H, but tries his best to hide it, although I think he's mellowed towards him now that we've had a baby and he sees how good H is with A. And my dad likes my H more than he likes my brother's girlfriend... no idea why, myself and the rest of the family adore her!

My partner did, but only after he had already asked me to marry him and I had said yes. I had asked him to speak to my dad, as I thought it would be a nice gesture, to be honest. He did it at a family party, followed my dad into the house and had a word. My dad came out with such a huge smile on his face and was so pleased for me. He told my nan, my nan told my aunt, and my aunt announced it to everyone in the garden.