Different breast sizes

Think everyone's breasts are different in that respect but perhaps not so markedly. Is it really obvious to the naked yeye they're different? Can she find a bra that's comfy - maybe with a bit of padding to balance things out?

Absolutely everyone has different sized boobs - as your daughter's are still growing I daresay it will settle down in time. In the meantime would a chicken fillet in the smaller boob's cup help? Why not take her to a good bra shop to get properly fitted?

There's a site that someone (I think it was Rache) posted a while ago with loads of pictures of "real" women's bodies - showing her something like that would hopefully remind her that she is entirely normal?

Bloody GPs - they are rubbish about this kind of thing. Unless you're actually ill they deny the existence of any problem. I can understand that it's outside his remit, but still - gah!

Poor girl, I'd hate to be 16 again. My friend at school after much battling managed to get a reduction on one side, but I think she was a G on one side and a C on the other, so there were back issues as well. (hmm thinking about it, I wonder if she went private)

I've no idea what she did about it as I totally hadn't noticed until she mentioned being excited about the op.

Would any of those chicken fillet things help give her a more even outline in clothes>

Yes, it's very noticable even the doctor commented on how noticable.

She wears a couple of chicken fillets in her bra to even them out. She wants to go away this summer and is wanting to wear a bikini, she has visions of the fillets falling out and after the doctor visit this morning is adamant that she now isn't going. I mentioned today that I'd actually sew the fillets into the bikini tops for her, so no chance of them falling out. But she crushed, so now really doesn't want to go.

What size is she?

If it's that extreme, is it worth going to a specialist bikini / underwear supplier who deal women with with masectomies etc?

I'd be interested in showing her that.

I think the problem is that also we as women put so much emphasis on our breasts as being an obvious sign of our womanliness/appeal that any deviation in the norm makes us feel that maybe we aren’t very attractive/womanly iyswim.

I dated a woman who suffered with this. I've forgotten the medical name for it now though, it was 10years ago. To be honest, I hadn't actually noticed until she told me about it, but then i'd never seen her topless at that point. She had markedly different sizes, again i can't remember the details but i'd guess that one was an a/b cup and the other easily a dd/f.
Did it bother her? Not sure. she was completely open about it and it never affected our relationship. It certainly didn't bother me. And from what i can tell, it didn't bother anyone else either, she turned out to be a very promiscuous woman.

It must be devestating for a 16 year though.

C cup on the larger breast, probably an A or smaller on the other breast.

How would you/she feel about her having cosmetic surgery later on to correct it? I'd talk that through with her as an option, although obviously she needs to finish growing first. In the meantime, a visit to a good lingerie shop is a must.

I'm afraid I can't even begin to remember the name of that site but I'm sure Rache or JK will.

We’ve decided this could definitely be an option once she’s stopped growing, suppose I should start saving now as it’s a fair amount of money. Would be so worth it in terms of self worth and confidence for her.

We've done the lingerie shop but she wouldn't allow the assistant to check her out (getting her to show the doctor was a major triumph). Perhaps another chat and she how she feels, personally I think it'd give her a boost to visit a nice shop and be a little indulged.

Thanks everyone, I feel a little more fortified now that I've 'spoken' to others about it.

Are you near London? Perhaps another option would be to go to Rigby & Peller and have something made for her? Maybe cheaper & less side effects than surgery.

I was reading a story in a mag yesterday where a girl had one breast that didn't develop at all.Obviously your daughter's isn't as severe as that, but this girl had an implant put in when she was 18 and is really happy now.

Hopefully they may even out in the next year or so, but it must be really hard for her now when she's at an age where she's trying to be the same as everyone else.

We're in Manchester so a little to far to travel.

I think possibly depending on your area, you can get breast surgery if you prove the size/shape etc is impacting significalty on you mentally.

I used to have one a good bit bigger than the other (H noticed it ? so must have been about 15 or 16 at youngest - insert s l u t icon). I don't know when it changed (it didn't really bother me though you could definitely notice when topless) but they are fairly even now.

Thank you for sharing that, Jaz.

Can I ask, at what age did they start to even out?

I really can't remember as it really didn't bother me. I think I had other issues I worried more about (was I too fat, too hairy, too smelly ? I was a bit of a paranoid teenager).

I'll ask H ? but I'd say it was maybe 18 though could have been as late as about 19/20/21 possibly before I felt that both of them kind of settled and looked like "normal" more symmetrical boobs. I'm nealry 23 now and I'd say they went from both a/b to one being more of a c and the other more of an a/b now both being b, sometimes c. In that time I went through a bit of weight change generally and also was on the pill for a while. If anything probably during the period of weight gain then loss was probably the time I noticed evening out though it may have been more to do with my age.

I remember reading up on it and knew that possibly they wouldn't even out. If they hadn't and it became an issue for me I would have definitely considered surgery but I'm glad I didn't make any decisions (not that I really had the inclination or the money anyway!) as they have changed so much on their own even in later years

I cant imagine how your daughter is feeling but im sure seeing other people have the same issue would be of some help.

Im not sure of the womans name but there is currently someone on 'shipwrecked' with the same problem. I personally didnt notice until my other half pointed it out to me [dirty git icon].

might be worth you watching it with your daughter and letting her know that shes not the only one. plus being stuck on an island in not very many clothes might reassure her a bit about going away?

hope this is of some use.

liz

I had a bra fitting at the weekend and I have one that is a different cup size to the other not by a huge amount and I can at least justify it but it's not easy. It's got to be flipping hard dealing with that at 16.

Last week they had a woman on HTLGN who had undergone a mastectomy and they showed how they dealt with it - it might be worth looking on the website to see what Gok has to say for himself. I think it was a specialist underwear woman.

I know it won't be of much consolation to your daughter but these underwear women, if that's all they do in the shop, get to see women of all sizes and ages and it would be unlikely that it's anything new to them. If she can pluck up the courage to go - don't go to somewhere where the fitter is younger as it might put her off even more.

? to you and her.

On the last series of embarrasing illnesses or similar there was a lady who had one breast very much bigger than the other and she had a implant put in one and the other lifted so they were the same size. Rigby and Pellar are excellent and very professional for a normal fitting they don't even measure you just guage by looking and bring bras for you try on. I can imagine at her age though even that could make her feel uncomfortable.

My sister had the same problem and was really embaressed by it. She would only go swimming with a t-shiirt on. she must have had 2 to 3 cup sizes difference (two chicken fillets didn't even her out!). I remember she used to use a pair of socks in her bra to try and match them.

Our doctor was really good though and as soon as she was 16 she had a breast reduction on both breasts on the NHS so that they matched. She had the option of an implant to even them out as that is easier to do and has less scarring but the doctor's explained that with the reduction they would be near perfect and would have a better 'finish' (for want of a better word).

She's 22 now and still has some very faint scars if you look closely but she is ever so pleased with them.

I would definitely speak to the doctor again about your daughter. It's not right that she is so worried about it when it can be treated.

In the meantime, as someone has suggested, maybe you can get a bikini top made for her by one of those companies that specialise in mascectamies. Will probably be expensive but worth it.

Don't have any experience/advice but as someone very flat chested throughout my teenage years, I can identify with the bikini bit. You can get bras with inflatable insides (I think mine is an Ultimo?) - so you could inflate one side and not the other? I am sure there must be bikinis like this too.

Do you know what though - I have had two babies and my boobs have fed them both for many months - they are both very healthy and happy and I am proud that my boobs have now 'acheived something' as it were. My aunt is the same and breastfed her sons, and said how it makes you think that no matter their size they are blimmin useful and good at something. (Something to consider before any surgery would be the possible effects on future breastfeeding.)

I am probably not helping by talking about your 16 year old having a baby; I'm not suggesting she do this now ?

Hi Carob

I know someone who has the same problem and has had an operation on the NHS. an implant put in one to even them up - if it really upsets your daughter I think it would be worth trying to see a more sympathetic GP in a couple of years. The situation may have changed by then though as she is still growing.

hth

Sorry I didn't reply earlier, I got bumped of the computer by the kids.

Thank you so much for all your replies.

The doctor said that a surgeon wouldn't touch her until she was at least 18, this I agree with as I do think 16 is a little young and her breasts could change in the next few years.

The doctor did mention about possible surgery after the age of 18/21 but that it would be next to impossible and that she would be best off just getting on with it.

I disagreed with that as I don’t think a woman should have to just deal with it when there are treatments out there. Yes surgery is a major decision, I hope to god her breasts even out so it’s not needed, but I’m not going to rule it out just because the doctor seemed to think it wasn’t worth it she’s not the one with the odd sized breasts my daughter is.

I think maybe we’d be best waiting until she’s 18 then going back to the doctor and getting a referral. I wish there was a magic pill for her but for the next 2 years we’re just going to have to deal with it the best we can, I can see a shopping trip being wangled out of me in the not to distant future.

Thanks for that, I'll have a nose. I thought about googling but then wondered what search terms to use. I don't want porn popping up when I'm thinking of my daughter's breasts, that's just too freaky and would make my skin crawl I think

I found an american website with pictures of women with normal breasts - including women with lopsided breasts. Hope this helps your daughter.

https://www.007b.com/breast_gallery.php

Magnolia X

Magnolia, that's great. Thank you, will show daughter when she gets back.

She's gone to book the holiday, so that's a positive.

Hi Carob,

I could have been reading about myself! This happened to me at the same time as your daughter, the same cupsize different as your daughter.

I went to my GP too at her age, who advised me to wait a while to see if they catch up with eachother. They didn't and I went to a specialist at a hospital who told me that they wouldn't ever be the same, and that it's called breast hypoplasia. He referred me to a nurse who fitted me with a prothesis to wear in my bra. I had to wait for a couple of years until I stopped growing and then I had plastic surgery on the NHS to correct it- there are two options I believe- either a breast implant to bring the A cup up to a C cup (this is what I had) or breast reduction surgery to take the C cup down to an A cup.

I'm now 4 years on from the surgery and it's made a huge difference to my self confidence. When I was your daughter's age I found it very difficult and upsetting, and I wished I had someone with the same problem as me to talk to, so if you want to PM me I'd be happy to help in anyway even if she just wants to email and ask questions.

Hope I haven't said too much.

K x

Just thoought I'd mention, I just noticed mine were different sizes when I was shopping at the weekend! One is more a DD and the other probably an F, it's not really noticable though, they seem to even out ok with an E cup! I'm 31, so I doubt they're gooing anywhere fast lol!

Carob, Not sure if you're still around today or not, but just wanted to say I had the exact same problem at her age although I kept it to myself, until at the age of about 23 my mum noticed and she convinced me to visit the doctor. The result was I had breast augmentation to correct the problem, and have since had a second op for other reasons. Feel free to PM me with any questions as I can totally relate to what you're daughter is going through.

It's similar for me. I recently bought a plunge bra for the first time (I've never been able to find one bigger than D cup before) in my usual DD. When I tried it on, I realised it was perfect on one side, and not the other. So I took it back and got an E cup - it's OK, but I reckon I could still go bigger. I'd never noticed before with 'standard' bras ?