Different Counties?

Hello and welcome.

I can't offer any advice...sorry haven't a clue.....just wanted to say and welcome to hitched!

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Hi and welcome!

I don't really know either, also just wanted to say hi......

Hi & welcome to Hitched :-) Dont really know much about your venue question so not i would say its not a stupid question!!! :-) I know you said "venue" so this i persume could mean anywhere, eg hotel, castle etc etc and im sure places like that it doesnt matter which county your from, but a church wedding im sure you have to belong to that parish... i vaguely remember something my sister said a few back when she got married. Im sure my comment hasnt helpd you in anyway what so ever so i will just shut up and watch this post as im sure somebody on Hitched will be able to answer :-) Again welcome, im sure you get LOADS of useful info from here. When are you planning on getting married? Nic x

We're getting married August 2012. We're looking at loads of different types of venues at the moment, just trying to work out what kind of place we're looking for. I've found a great place in Surrey but we live and Hertfordshiire and have no idea if there's a cost for marrying in different counties so we're not sure how far out we're able to really look at!

Thanks to everyone for your messages and hopefully someone will know if there is a cost or not. And thanks Nicola for your message, you've made me feel very welcomed ?

Oh COUNTIES! I read countries! doh!!!! ('to all those who know me - notice the correct spelling of 'doh'!)

I think it costs the same - you have to give notice where you live - to your council, then the rest is as usual, If I'm understanding your question at all now....

Thanks 22tango! Hopefully it won't cost anymore then if I was getting married in the same county I live in. I just can't seem to find any information online about it.

As far as I know - the costs are giving notice (which you do where you live, and can have the wedding anywhere - we are getting married in Richmond, but don't live there, so gave notice where we live) and the other costs will be the local registrar. that should be it.

Thanks very much that's helped alot

Hi and welcome to Hitched! Not sure about charges for different counties but just wanted to say Hi! You'll get lots of help and advice on here.

Hello there Newbie ?

I think I can help you with this one. I live in one county, H2B in another and getting married in another different one !!!

If you're not getting married in a church (not sure how it works for church), you give notice of marriage to your local council. This cost us £30 each and book with the registrar in the county you want to get married in. When it gets nearer the time, you both go together to the registrar in the county you are getting married in to check the details and confirm that the wedding is still going ahead. It is then that you pay the registrar's fees. Now this is what varies in the counties, it also varies on the day that you get married. They advise that you provisionally book your registrar before you book the venue. I personally didn't do this, I booked reg after booked venue.

Oonce you have provisionally booked reg, they ask you your wedding date and will hold the booking for one month after. For example, if you wanted to get married on 23 June 2012, they would provisionally reserve the date till 23 July 2012. You can only give notice from one year in advance, so not sure if you will be able to book this yet.

Hope this makes sense and don't hesitate to ask ANY questions on here, someone will always answer. Enjoy ?

Thanks sdwrds, that's helped alot. I can look around different counties without having to worry about the cost!

And it's nice to feel so welcomed by everyone. I have a lot of questions because I have no idea where to start with planning a wedding so expect several new topics from me soon ?

Welcome to Hitched ?

22Tango - I noticed! Although I will forever read that as dough now! ? I have visions of dough balls being thrown at Hitched brides all over the country! Saying that, if they were garlic dough balls I'd love it ?

As someone said not if it's a civil ceremony. We live in London and marrying in Essex. Will be £60 for us both to give notice in London then the registrars' fees in Essex are circa £300. Would pay that whether we lived in Essex or not.

Don't forget to add in the costs of travelling to the area you are getting married in to check out suppliers and stuff!

If it's a church wedding then it usually cost more to get married outside of your parish - each church has it's own costs.

As does each registrar. You may find the registrar in your desired county is more expensive, or cheaper, than in your home county.

We were living in London when we got married, but the ceremony was in Yorkshire. The £30 notice fee (each) remains the same wherever you are. You give notice in your home county and once you receive the certificate saying you're allowed to get married, you are responsible for giving that to the registrar where you are marrying. The registrar's fees differ from county to county and from city to city within counties. We paid £273.

You do NOT have to have a face to face meeting with the registrar where you are marrying, as someone above thought. We didn't meet our registrar until the afternoon of the wedding. We did have to speak to her on the phone though so that we could tell her which version of the vows we wanted to use, to go through the readings and songs we wanted (you can't have religious wording - what is and isn't allowed differs depending on the registrar - we weren't allowed to use 'God Only Knows' by The Beach Boys and a friend in a neighbouring area wasn't allowed 'Angels' by Robbie Williams) and she also wanted to know who would be giving me away.

If I can help with anything, just give me a shout. I'm an old hand at arranging a wedding at a distance! ?

Thanks very much Melancholie! I may very well take you up on that offer of asking stuff about planning a wedding at some distance! Hope you won't mind too much!

I'm having a face to face meet with my registrar a month before the wedding.

I thought this was the common practice as I spoke to the registrar himself who told me this. His exact words were "I will get you in the month before the wedding so we can meet each other and discuss any readings, etc and pay the fees"

It obviously varies then, as this is the info I was given

Yep, I think the same as Mel, so I guess it does depend on how different registrars do things.

We recently sent through the vows, the readings, the music choice, the licence (from our home district which we got after giving notice), the fees, and don't expect to hear from them until the day as we receive a receipt from them for the fees in the post.

I never said you wouldn't meet the registrar. I said you don't have to. It's a practicality thing.

We couldn't meet our registrar beforehand. We lived 220 miles away, so no chance of popping in during our lunch break or after work, and they don't do these meetings at weekends because they're doing weddings! If you live in the area you're marrying in, or a neighbouring area, then I'm sure they would meet you, but in some cases it's just not possible.

Our phone meeting with our registrar was actually at 9pm and she called us from her home as we couldn't match up our diaries any other way. We paid the fees over the phone by debit card the day after the phone meeting, speaking to a secretary rather than paying the registrar direct.

Hi there,

If you want to get married in a Church, you are only entitled to marry in the Parish in which you live/your parents live/you were christened. If you want to get married in any other church, this would be entirely at the discretion of the priest in charge of that church since they (and you!) will have a lot more paperwork to do.

Whichever Church you choose, they will have their own fee structure. Most charge around the £350.00 mark for use of the church, there would then be extra costs for the organist, choir etc at their discretion. I do know of churches that charge extra if you want the heating to be turned on for the day (October to March of course - not generally over the summer).

People are often surprised that churches charge at all, much less what they charge but the truth is that an old building like a church has MUCH higher maintenance costs than most secular venues - not to mention paying the priest, the parish share (like a tax to the Diocese that the church belongs to) and standard bills like heating and lighting.

If you have any questions about church, or civil weddings, let me know.

We will be having a civil wedding so from what I can gather from what everyone is saying is that each county has a different charge for getting married but I don't have to pay additional amounts just because we would be marrying in a different county to our own...

Is that correct ?