Ditch or Keep? Advice needed please, other than my mothers!

Spend your money on what is important to you.

For your Mum, a brand new expensive dress is top priority. You aren't your Mum and you have a great bargain. What is more important to you? Spend your money on that instead and just ignore your Mum on this. Don't tell anyone else about the cost: it's none of their business anyway!

Dresses for one day aren't important to me at all so I've spent relatively little on my and BMs' frocks, but live entertainmnet and a free bar is important to us so we've splashed on that!

You should be chuffed you got yourself an absolute bargain ! Keep it and be proud!

She isn't wearing it, so its nothing to do with her xx

You said this is your IDEAL dress. How much you paid for it is irrelevant. why would spending loads of money on another dress be better? Stick to your guns. You'll soon find the costs mounting up - be pleased that you've made a saving here so you have some extra cash for all the things you've forgotten about crop up.

And I don't mean to be rude... BUT... tell your mother to pull her head in.

I think you shoul keep the dress and be happy that you got the dress you wanted at such a amazing price, you don't have to tell anyone you got it reduced if you don't want to! I think it's a shame your mum has reacted in that way! My dress was reduced from 200 so I am a real bargin basement bride! ?

Keep it! My mum had a go at me for having my dress made by a dressmaker I found online, and made me doubt my instincts - not good. If you love the dress, don't worry about how cheap it was or where it came from.

You tell your mum that you'll thank her not to make you feel bad about a decision you were really happy about, and you wear your dress with pride.

Definately keep the dress!! what a bargain!! and if its the right dress for you then fate! :-)

If you want to keep her happy, you could always tell her a white lie and say you went for a new one from a bridal shop but personally i would tell her (if it was my mum) to get a grip! the price of a dress does not make it a prettier or uglier dress and who's going to know? i'm pretty sure you wouldn't want to walk down the aisle with price tag hanging out the back anyway! :-/

hope you don't think i was being too harsh then, i can't think how to word it any differantly lol

xxx

Have you tried it on and do you love it on you? If so - keep!

And tell your mum to kindly do one ?

Exactly what everyone else has said, just because it has been moved to "outlet" doesn't downgrade the dress, it's your dream dress, If I knew I could get my dream dress the way you did, I would do it without hesitation, and Congratulations on bagging such a bargain.

This!! It really doesn't matter what it costs, it's how you feel about it that counts. If you love it, then keep it!

Thanks ladies, really appreciate your help. I think I will stick to my guns, and if my mum makes anymore comments, I may just have a bridezilla moment and tell her to shut up !!

I'm looking at an outlet purely because I think they're great value and do stunning dresses!!! Who cares how much it costs if you love it and are happy with it!! Don't let your mum ruin a perfectly good thing here, stick to your guns! Well done you on finding a bargain anyway!

Oh my god, it's gorgeous! Absolutely keep it, and be proud! Tell your mum it means you have money to spend on other nice things, like feeding her!

To echo everybody else...KEEP IT!

If it's your ideal dress and you absolutely love it, surely it's better to spend £199 on it and have the other £1000 to put towards other things. Nobody needs to know how much you paid for your dress. At the end of the day it is still the same dress whether you spend £1200 or £199!

Your dress is gorgeous, and remember it's yours not your mothers ?

Keep it! Once your Mum sees you in it, she will understand why you bought it, and she will see how much you love it.

Good on your for your bargain! Loads of others will be super jealous at this great find! x

Your mum should be proud you know the value of money and you know your wants enough to find such a bargain dress. My mum loved scoring the sale rails with me!

Not a mistake, there is nothing wrong with an outlet gown at all. My first wedding dress was a shop second from Ebay, cost next to nothing, local seamstress fixed it up. This time I am having a Pagan handfasting dress from Ebay which cost about 1/10 of what a wedding dress would, but it is the dress I want and I love it.

If I were you I would be so pleased that I have got the dress I want at a great price, and saved hundreds of pounds that you can now use elsewhere in the planning.

If you love the dress... then keep it! That is an absolute bargain if it is THE dress. Sod her... you'll be laughing when you can spend that 1k elsewhere on your special day xx

Thanks once again ladies, you have all really lifted my mood! I tried it on once again, and it's the ONE. Going to put that 1k I saved towards lots of other things, and making sure my guests have a fab time! I am keeping zipped about the price from now on, my little secret

Definitely keep it. I would be over the moon to find a dress I love for that price x

Ignore her.

I ended up buying a Maggie Sottero and because it was a new design there's no chance that I could buy it from an outlet. If it was possible I definitely would without even having to think about it.

The only thing that matters is that it's the dress you love and a bargain makes it even better!

I think mothers just tend to get involved - I'm going to Vietnam to get my wedding dress made along with bridesmaids, ties for all the men and wedding rings. My mum told me it didn't work out cheaper etc but I get a holiday with my bridesmaids and all the costly stuff for less then 1.5K (and that includes flights!) as well as decorations - silk laterns for about 50p each.

It's your day and it's great that you have found something you love without spending a fortune!

Keep it!

Good for you for finding such a bargain

X

Your mum's reaction reminds me of the saying 'Some people know the price of everything and the value of nothing.' The price put on it should be how happy you feel when you wear it and how chuffed you are for saving that money for other aspects of your wedding - it's a great find and you will look lovely.

Wow, that dress is AMAZING! Who cares what it cost, you'll feel like a million dollars on the day

Could not agree more with other posters! If you love the dress it doesn't matter what you paid!

Tell your mum not to make any more comments about it and to wait until she sees you in it! As soon as she sees you she'll see how beautiful you look and it won't matter where you got it from and how much you spent!

I also got my Maggie Sottero dress in the sale (although not quite as good a bargain as yours!) with very minor damage (one of the eyelets on the buttons needed mending, so really minor) and I don't care! I saved hundreds to get the exact same dress that would've looked exactly the same ordered in new!

Ok. Just to put things into perspective. It's still a designer dress. It was reduced, then reduced again. IT'S A FREAKIN' DESIGNER DRESS!!!!!!!!! WHAT A BLOODY BARGAIN!!!!!! As a fellow bargain hunter, let me tell you I'm proud of you for finding such a bargain!!! 9 times out of 10 you need to get a seamstress involved in your dress purchase anyway to make it a perfect fit, what's the difference?! It looks gorgeous hun, it's still the exact same dress, whether you spent £1200 or £199, I know what I'd rather pay!!!

Ok. Just to put things into perspective. It's still a designer dress. It was reduced, then reduced again. IT'S A FREAKIN' DESIGNER DRESS!!!!!!!!! WHAT A BLOODY BARGAIN!!!!!! As a fellow bargain hunter, let me tell you I'm proud of you for finding such a bargain!!! 9 times out of 10 you need to get a seamstress involved in your dress purchase anyway to make it a perfect fit, what's the difference?! It looks gorgeous hun, it's still the exact same dress, whether you spent £1200 or £199, I know what I'd rather pay!!!

Just tell her you bought the exact same dress full price from an amazing bridal shop. Then go ahead and do your own thing with the outlet one. Ruddy amazing deal if you ask me £199! So jealous. X