Division of domestic labour

H will do things if i ask him to, i.e get the washing in the machine / take it out. He washes up once a week (yes..once a week) and i do everything else.

He cleans the en suite and i clean the main bathroom.

He doesnt cook. He will soemtimes cook on a special occasion i.e. Valentines day...but i do it all the time,

Sometimes he will hoover.

The division of labour is practically non-existent!

We both work full time. Me 9-5, him shifts.

I do most things but I'm also pretty lazy. I hate housework. I know how I'd like our house to look but it never does.

I do all the cooking. H will often stack the dishwasher. He also takes the bins out and reads the meters.

I do most other cleaning, washing etc.

I would LOVE a cleaner.

I would say that we are split equally (ish).

Hubby cooks each night during the week (more often than not home before me), he washes and wipes around and i wipe and put away dishes.

He will put washing on and take out and put to dry but mostly i do this.

I polish/hoover/mop and sometimes while im polishing, he will get the vac out and start.

I remember and buy all the birthday/anniversary cards presents etc. We both shop together and i would say i was the most organised out of the both of us.

Saturday and Sunday im in charge of the cooking :-)

Boy does way more than me but that is because he is way fussier than me.

He pretty much does all the cleaning, other than dishes and putting the washing on, although he is in charge of rotating the loads on the line/tumble/rads! It stems from him not having had a job for a very long time, and now he works 30 hours a work so still does most stuff.

I cook, as I am a control freak with food, and he cant cook anyway, we'd live off soup!

Like the OP, I also deal with anything like booking hols, car insurance etc and I have control of the money, which he doesnt mind as he knows he's useless. He gives all of his to me, bar his 'man money' and I decide what goes to the house/savings etc.

It suits us!

Also this ^^^ he's a neat freak, and I dont mind a bit of a 'lived in look!'

Same boy, mine is a Jay

"Man money"... love it haha! I'm guessing this can only be spent on beer, footie and kebabs ?

I'm interested to know whether people consider the "organisation" of a household to also be domestic labour, on top of the physical cooking/cleaning/washing?

No. If I did it, yes. But he does it, so no. Although I do birthdays and organising holidays and stuff, but he does the bills and so on.

Thank you for your honesty Footlong! ?

Actually not! Doesnt drink, and only watches footie on TV, more like chocolate, sweets, tools and stuff for the garden from the £ shop!

I dont consider bills etc to be labour...our bills are all by DD so theres not a lot to do. although H doesnt read letters when he gets them I have to check them so maybe i do more than i thought.

Reading this is making me think i'm letting him get away with far too much.

That's where he goes at weekends...................lol

We both work the same hours (full time) and we're both members of various organisations and committees, both work related and social, which take up a lot of our time outside of work.

We've had a cleaner for just over a year now and the amount of arguing we did and my stress levels have gone down hugely! She comes weekly, so I rarely do any cleaning myself, unless people are coming over. I tidy around myself, whereas he leaves things all over the place.

I do all the organising stuff like MrsJ mentioned - book holidays, remember birthdays, buy birthday presents, pay the bills, organise bank accounts.

I do all the washing and ironing, putting clothes away, going to the dry cleaners. We have a dishwasher, but I load and unload it. I do all the food shopping and deciding what we have to eat in the evenings, although he'll offer to cook at least once a week so that I can get on with ironing etc. I do have to get all the ingredients out for him though!

I also put out the bins, which I consider to be a man's job.

We have argued about it in the past, because as you'll see from above, other than a bit of cooking, he does absolutely nothing in the house. That was the way it was in his house growing up, but he forgets that his mother didn't also have a full time job.

We both work full time but because I work shorter hours I tend to do a lot of the chores myself. OH will hoover on the weekend if I remind him, and he takes out the bins. If I have cooked (which is most of the time) he washes up. He thinks it is split equally, but he doesn't know half of what I do! I do all the main cleaning, washing, tidying, bathrooms and kitchen as well as sorting out the cats. He doesn't see this because he isn't it, so I think he doesn't believe it and thinks our house is self-cleaning! He hates doing any housework and every time he hoovers he grumbles that we should get a cleaner ?

This. When I've done it before he always winges so I'm on strike.

I do most of the washing though - you cant mess that up.

Oh you can! My OH thinks its perfectly acceptable to chuck it all in together - no dear I dont want pink socks!!!

I do all the laundry, cleaning (except for the washing up which is fairly equal), and the vast majority of the cooking. H puts the bins out, mows the lawn, and does almost all of the DIY. Generally if he's being productive so am I, and vice versa, with the exception of while I'm cooking he'll sometimes play on the xbox. I don't really mind cooking though, so it's all good, plus if he tries to help he does tend to get in the way.

When not pregnant, I do the vast majority of housework stuff because I'm a stay at home mum and he works full time. He does the gross stuff like taking the rubbish out though, and he insists on emptying/loading the dishwasher because I "do it wrong". He's been doing loads around the house while pregnancy has made me feel rubbish though (I sometimes have to follow and do it properly after ? ). We don't really have a conscious system tbh. He is gradually learning to NEVER make a mess in a room I've just cleaned. He made a passing joke about the dishes last night, resulting in me having a ten minute hormonal RAGE at him about the mess he always, always, always leaves behind just moments after I've scrubbed the whole damn kitchen from top to bottom <and breathe>

He works and I dont so most of the time I do nearly everything, including making his packed lunches for work. He does the dishes and taking the bins out, thats it. My Mum comes and helps me out when I'm poorly quite a lot though. At weekends H will hoover if asked, he doesn't know how to turn the washing machine on, has never cleaned the bathrooms etc. When we both worked I still dod most things as he is rubbish at cleaning and I can just do it better although he did offer.

I work part time - 3 days a week - and H works full time. I do most of the cleaning, ironing, washing etc. I organise the food shopping but H often does the supermarket run. He shares the cooking with me. He's a born organiser so he pays all the bills and does things like the insurance.

I do the gardening except for mowing the lawn and also a fair chunk of the DIY.

We split remembering birthdays and stuff like that.

My advice to amyone who lives with someone who doesn't pull their weight around the house would be to resolve it before kids otherwise you end up with a load more domestic chores and it can breed resentment.

I do the organising for birthdays, holidays and Oh does the business organising (reminds me to pay my cc bill and tax return)

Oh tends to tidy more than I do but won't clean whereas I do the hoovering, dusting, washing the floors and cooking but leave my handbag and shoes about the place.

My H is like this too. I always say 'If you want things done the way you like them then you can do it yourself, otherwise keep quiet.' He is the only person I have ever met who thinks its necessary to polish the bathroom taps.

We both work full-time - I work 40hrs a week plus I'm doing a full-time open uni course, while H works between 40-70 hours a week so there's not a huge amount of time left for housework but...

bathroom gets cleaned once a week, which we take it in turns to do. The majority of the cooking, dusting, laundry, paying bills and loading/unloading the dishwasher is done by me. H does the majority of the hoovering and big jobs like cleaning the fridge and oven. Whoever does the cooking that day cleans the kitchen. I also make H's lunch for him most days.

I don't think H realises how much I do around the house. I have to regularly drill it into him that my degree is real work and takes up a lot of my spare time. Before we had the dishwasher he seriously thought that the washing up only had to be done once a day ?.

OH works outside of the home (very often away) and I work from home. We both work full time but I do pretty much everything.

- cleaning

- arranging holidays

- shopping

- remembering birthdays etc

- gardening

- housework

- childcare

- dog care

- DIY

Split pretty evenly here although we do have a cleaner which prevents lots of stress/boredom. I'm definitely in charge of Organising Stuff though (holidays, birthdays, social events etc). He's still not sorted out our camera from our honeymoon yet which is annoying me.

He tends to do most of the financial stuff and the bins. I'm in charge of cushions.

Clearly a blue job!

MrMinis responsibilities include, cleaning and feeding the pets, any form of gardening, car cleaning and cleaning the fridge/oven

Mine are everything else. Especially dusting, bed changing and decoration ideas.

I definitely do more than he does, but we're both pretty bad and our house is often unpresentable.

I always clean the bathroom and kitchen, do all the pots + pans washing up, change the hamsters' bedding and change our own bed. I do the lion's share of dishwasher loading/emptying, clothes washing (though he doesn't do it right so I don't mind this), ironing, taking out bins/recycling and hoovering. We probably split cooking fairly equally, he does some of his own ironing and he will occasionally go on a massive tidying blitz, but that happens once in a blue moon so I have to deal with the chaos in between. Currently we do most of our weekly shopping online with Ocado, and pick up extra bits and pieces on the way home from work if needed.

We both do "organisey" stuff - he likes planning trips and nights out etc, but I still try to get some input. I have taken most of the responsibility for bills etc but they're mostly DD so it's not that much work.

Planning on getting a cleaner soon, I think that will help a lot.

H cooks the evening meal twice a week - always with lots of mess and utensals used. He sometimes will do a load of washing for me or put washing away, but this is perhaps once every three weeks or so when we do at least three loads of washing a fortnight. Sometimes he will empty the dishwasher - perhaps once a fortnight. I do everything else (housework, food shopping, cooking) including the garden and the bins which I hate. (the bins that is) I also pay the paper bill, check the joint account, move money around etc.

I do far more than he does. Actually this is something we willl be discussing in a few days (we have family staying at the mo so no domestics straight away!) as I quietly lost it yesterday evening! I have been really busy these last few weeks as I started a new job, so had lots to do to tie loose ends at my old place and lots to do to start at my new. Hence very little housework has been done. I was out last night, he was in, but he went away for the weekend this morning. I asked him to vacuum and mop the kitchen floor last night. When I got in he had done nothing and to make it worse he hadn't even put his dinner plates and pans etc in the half empty dishwasher but left them on the side.

We will be having a discussion about how to share chores more evenly!

A great big DITTO to this one. Plus OH works from home and fits jobs in in between conference calls and stuff,,,,,,

I'm a SAHM, and do most things around the house. H cooks for me and him, and I cook for my kids, as they eat while H is still at work.

H washes up, but I do everything else, and organise the household. I have to remind when things need paying, he's useless.

I'm very OCD about cleaning my house. I don't trust H to do it to my standards, so I prefer to do it all myself, even though he does offer.

H does all the cooking as I'm a dreadful cook (I can't even boil an egg), but I do the washing up - although I keep dropping hints for a dishwasher as the fairy liquid is playing havoc with my skin.

As I now work part-time, I do all the clothes washing, hoovering, food shopping (Saturdays) and general tidying up. H deals with any DIY which occurs (like fitting new hall lights, putting up pictures etc). I also feed and walk the dogs. I take the wheelie bins out (can only do when H has left for work as the car gets in teh way). H looks after the recycling bins, but I'm responsible for remembering which days they go out. H does the dusting as he thinks I'm not thorough enough. Nearly all our bills are DD, except for Credit Card bills, so they're taken care of.

We don't have a cleaner, but we'd like one. I'd like someone who would iron our clothes for us, as we both hate ironing. We do however have a window cleaner for the outside windows and a gardener as I'm phobic of slugs/snails and H is lazy.

I keep track of all birthdays and anniversaries with an Outlook Calendar dedicated to this purpose. I buy the cards and presents and arrange for them to be posted etc.

I do nearly everything around the house and deal with the organising of credit card payments, birthday presents, etc. H will occasionally do dishes, cook dinner or put washing on but I work less hours than him (especially now we've had them cut) so have more time. I also quite enjoy it.