Divorcees - a question if you will...

How long were you with your ex (including pre-marriage)? - Just over 4 years I think

How long did your marriage last? - 18 months

How long did you stay angry about it after? - Still am ?

How long did it take you to meet someone else? - Had a few flings, nothing really serious until I met Tantric Tony 6 months ago. He is the first 'relationship' I have had since I broke up with tosser

Do you think you will ever marry again? - No idea. IF I did I would bugger off and do it Vegas style. Wouldn't have another big white wedding.

We were together 3.5 years, married for 1.5 years when I left.

I wasn't angry, I left him.

I left because I wanted to be with someone else, amongst other things.

I did.

Edited to add that I was more or less single for eight years following the breakup, largely due initially to guilt and then to pickiness. I met Mr JK 8 years after I left my first husband.

How long were you with your ex (including pre-marriage)? 8 years

How long did your marriage last? 2.5 years til he moved out, had ended about a year before that really

How long did you stay angry about it after? I didn't

How long did it take you to meet someone else? About 14 months to meet my now husband, but started seeing other people fairly soon after ex moved out

Do you think you will ever marry again? Remarried in 2003 so 3 years after ex moved out.

How long with ex pre marriage - 8 years

Stayed married - 12 months

Still angry - not at all - but was my choice to leave

Meet somebody else - I left because I wanted to be with somebody else , amongst many many other reasons.

Marry again - absolutely am engaged to be married again.

How long were you with your ex (including pre-marriage)? - Four years.

How long did your marriage last? - Eleven months.

How long did you stay angry about it after? - I didn't, I was relieved I got out when I did.

How long did it take you to meet someone else? - I already knew him; he was a very old good friend, but nothing happened until after I had separated from my ex, but then it happened very quickly.

Do you think you will ever marry again? - I did. I have been very happily married for three years now.

How long were you with your ex (including pre-marriage)? About 10-11 years

How long did your marriage last? Just over a year and a half before it all fell apart. Although we were married for 3 due to the divorce taking so long.

How long did you stay angry about it after? I wasn't really angry more disappointed in the end. But I'd say about 6 months.

How long did it take you to meet someone else? Just over a year. Although we spent 3 months just chatting online and over the phone. It took a while to make the final leap of faith and meet as I was very scared of getting hurt again. But now we're together I wish I'd met him sooner.

Do you think you will ever marry again? I'm not so sure on this one. I think the prime mistake I made with the ex was getting married. But it's not something I will completly rule out.

Not actually divorced yey but...

How long were you with your ex (including pre-marriage)? 4 years

How long did your marriage last? 18 months until it fell apart; a further six until I left

How long did you stay angry about it after? I still am

How long did it take you to meet someone else? I already knew him as a friend; we got together more or less as soon as I left twatface

Do you think you will ever marry again? If I stay with my current partner, probably not; if I was with someone else for whom marriage was a big deal I'd consider it

How long were you with your ex (including pre-marriage)? - About 5yrs

How long did your marriage last? - 3.5yrs before splitting up will be about 5yrs by the time the divorce gets sorted I think.

How long did you stay angry about it after? - Not at all, was relieved it was over.

How long did it take you to meet someone else? - Still haven't really. Have been split up 1.5yrs almost. Been on a few dates and was seeing someone for a couple of months. Am finding it difficult to meet single and appropriate men to be honest, not least due to having 2 small children.

Do you think you will ever marry again? - Highly unlikely. I didn't want to get married the first time. I would only consider it in future if it was very important to my partner.

Thank you all for your kind replies. ?

Is everything ok ? backatcha

How long were you with your ex (including pre-marriage)?

6 years, split in 2000

How long did your marriage last?

2.5 years

How long did you stay angry about it after?

Gawd, this is hard to answer. About the break up - probably a year, although I was also very relieved. It had been a violent, abusive relationship and my ex had mental health problems. It's 8 years now and I am still angry that I experienced what I did in the relationship - but not angry with him. I'm not sure who I am angry with. I had never imagined that I would experience domestic abuse and it has been a profound shock that I am still experiencing TBH.

How long did it take you to meet someone else?

Not long ? We split in November 2000 and I started seeing H in Feb 2001. TBH we had known one another before that and it started as a bit of fun - a casual fling. It was absolutely what I needed at the time and the idea of a relationship would have scared me off. It took a year before we realised it was going places. We've now been together almost 8 years.

Do you think you will ever marry again?

I did - after H and I had been together 2.5 years. I'm very, very happy and couldn't have experienced two more opposite experiences of marriage if I had tried.

Oh no no no, everything is fine with WTP and I ? I was trying to understand the mindset - having never been divorced and having a mum who still had my dad over for Sunday lunch every week, it's hard for me to get where ex-Mrs-WTP's head is.

How long were you with your ex (including pre-marriage)? 18 years, I was 17 when we married and thought I knew what I was doing.

How long did your marriage last? We were legally married for 17 years, but had spent the last 2years in separate rooms with our own lives.

How long did you stay angry about it after? I didn't, our marriage gradually died a slow and at times painful death. The anger was beforehand. However my ex was very angry for a long time and still refuses to speak to me as he feels I gave up on our relationship.

How long did it take you to meet someone else? I met someone while I was still married.

Do you think you will ever marry again? Yes, and have now been married almost 5 years.

Phew that you are ok!!

Is ex Mrs WTP still a nightmare?

I am so glad I don't know where my ex H is. I am still rather bitter about everything and I am sure I would stalk him ? I would be the ex wife from hell and god help any new lady in his life ?

It took me a loooooooong time to get over him, I don't think I will ever be totally 'over' it. If we had kids I think I might of been as bad as ex Mrs WTP ?

I feel not dissimilar to Sparks. Although I am over him (I'd rather eat my own feet than go back to him!) I still feel extremely bitter about the way he behaved (and is still behaving, being an arse over the divorce proceedings). Basically I want him to have a horrible life and for bad things to happen to him, becasue I think that is what he deserves. ?

Same here - bas'tard, tossers, sh1t heads, w@nkers, fcuktards ?

Could be arranged...

Did you know a zebra's kick can kill a lion?

1st marriage...

How long were you with your ex (including pre-marriage)? 4 years

How long did your marriage last? 6 weeks

How long did you stay angry about it after? I didn't really

How long did it take you to meet someone else? I had an affair with my first love so not really applicable.

Do you think you will ever marry again? I did marry again.

2nd marriage...

How long were you with your ex (including pre-marriage)? Considering I had an affair with him since I was 13 yrs old errmmmm about 15 years on and off.

How long did your marriage last? Just over 3 years and then he left

How long did you stay angry about it after? In some ways I still am. But probably more at myself than at him, even though he has an affair and left me and then wouldnt take him back when he wanted to try again (for the umpteenth time).

How long did it take you to meet someone else? A few months - I wasn't looking, it happened by chance.

Do you think you will ever marry again? I will - 3rd time lucky - getting married next May.

How terrible does that all sound when written in black and white, it really wasn;t as easy as it probably reads though.

How long were you with your ex (including pre-marriage)? 6 years

How long did your marriage last? at 8 months we were miserable but we plodded on for 3 years

How long did you stay angry about it after? I wasn't angry, he was angry for probably about 6 months

How long did it take you to meet someone else? I left him for my now husband (but the marriage was foul a long time before that). Ex H started seeing someone a month or 2 afterwards and is now married to her.

Do you think you will ever marry again? Yes, we both did (and for ex H it seems to be 3rd time lucky as he seems genuinely happy at long last)

How long were you with your ex (including pre-marriage)? Nearly 10 years (1996 - 2005)

How long did your marriage last? 15 months (July 2004 - October 2005) - what a waste of a wedding!

How long did you stay angry about it after? Still get narked now (we divorced officially in Sept 06...then he got married to his new bird in Dec 06), but I think I got over it in May this year when I finally sold the 'joint' house and could properly move on. I'd always had to show a good side as the house sale would have been a nightmare. I still regret not being able to tell the f*cker how I really felt about him & the situation.

How long did it take you to meet someone else? 4 months (Oct 05 - Feb 06)

Do you think you will ever marry again? Yes we get married in Sept 09, It wasn't my fault that my first marriage finished, so I have never seen any reason not to move on with my life.

Sophie I want your ex to have a bad life and have bad things happen to him ?

Tahdah, I lost track of what happened with your house- did you shift it in the end?

(apologises if you've put that in your reply, I can't read it whilst replying!)

How long were you with your ex (including pre-marriage)? 15 years

How long did your marriage last? 13 years

How long did you stay angry about it after? A long time! He made the divorce impossibly difficult, he doesn't see our youngest despite living 5 mins away (no cards or phone calls), he owes me £400 and won't call me and I don't have his number. I'm not cross about the divorce, it's his behaviour and selfishness.

How long did it take you to meet someone else? A few casual relationships, then met oh 3 1/2 years ago

Do you think you will ever marry again? Yes! 13 June 2009 ?

Oh phew. Congrats!

How long were you with your ex (including pre-marriage)? 5 yrs

How long did your marriage last? about 18 months

How long did you stay angry about it after? I wasn't angry, I was sad, but then it was me who broke us up so maybe he was angry

How long did it take you to meet someone else? erm...I may have still been technically married

Do you think you will ever marry again? I have

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How long were you with your ex (including pre-marriage)? 5 years

How long did your marriage last? 18 months

How long did you stay angry about it after? Didn't really - I left him.

How long did it take you to meet someone else? Left him for someone else so pretty much straight away really

Do you think you will ever marry again? Yes, hope to get around to it soon!

On the other hand my OH's ex is a different story altogether. She is still (3 years later) angry, still devoting large amounts of her time and energy to being bitter, point scoring and using her son to get at him, faffing over contact etc. Consequently with all this time spent on that I can't see any likelihood of her meeting anyone else, and no sign of it as far as we know.

How long were you with your ex (including pre-marriage)? 2 years

How long did your marriage last? 10 months (moved out of our house on what would have been our 1st wedding anniversary)

How long did you stay angry about it after? A few months, I used to scream and shout in my druken stupor everytime I saw him out with HER, then one night I went out and saw him, wlaked right up to him and said calmly that I didn;t love him anymore. It was the last time I saw him around my area again, I guess he liked getting a raise out of me.

How long did it take you to meet someone else? A turned into a bit of slut for a while, but never really had a proper relationship, I then went celebrate for over a year until I met my now husband (it was around 2 years after the divorce)

Do you think you will ever marry again? Yes, been married to my second husband for over 11 years and I firmly believe that I've finally met my soul-mate.

9 years in total.

Married September 03, filed February 07.

I instigated it so never felt angry, just upset that he wouldn't make any attempt to stop it from happening. That feeling lasted about 6 months, then I moved on.

Met my new partner in December 07.

Yes, will definately marry again, have discussed this with new partner and I can honestly say that my ex husband was totally wrong for me. I thought I could "save" him from his drinking but realised I couldn't. We had nothing in common, whereas my new partner is well and truly the love of my life and my soul mate. I can't believe I am this happy after only 10 months and can't wait for us to start our lives together as man and wife. Being a divorcee has not made me bitter or angry which a lot of people envisage you to be after going through a divorce, it just made me more determined not to waste any more of my life.

Wiz xx

Yep finally sold it in May, after a good selection of offers & buyers which kept pulling out for no reason...I made a grand total of zilch (in fact I was probably about £10k out of pocket with the mortgage payments etc.) on the house but was just glad it was gone after 18+ months.

Thanks for remembering ?. Still living with FIL & looking to move out after christmas to the Hampton area...fingers crossed

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I must say it's interesting to see that although we'd all been with our ex's for a while before getting married it doesn't take long for the marriage to break down does it...I think about 18 months is the average. Why do we (in general) take so long to get married and then within months decide that it's not for us!

Just a musing really...